Extreme Breast Feeding ( until 7)

[Anonymous]

No sane person would advocate nursing an 8 year old. All animals wean their young fairly early. I'm pretty sure 8 year old puppies don't nurse nor would a mama dog even allow it.

Babies nurse primarily for nutrition. At some point, that nutrition comes from solid food. If you are nursing your child after the age of about two, you are doing it for yourself and not for your child. And you are likely preventing him from the natural process of growing and developing into a normal, healthy, more independent child. Babies breastfeed or drink from a bottle. Eight year old kids walk to the fridge and pour themselves a glass of milk.

[Anonymous]

Calling me a bitch doesn't offend me in the least, as I know my kids are doing fine - despite the fact that I introduced them to - GASP! - formula.

You, however, are very insecure for becoming so hostile on an anonymous forum. I especially like the fact that you felt the need to use the bold button.

Enjoy your day.

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Anonymous wrote:At 16 months, my kids were learning how to use utensils and to drink from a cup.

So yes, perhaps hugs would be more appropriate.

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Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

He's been using a cup and playing with utensils for 4 or 5 months now (he never took a bottle). So by your logic I should have stopped nursing when he was 11 or 12 months?

No thanks. We'll continue till he's ready to stop. Pretty sure it will be before he's 7.

My son started using a cup and utensils around 8 months. what should I have done in this instance, oh-all-knowing-one? Should I have weaned? What should I have used to replace my breastmilk? Formula? Or should I have just started pumping and using the sippy cup? Is that what you would have done?

What a bitch you are, PP. Mind your own business!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

There are scores of books posting schedules of age appropriate behaviors. Perhaps you need to get one if this concept seems so strange to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

There are scores of books posting schedules of age appropriate behaviors. Perhaps you need to get one if this concept seems so strange to you.

I have about a dozen (not quite a score, but I might if I hadn't given some away after reading them). None of them tell me my 16 month old son should not nurse and should be getting hugs in place of the breast.

According to the score of books I have read, though, he is fine with his "age apporpriate" behaviors. And all of his health care providers think it's great he is still breastfeeding, too.

[Anonymous]

- and, please, if you have a book that you could recommend that tells me I should give my son hugs instead of the breast at 16 months, please let me know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sane person would advocate nursing an 8 year old. All animals wean their young fairly early. I'm pretty sure 8 year old puppies don't nurse nor would a mama dog even allow it.

Babies nurse primarily for nutrition. At some point, that nutrition comes from solid food. If you are nursing your child after the age of about two, you are doing it for yourself and not for your child. And you are likely preventing him from the natural process of growing and developing into a normal, healthy, more independent child. Babies breastfeed or drink from a bottle. Eight year old kids walk to the fridge and pour themselves a glass of milk.

Stating that babies nurse primarily for nutrition is cutting out about 50% of nursing. Nutrition, comfort, bonding (which of course occurs in many other ways, don't get me wrong), etc.

Some research has been done into the "natural age of weaning" in humans relative to the animals you mention. http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.html

[Anonymous]

And also, you're just flat out wrong about after the age of two being about the mom. Perhaps speak for yourself rather than assuming you understand the mindsets of people who obviously think quite differently than you.

Now, mom nursing 8yo? Yeah. But 2? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter what your opinions are, people will do what they think best for their families. I'll put this 8 year old girl up against any of the mean-spirited women on here for healthy and well-adjusted. Maybe if your parents comfort nursed you a little bit when you were kids, you'd be nicer?

BTW, who are the women who think it is healthier for a seven year old to obsess about Justin Bieber than it is for them to nurse? I know that kids are growing up faster and faster, but do we really think that's normal? Healthy? I know a woman whose 5 year old swoons about Justin Bieber and says things about him that are WAY precocious, and not in a good way but in the kind of way that would worry me if I were her mother. It's called growing up too fast.

So maybe if we realized that a 7 year old talking about breastmilk tasting better than mango is LESS GROSS than a 5 year old who wants to "make out" with Justin Bieber, we'd start correct the societal harm done to our kids in letting them grow up into mini, adults so quickly.

I'm sorry, but parents who think it is "cute" when their little kids swoon over boys years older than them are creepier than this pair.

And once again, I can personally guarantee you I'll never be nursing til 7. But given the choice, I'll take that over what y'all seem to think is kosher, anyday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sane person would advocate nursing an 8 year old. All animals wean their young fairly early. I'm pretty sure 8 year old puppies don't nurse nor would a mama dog even allow it.

Babies nurse primarily for nutrition. At some point, that nutrition comes from solid food. If you are nursing your child after the age of about two, you are doing it for yourself and not for your child. And you are likely preventing him from the natural process of growing and developing into a normal, healthy, more independent child. Babies breastfeed or drink from a bottle. Eight year old kids walk to the fridge and pour themselves a glass of milk.

Uh...ok. So, I'll be expecting your kids to have their first litter at 1 year old, like most animals.

My kids, however, are human and will nurse until human weaning age, which is much, much later than other lower mammals'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No sane person would advocate nursing an 8 year old. All animals wean their young fairly early. I'm pretty sure 8 year old puppies don't nurse nor would a mama dog even allow it.

Babies nurse primarily for nutrition. At some point, that nutrition comes from solid food. If you are nursing your child after the age of about two, you are doing it for yourself and not for your child. And you are likely preventing him from the natural process of growing and developing into a normal, healthy, more independent child. Babies breastfeed or drink from a bottle. Eight year old kids walk to the fridge and pour themselves a glass of milk.

Orangutans wean at 4-7 years. So, there goes your theory.

[Anonymous]

A long nursing period, three to five years, is universal among those people who have not learned to substitute the mother with a cow or a goat.

[Anonymous]

Cow milk is for calves. I am a boy who was breast fed by the woman I was told was my mother until I was 11. I later found out she was my aunt. I grew up in a Nordic country. There were physical complications about it (the long BF) for both of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[
Why not show your child that a hug can be comforting - the meeting your needs part is that you want your body to be his source of comfort and not to grow out of that at an age where developmentally most kids will have started to find a number of ways to find comfort. This is part of what prepares them ass they grow up, developing new skills. Again it is the same issue if the child finds it comforting to sit in a highchair and have mom feed him small bites when he is 7. I find that equally age inappropriate developmentally as a way of seeking comfort. Or maybe he still likes mom to rock him to sleep with a bottle. Again he and mom may find this comforting but coping / comfort skills should grow and develop.

Please post your schedule of age appropriate behaviors.

Are you telling me that I should replace nursing with hugs at 16 months old?

I don't think 16 months qualifies as extreme breastfeeding in anyone's books.

Given you are unaware of child growth and development I encourage to speak to a professional who can give you tips on when ways you can help your child develop. When your child is seven they should not be doing the same things they are doing as infants.

[Anonymous]

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I don't think 16 months qualifies as extreme breastfeeding in anyone's books.

Given you are unaware of child growth and development I encourage to speak to a professional who can give you tips on when ways you can help your child develop. When your child is seven they should not be doing the same things they are doing as infants.

No one said it was extreme here but yes, in fact, someone DID say I should hugs would be more appropriate than nursing at this stage.

[Anonymous]

why does anyone care... just mind your own damn business and let others raise their children as they choose