How do you respond to open racism?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you need to learn how to be anti-racist. You are not an ally if you shut your ears off to every racist comment just because it's not directed at you or your immediate family.

https://www.npr.org/2020/08/24/905515398/not-racist-is-not-enough-putting-in-the-work-to-be-anti-racist

I don’t need to be anti anything. I also don’t want your bs. I’m Latina (Mexican) and please just stop. Live your life. Yes, don’t be racist because that’s a normal thing but don’t let anyone tell you how you need to act. What a bizarre level of control.

Calling people out on their racism isn't control.

No, but telling us that we aren’t doing enough unless we do x y, or z is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Ok ive experienced this (one neighborhood mom said a whole bunch of openly racist in front of me) and I handled it by never befriending her, referring to her as "racist mom" to my husband and sharing her words with lots of other neighbors. Probably not the best but that's what i ended up doing.

[Anonymous]

when someone starts the sentence with that phrase, thats when I call it out, full stop! Tell them not to go any further.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said “this is going to sound racist” and then went on to say an incredibly racist thing. It wasn’t about my ethnicity but about my husband’s. I knew she was maga so I’ve always kept it surface level with her but it was still so shocking to me.

Eh. I'm white with a black husband (and obviously biracial kids). It would really depend on what she said. You'd be shocked at the number of people over the years that have asked if the rumor about black men being well endowed is true. That's clearly a racist question, but I haven't flipped out over it every time.

You Eh, racism? Hope you don't have kids, you're one of those Moms. I can't imagine knowing that many people who would ask that question - may be you, ma'am.

Well apparently you can't read either.

Zero percent chance your husband is black. Zero. Just looking for something snotty to say to someone you don't know about something you know nothing about. So dumb.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Like what? You don't look Latina is pretty different than I don't associate with black people.

“Latina” is highly offensive. Do better.

The correct term is Latinx.

Allying is just used by white people. Latinos generally don’t like it.

You sound dim. It is not offensive at all. Latinx on the other hand....https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/many-latinos-say-latinx-offends-or-bothers-them-here-s-ncna1285916

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said “this is going to sound racist” and then went on to say an incredibly racist thing. It wasn’t about my ethnicity but about my husband’s. I knew she was maga so I’ve always kept it surface level with her but it was still so shocking to me.

Eh. I'm white with a black husband (and obviously biracial kids). It would really depend on what she said. You'd be shocked at the number of people over the years that have asked if the rumor about black men being well endowed is true. That's clearly a racist question, but I haven't flipped out over it every time.

It's a stereotype moreso than racist.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Like what? You don't look Latina is pretty different than I don't associate with black people.

“Latina” is highly offensive. Do better.

The correct term is Latinx.

Allying is just used by white people. Latinos generally don’t like it.

Stop using “Latinos” !!

It’s Latinx people!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here replying with what actually happened since people seek to think it matters so much as far as my response:

We were casually chatting at a school event. The school, which is a private school and heavily Hispanic in population, had some work done on the grounds which wasn’t done all that well. She said “this is going to sound racist but it looks like something Mexicans would do.” I told her that was offensive and walked away upset. She texted an apology and said what she said was in bad taste and inferred it wasn’t a good joke.

My spouse is Latino.

Thanks for adding context. Yup, sounds racist to me. She is also stupid. Some of the most highly skilled and hard working people I have worked with have been been “Mexicans”.

Mexicans isn't a race. It's a nationality.

Is your husband Mexican, OP? If not, how does he feel with you lumping him in with other Latino people?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Like what? You don't look Latina is pretty different than I don't associate with black people.

“Latina” is highly offensive. Do better.

The correct term is Latinx.

Allying is just used by white people. Latinos generally don’t like it.

Stop using “Latinos” !!

It’s Latinx people!

Go back to 2022, its day is over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assuming that's what was really said, this is a tough one. You say the school is heavily Latino. Latinos do in fact joke around like that.

Op. She and I are both white. She has actively chosen to send her kids to this school. You think she’d have some respect for the community she’s chosen to immerse her family in.

Are you sure she's maga and not a far left liberal? Because what you describe sounds like many of the liberals here in the DC area.

That ... doesn't make a lick of sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here replying with what actually happened since people seek to think it matters so much as far as my response:

We were casually chatting at a school event. The school, which is a private school and heavily Hispanic in population, had some work done on the grounds which wasn’t done all that well. She said “this is going to sound racist but it looks like something Mexicans would do.” I told her that was offensive and walked away upset. She texted an apology and said what she said was in bad taste and inferred it wasn’t a good joke.

My spouse is Latino.

Block her number and move on. There is no reason to associate with this person in any way.

[Anonymous]

I think you handled it perfectly. And no, I would not respond to her text; I'd leave it on read. If for some reason I had to interact with her ever again, which I'd do my best to avoid, I would treat her as a stranger. No smiles, no how are you, no small talk, just get through the interaction and quickly move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Like what? You don't look Latina is pretty different than I don't associate with black people.

“Latina” is highly offensive. Do better.

The correct term is Latinx.

Allying is just used by white people. Latinos generally don’t like it.

Stop using “Latinos” !!

It’s Latinx people!

Go back to 2022, its day is over.

Yeah, Latinx is the new fetch

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A fellow mom who I am friendly with said an openly racist and offensive thing to me today. I told her it was offensive and walked away. She later sent an apology over text. But I’m still livid. I haven’t responded. Should I? I really want to tell her to go to hell and to stay away from my family, but it’s someone I see frequently unfortunately. I guess I know her true colors now.

Would love to hear others opinions on how you would respond in a similar situation.

Like what? You don't look Latina is pretty different than I don't associate with black people.

“Latina” is highly offensive. Do better.

The correct term is Latinx.

Allying is just used by white people. Latinos generally don’t like it.

Stop using “Latinos” !!

It’s Latinx people!

Go back to 2022, its day is over.

Yeah, Latinx is the new fetch

lol

Stop trying to make Latinx happen

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. She said “this is going to sound racist” and then went on to say an incredibly racist thing. It wasn’t about my ethnicity but about my husband’s. I knew she was maga so I’ve always kept it surface level with her but it was still so shocking to me.

Still not helping.

Did she call your husband the n word? Ask if he's illegal? There are varying degrees of crappy things people say, so nobody can help you here.

Are you serious?