Why don't DC women take a little time to spruce up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend a great deal of time in France. The reason that women in DC don't get dolled up is that DC men only appreciate 16 year olds. French men? that's a different story. They love women of all ages, and just the way they look at you (even when you are over 40) is worth 10 lbs of makeup. The sexiness just shines out of you

You can tell yourself that if it makes you feel better. It's all the fault of our men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are you people? Do you really pride yourself on doing the absolute minimum before you leave the house in the morning? Why don't I know you in real life? Every woman I knows puts some effort into her appearance -- whether they prefer stylish clothes, flattering cuts, perfect make-up, the newest handbag, etc. Everyone I know values SOMETHING. It does not make you a better person to go out in the world looking terrible. Just like it does not make you a worse person if you decide to do so.

With all that said, OP, I think the fact you started this thread is ridiculous.

I completely agree with you!

[Anonymous]

about 8 weeks PP my husband wanted to do it just as much as he did before, even though I had a huge squishy still looked pregnant belly and was still 35 pounds heavier, didn't wear makeup and my hair was a WRECK. i already know he loves me no matter what i look like. i choose to get somewhat dolled up (i mean, i dont go overboard...never do my nails and make up is usually just mascara and eyeliner) but i do it all for me. but those little bits i do happen to make an effort to do, are important to me. i'm already pretty confident of what's in my head. I like to be well-rounded i guess.

[Anonymous]

"No reason for me to doll myself up, when the easiest thing to fake online is looks (and the hardest is brains)."
YES!

"OP, I hope you find some peace in who you are."
Double YES!

Though my first thought was "well, some people LIKE looking like men". Speaking of which, I have always wondered what my MIL and SILs are thinking. Some people look like they are trying to look like men?

[Anonymous]

OP, here are 1 of 2 responses you'll get for your trouble:

1) Women who take care of themselves and agree with your stance. They recognize that taking care of your appearance does not indicate arrogance or lack of intelligence. These women realize that when you feel good about yourself, you want that to be reflected outwardly.

2) Women who look like shit and have let themselves go. They rationalize their current condition, saying their husbands love them just as they are. Meanwhile, their husbands wait until their wives fall asleep and find the nearest porno to obsession over hot bodies. These women would have you believe that their husbands value their contribution to their family and could care less that their wives' asses have spread and that they're still wearing the spaghetti-stained shirt from the day before. These women also will call you vapid, conceited and a bitch. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their current physical appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here are 1 of 2 responses you'll get for your trouble:

1) Women who take care of themselves and agree with your stance. They recognize that taking care of your appearance does not indicate arrogance or lack of intelligence. These women realize that when you feel good about yourself, you want that to be reflected outwardly.

2) Women who look like shit and have let themselves go. They rationalize their current condition, saying their husbands love them just as they are. Meanwhile, their husbands wait until their wives fall asleep and find the nearest porno to obsession over hot bodies. These women would have you believe that their husbands value their contribution to their family and could care less that their wives' asses have spread and that they're still wearing the spaghetti-stained shirt from the day before. These women also will call you vapid, conceited and a bitch. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their current physical appearance.

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

[Anonymous]

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

[Anonymous]

I totally get what you are saying, OP. I've posted this pic of myself to show you that, yes, some DC women DO care. As you can see, I take a great deal of time and care with my appearance. My coral lipstick (coral is the new, hot, color this year); my jewel-toned eyeshadow (jewel tones, I'm sure you know, are IN) -- is subtly played through to my scarf. And, of course, my exquisite updo. I want you to know I would never show this amount of cleavage at this time of day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP, don't forget the third type of response:

3) Women like PP who feel inferior and dress to the nines to cover their insecurity, and then bash women who aren't superficial like them. Meanwhile, men use them and ditch them because they have nothing to offer but their looks, which are fading. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their lack of talent, intellect, and their lack of a loving spouse and family. They write arrogant posts on DCUM condemning others for being arrogant (but they lack the brainpower to recognize the irony).

00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Classic response, too. Sorry you're so insecure about yourself that you need to attack others. You're pretty ugly on the inside, so it makes sense that you are lashing out.

[Anonymous]

Geez - women love to put other women down - no matter what choices they make! You are too pretty, you are too ugly, etc. etc. It is amazing. We wonder why there is such a problem in our society with bullying and mean girls. It all starts at home and with the fine examples many of you ladies (I use the term loosely) are setting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Sorry folks, but this poster is correct. Yes, there are more important things in life than looks and yes, it's possible to look great with minimal make-up. We don't all need to look like southern belles to look good. But just because someone cares about their appearance doesn't make them insecure, stupid, superficial or unhappy. I have no doubts that my husband loves me even when I look like crap but is he happier when I put a little more care into my appearance--of course. Those who think otherwise are deluding themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:00:14 here. Classic response. Equating caring about one's appearance to "dressing to the nines" and a lack of talent, intellect, and a loving family. This person does not realize that IT IS possible to have a great career, a beautiful family and STILL care enough about your appearance to not look like shit. This type of woman complains that they don't have enough hours in the day to make an effort, so the women that do must be neglecting another area of their lives. It must really burn to know that there are women out there with great jobs and a supportive family..and all the while, they look good!

Sorry folks, but this poster is correct. Yes, there are more important things in life than looks and yes, it's possible to look great with minimal make-up. We don't all need to look like southern belles to look good. But just because someone cares about their appearance doesn't make them insecure, stupid, superficial or unhappy. I have no doubts that my husband loves me even when I look like crap but is he happier when I put a little more care into my appearance--of course. Those who think otherwise are deluding themselves.

I totally agree with both PPs. You can look decently put together without a lot of time and little makeup. I don't know what styles or colors are in but I do know what looks good on me and that's what I wear. I don't consider myself a bombshell and never have. I rarely wear makeup, never get manicures, pedicures or facials and I rarely get my hair done. But, I shower every day, brush my hair and put on clothes that are clean and that fit and I get frequent compliments from men and women alike. That's all it takes to look put together IMHO. I have the degrees, job and family. Not every woman who likes to look decent is being used and tossed by men. I've been happily married for a very long time.

[Anonymous]

PP here to add: my point is you can look feminine without spending lots of time and money and without looking like a model.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I am originally from Europe and first thing I noticed about DC is total lack of style or any interest in looking more or less presentable. I don't look like a painted doll myself, but I wear a little bit of make-up, good haircut and nicely fitting clothes. I don't shop frequently as I do work full time, have family and other responsibilities.

When we go to Europe, even my American husband notices that European women look sexy even in their 50's and 60's and most Americans stop trying as soon as they get a diamond ring on their finger and completely gave up when they have kids. Sad really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

2) Women who look like shit and have let themselves go. They rationalize their current condition, saying their husbands love them just as they are. Meanwhile, their husbands wait until their wives fall asleep and find the nearest porno to obsession over hot bodies. These women would have you believe that their husbands value their contribution to their family and could care less that their wives' asses have spread and that they're still wearing the spaghetti-stained shirt from the day before. These women also will call you vapid, conceited and a bitch. They are, inwardly, disappointed in their current physical appearance.

So agree with this - that's why they call DC "Hollywood for the ugly."