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My dad calls every other day, sometimes every day
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Anonymous
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I forgot how bad it was because I lived overseas for a few years (he didn't call since he couldn't figure out how to!).
He calls literally every other day, sometimes daily, just to chat. It's driving me crazy. I am away from home, my 1-year-old, husband, and dog 11 hours/day, am not even managing time to work out at the moment, and it is all I can do to mask my irritation every time the phone says "Dad". I usually pick up because who knows... it could be something important. Besides, he will just harass my mom (his ex-wife) if I don't speak to him for a few days to find out "what's wrong" with me. He's employed, works OT frequently even, and married. Yet he wants to talk ALL THE TIME. I don't even enjoy talking on the phone, so it's especially annoying. I don't think I am going to change him, so I just wanted to vent!!! |
Anonymous
| I talk to my mom 1-4 times a day, depends if anything is going on. Most conversations only last a couple minutes at most. She talks to all my siblings at least once a day. The majority of my friends talk to their parents once a day. We are in our late 20's/early 30's. |
Anonymous
| Maybe don't answer the phone every time he calls, and try to remember he won't be here forever. My dad died last year and I could give anything to have my phone say "Dad" when it rings. |
Anonymous
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I also talk to my mom every single day. And we live in different continents.
How awful of you! Our parents dedicate their lives to us and now you just want to turn your back to him? What an ungrateful daughter! |
Anonymous
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My mother passed away weeks after my daughter was born. I, too, would give anything for her to call and 'bug' me.
My father, however, called today and said, 'I hear you have a birthday - is it today?' (it is today). He's so estranged from me that he rarely calls and obviously isn't even sure when my birthday is. |
Anonymous
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OP here... I simply don't use the phone much, unless I have to, and I don't use it to chat with anyone at all. It's interesting you all talk to your moms, though, and not your dads. My mom and I exchange a couple emails a week and usually one, maybe two phone calls.
OP here... I simply don't use the phone much, unless I have to, and I don't use it to chat with anyone at all. It's interesting you all talk to your moms, though, and not your dads. My mom and I exchange a couple emails a week and usually one, maybe two phone calls. & hearing about how a basketball, or football, or baseball game I've never seen gets really old. The reason I DO answer is because I know someday he will be gone, but he simply does not (nor has he ever) had any sense of my time/life. Every time I visit home, he expects to be able to dictate my schedule (regardless of what I may have planned with my mom) The reason I DO answer is because I know someday he will be gone, but he simply does not (nor has he ever) had any sense of my time/life. Every time I visit home, he expects to be able to dictate my schedule (regardless of what I may have planned with my mom). I don't mind a call once or twice a week... but every day, it's just too much. |
Anonymous
| Sorry for the repeated writing, I was editing and copied, pasted, and posted too fast. |
Anonymous
| "Hey Dad, what's up? Uh huh, uh huh, that's great. Hey listen, this is a really bad time for me to chat, I'm right in the middle of [fill in the blank] but I really want to catch up, so I'll call you on [fill in the blank] when I have a good chunk of time to talk." |
Anonymous
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22:15 here
I am definitely not a phone person. My mom and sister are the only 2 people I talk to on the phone. I talk to my dad occasionally, but since my mom and dad are always togther (work together), its kindof the same thing. I talk to my mom just to check in, so she can make sure I am still alive. I talk to my dad about specific things, something happened at work, the kids did something, his favorite team won the game, etc. DH's parents are divorced but live locally. He probably talks to his dad on the phone 2-4 times a week and his mom 1-2 times a week. |
Anonymous
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I hate talking to people on the phone, except my parents. I can stay with my mother for a good hour on the phone, my father a few minutes about a specific subject.
The difference is that my parents make it all about me and my concerns! Apparently your father is a little more self-absorbed. Agree with him on scheduling a time once a week when you can talk. |
Anonymous
This is my exact relationship with my mom and my mom with my sisters. I thought we were the only ones. Haha! |
Anonymous
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You are too busy trying to be the best parent you can be, to talk to the person who tried his whole life to be the best parent he could be.
Imagine how you will feel when it is your turn and your kids are having babies. |
Anonymous
I think you hit the nail on the head. I will listen for a good ten minutes before I can tell him it's not a good time and that I need to call him back. When I was overseas, I always called once a week, prepared to have an hour-long conversation. Now I simply don't have the time for that every day. |
Anonymous
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I talk to my mother every day. The reason I don't talk to my father every day anymore is that he died several years ago.
Schedule time to talk to him. |
Anonymous
he was obviously kidding. |