Why don't DC women take a little time to spruce up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Yes it is possible. But the the quote is responding to a quote that implies you either put a great deal of emphasis into your appearance everytime you leave the house or you feel like crap about yourself. Everyone is different. I'm fine with people who want to dress up to go to the playground, but I'm not one of them. I don't care what I look like when I go to the grocery store, because my self confidence is totally unrelated to how strangers think I look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess. You're hair is coiffed, you wear red cardigans, boat shoes and gold jewelry. You love red or pink lipstick and white diamonds perfume. Amirite? Eh? Any women who wears anything else or who perhaps has a different style is just being lazy and letting her self go.

LOL. You can't spot 'em coming a mile away. You can also HEAR them a mile away, with their hideous twangy voices: Wha thaaaank yewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww....

It's painful.

[Anonymous]

oops i mean you CAN spot 'em

[Anonymous]

The thing that hasn't been addressed here is why OP even cares about what other women look like. Does it offend her aesthetic sensibilities? If everyone looked great how would the vain ones be able to organize their hierarchy?

[Anonymous]

The general consensus seems to be:

If you don't care about your looks, your husband will cheat on you.

If you do care about your looks, men will use you.

Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Yes it is possible. But the the quote is responding to a quote that implies you either put a great deal of emphasis into your appearance everytime you leave the house or you feel like crap about yourself. Everyone is different. I'm fine with people who want to dress up to go to the playground, but I'm not one of them. I don't care what I look like when I go to the grocery store, because my self confidence is totally unrelated to how strangers think I look.

There's a happy medium between "dressing up" to go to the playground or the grocery store and not looking like a total slob. From the responses here, it seems that a lot of people are missing that distinction.

[Anonymous]

What are you talking about? You must be out and about in the wrong places. My friends and I always spruce ourselves up even for things like answering the door or walking to the mailbox. You never know when you might see someone along the way. And, most importantly, I wouldn't want DH to cast me aside for someone who takes the time with her appearance. Wouldn't want that, noooooo sirrey. OP you are an idiot troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Yes it is possible. But the the quote is responding to a quote that implies you either put a great deal of emphasis into your appearance everytime you leave the house or you feel like crap about yourself. Everyone is different. I'm fine with people who want to dress up to go to the playground, but I'm not one of them. I don't care what I look like when I go to the grocery store, because my self confidence is totally unrelated to how strangers think I look.

There's a happy medium between "dressing up" to go to the playground or the grocery store and not looking like a total slob. From the responses here, it seems that a lot of people are missing that distinction.

Oops--meant to say "there's a happy medium between 'dressing up' to go to the playground or the grocery store and *looking* like a total slob."

[Anonymous]

Who gives a %^*&?? Let people do as they please and mind your own business, control freak.

[Anonymous]

I know the OP. She went to ole miss, was a cheerleader, got a husband knocked up early, got fat, but dresses nice with lots of makeup and calls US frumpy.

[Anonymous]

I don't have any damn time. Wake up at 6:15 AM daily five days a week, put out daughter's clothes, make lunch, get self dressed. Come home after working hard all day. Get daughter, make dinner, do homework.

Doesn't leave ANY Me time. But, I put on lipstick.

[Anonymous]

Now that I've had a baby, I think I try harder to look my best. I don't want to go out looking like a wreck so my hair is neat, my teeth are regularly whitened, I wear a bit of make-up just because I think part of being a responsible parent is having it all together. I wouldn't want my clients to think that I cannot manage because my appearance is sloppy. Also, it makes me feel great when I look good; I'm back in shape, my arms are super buff; I'm probably looking the best I ever have because I don't smoke anymore, so my skin glows; I don't go out on weeknights, so I'm actually better rested; I get regular manicures because it's my "me time;" I actually blow dry my hair now... I really enjoy how the responsibility of motherhood has also driven me to step up my self-maintenance routine.

[Anonymous]

I wear a bit of make-up just because I think part of being a responsible parent is having it all together.

Quoted for hilarity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now that I've had a baby, I think I try harder to look my best. I don't want to go out looking like a wreck so my hair is neat, my teeth are regularly whitened, I wear a bit of make-up just because I think part of being a responsible parent is having it all together. I wouldn't want my clients to think that I cannot manage because my appearance is sloppy. Also, it makes me feel great when I look good; I'm back in shape, my arms are super buff; I'm probably looking the best I ever have because I don't smoke anymore, so my skin glows; I don't go out on weeknights, so I'm actually better rested; I get regular manicures because it's my "me time;" I actually blow dry my hair now... I really enjoy how the responsibility of motherhood has also driven me to step up my self-maintenance routine.

This sounds about right to me.

[Anonymous]

I got up early this morning, feeling like I wanted to really spruce up. I didn't sleep well last night because my daughter has a cold. She's up squirming a lot and that keeps me up. So I woke up with bags under my eyes and thought, hey, a little extra time won't hurt to look good. I take extra care, really work on the make up, really do the hair. I'm feeling really good about my put-together look before getting DD up and leaving for work. DD has complete meltdown of unknown origins; it turns out she wants to cuddle in our rocking chair while eating breakfast. It's the only thing that calms her down this morning - she's never done that before, so that's what we do. DH leaves for work very early, so I'm on my own. We're rocking, we're rocking, she finally calms down and it's about time to go when I realize ..... she has snotted all over my shirt, it got all in my hair, and I have to quickly change, don't look so put together, my hair now looks like shit.
Does that answer your question OP? I don't look entirely put together this morning because I had to take care of my daughter and still get to work on time. I'm sorry I might look too worn out for your taste, but FU very much.