When other kids are unkind to your kid, how do you keep emotional distance from it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I definitely hold grudges against these kids. In fact, I just saw one today who told my kid to shut up in maybe 6th grade. He's in high school now and I still thought a negative thought about him when I saw him.

And you’re pathetic old and sad living life holding grudges

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These threads always devolve into PPs giving one scenario, maybe one that happened to their kid or one they witnessed, as though it is the only answer here. All moms who complain of their kids being bullied are raising bullies? No.

There are a million different possible scenarios and no kid is a completely reliable witness/narrator. FFS with all your stupid examples presented as though they are the whole explanation.

re: the OP, I think lots of moms don't forget when another kid really hurts their kid. Not the stupid little stuff, the mean big stuff. And that's okay as long as you keep it to yourself. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and some people really are just a-holes from start to finish. It's okay not to like those people or give them any time of your day.

You can also keep trash piled up in your bedroom but why?

[Anonymous]

It's hard. I have to avoid those kids because I don't have a poker face.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard to not hold a bit of a grudge if it causes a lot of hurt feelings but I do recognize my own kids aren’t always little angels.

I do find that the people who hold the biggest grudges/are sure that little larlo is going to be an axe murderer bc he’s bad at sharing in kindergarten in tend to be particularly clueless to their own kid’s (occasional or more) problematic behavior.

[Anonymous]

It’s so hard. I really try to give grace to kids because they are learning to navigate life and may be dealing with their own issues and insecurities, but as a mom, I don’t forget, and I try to help my children navigate the social challenges. I know I was not a saint either when I was little (and my children are also not angels all the time). The best I can do is be an adult that my children can turn to when they are hurt or need a companion.

[Anonymous]

I think this is one of the hardest parts of being a parent, tbh. I will say that from my experience, things tend to loop back around. There was a girl who was really prickly to my daughter in K and 1st grade. I was always on the fence about saying thing to the parents but never did. Flash forward to 5th grade and this girl is at my house every weekend. She is kind and seems to have evolved. I am really glad that I left it alone!

[Anonymous]

If we never learn to process our feelings, our kids never will, and they’ll feel hurt deeply. They might also process badly. It’s to our own advantage to become emotionally mature and resilient.

[Anonymous]

I don't. Who says you should?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These threads always devolve into PPs giving one scenario, maybe one that happened to their kid or one they witnessed, as though it is the only answer here. All moms who complain of their kids being bullied are raising bullies? No.

There are a million different possible scenarios and no kid is a completely reliable witness/narrator. FFS with all your stupid examples presented as though they are the whole explanation.

re: the OP, I think lots of moms don't forget when another kid really hurts their kid. Not the stupid little stuff, the mean big stuff. And that's okay as long as you keep it to yourself. Everyone is entitled to their feelings and some people really are just a-holes from start to finish. It's okay not to like those people or give them any time of your day.

You can also keep trash piled up in your bedroom but why?

WTAF?

[Anonymous]

I dislike the kids who are mean to my kid. It's not holding a grudge, people show us who they are. If they show me and my kid that they have changed and stand up for their friends and don't bully others, great they have changed for the better. People certainly have capacity to grow and learn and change but it's not a guarantee. Actions prove who people are.