My dad calls every other day, sometimes every day

[Anonymous]

Get your dog a phone and give your dad that number

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get your dog a phone and give your dad that number

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's easy for people who don't have young kids to realize how precious time is, especially when you throw in work and the rest of life. I talk to my mom every night, but she is really respectful that I've had a full day of work and just gotten the kids down. I call her to share a few funny stories...we talk for a few minutes, done. Sometimes I'm like, it's been a rough day, just calling to say goodnight! and she gets it.

I email her during the day too (and see my parents pretty frequently, every 2-3 weeks).

OP my advice is to just say, dad, I've got so much going on. I always have time for you, but I am trying to better organize myself and my time.

Frame it that way - put limits on your conversations, etc.

Your poor mother. It must have been unbelievably difficult delivering a 12-yr old kid. She had you so she and your father know what it is to have young children and I am so sick of people using this excuse to not do so many things. Good lord, you even use this excuse for leaving grocery carts in the middle of a parking lot. I would NEVER say anything like what you suggest to my parents or anyone else. It is rude and definitely disrespectful of her parents.

You have nothing else going on in your own life to keep you from worrying about this anonymous person's mother? Man there are some sad people around her.

[Anonymous]

My dad calls me all the time too and it gets annoying so I understand. I see my dad on average once a week and feel a phone call once a week is enough. Today, he called me three times between 9:03 and 9:04 this morning. I was on my way into work after getting my toddler ready for daycare and dropping him off (always tough with a two-year old--very difficult drop-offs).

I find it inconsiderate. He simply does not ever consider what my day is really like. He has nothing to do so he has all the time in the world to call me several times a day to ask how I am feeling. This may sound mean and I know we need to appreciate our parents while they are around but they need to consider our schedules, too. My life is very busy with work and family. I am overwhelmed trying to hold things together--working while pregnant with a two-year old. I have been the sole bread-winner in my family for the past two years. I need my dad to leave me alone sometimes so I can live my life and take care of everything that needs to be done (always so much more than I can do).

Just for the record: I would NEVER call my grown children everyday, never mind multiple times a day. It is obsessive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad calls me all the time too and it gets annoying so I understand. I see my dad on average once a week and feel a phone call once a week is enough. Today, he called me three times between 9:03 and 9:04 this morning. I was on my way into work after getting my toddler ready for daycare and dropping him off (always tough with a two-year old--very difficult drop-offs).

I find it inconsiderate. He simply does not ever consider what my day is really like. He has nothing to do so he has all the time in the world to call me several times a day to ask how I am feeling. This may sound mean and I know we need to appreciate our parents while they are around but they need to consider our schedules, too. My life is very busy with work and family. I am overwhelmed trying to hold things together--working while pregnant with a two-year old. I have been the sole bread-winner in my family for the past two years. I need my dad to leave me alone sometimes so I can live my life and take care of everything that needs to be done (always so much more than I can do).

Just for the record: I would NEVER call my grown children everyday, never mind multiple times a day. It is obsessive.

yes you will

[Anonymous]

OP, I can really see both sides of this one. I had a great relationship with my mom and talked to her most every day. Sometimes it could be a bit annoying, but mostly it was good - I valued her opinion and liked to talk with her. She died when my oldest was 2yo, and so like other PPs I know how sad it is to lose that kind of a connection. Now that she's gone, I make a point to call my dad, who is great but we don't have the same relationship. It's more of a chore, because he looooves to talk and is super lonely. I try to follow the example of my younger brother, who hates the phone but is a devoted son, so he will plan on a short chunk of time to let my dad yammer on.

On the other side, myMIL has psychological problems and will call every number for her son and me until she reaches someone starting from when she wakes up. She's on the West Coast so the calls start at 11am-ish most days and cycle through multiple attempts of his work and cell phones, before she moves onto the house, my work, and my cell. It is beyond oppressive and has poisoned him toward her beyond the point of repair.

[Anonymous]

I wish my dad was still here to call and bug me. I'll trade you....

[Anonymous]

I've lost both my parents. You're so lucky. Someday you'll realize that.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the above 2 posters!!!!!!!!!
I feel sad for you.

[Anonymous]

OP, try to indulge him especially if he's not the overbearing type who tries to tell you how to live your life. He's probably just lonely and I find it endearing that a DAD would care that much to call his children everyday, men being the stereotypical standoffish type and all.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're just an ungratful daughter.