Wife is trying to “optimize” future kids’ birth months.

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Anonymous wrote:October is the best birthday month. No question of which grade you are in. All of the advantages of being the oldest, without any stigma from red shirting.

I agree with this. The decision is made for you. I also love October weather, and being fully pregnant in the summer sounds absolutely horrific. However, if I had to choose, I'd say mid-Sept. - Mid Nov are best. Always redshirt a boy born in July-September.

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

See how you feel after 1.

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Obviously June 2 if you want the child(ren) to be world-class NVSL swimmers

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

How old is she? It might just be temporary immaturity.

She’s 24.

When and where it was normal for women to have babies at that age, it was also normal to not listen to their opinions.

24 is a normal age to get married and have a baby.

Maybe. If you’re poor or independently wealthy. The rest of us need to earn money before having kids.

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October is a good birth month because then you get to naturally be one of the oldest without the drama of a redshirting decision.

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

How old is she? It might just be temporary immaturity.

She’s 24.

She has PPA and needs treatment. Go to her next OB appointment with her and tell them she is experiencing obsessional thinking.

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Anonymous wrote:+1 This is crazy and not something you can plan for.

Just came in here to say that January is just fine. The child will be towards the older/middle end of the class which is good for maturity, sports, test scores etc. January birthdays also make it easy to count years as they line up with the calendar year.

Yep it's nutty.

Really any month is fine. My expected mid January baby turned into a Christmas day baby. It's been several years now and no issues.

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I would strongly advise her not to fixate on birth timing, but to focus on the benefits of whatever birth month you end up getting. For you, October is nice because your kid will be among the oldest in their grade and more mature, developed etc. you will get an extra “year” of life with your kid before they’re off to college (ok more like 10 months) because of this as well. Now, if baby ends up being very bright this might not end up being a great thing (school will never feel challenging enough for him/her).

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Hormones.

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

How old is she? It might just be temporary immaturity.

She’s 24.

When and where it was normal for women to have babies at that age, it was also normal to not listen to their opinions.

24 is a normal age to get married and have a baby.

Maybe. If you’re poor or independently wealthy. The rest of us need to earn money before having kids.

I had a baby at 24 with someone 8 years older. We were totally fine in this area. I made some income as a grad student and he obviously made a lot more (110K).

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

How old is she? It might just be temporary immaturity.

She’s 24.

When and where it was normal for women to have babies at that age, it was also normal to not listen to their opinions.

24 is a normal age to get married and have a baby.

Maybe. If you’re poor or independently wealthy. The rest of us need to earn money before having kids.

I had a baby at 24 with someone 8 years older. We were totally fine in this area. I made some income as a grad student and he obviously made a lot more (110K).

Lol. Of course you were “totally fine.” He made the money of someone in their 30s or 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:She wants lots of kids? How many?

Yes, five.

How old is she? It might just be temporary immaturity.

She’s 24.

When and where it was normal for women to have babies at that age, it was also normal to not listen to their opinions.

24 is a normal age to get married and have a baby.

Maybe. If you’re poor or independently wealthy. The rest of us need to earn money before having kids.

I had a baby at 24 with someone 8 years older. We were totally fine in this area. I made some income as a grad student and he obviously made a lot more (110K).

Lol. Of course you were “totally fine.” He made the money of someone in their 30s or 40s.

Yes, but there IS a way to have kids young and not be independently wealthy is my point.

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This is going to be a wild, controlling, Type-A, anxious, tense ride for your family!

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Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe you listened, absorbed, and then typed all this out. Or that I sat here and scanned through it. This is mental illness that should be treated. Also she might learn real fast that a healthy pregnancy is a gift not a guarantee and sometimes you just have to take the month that it happens. Wow.

It's the product of mommy blogs, pseudo science, and anxiety. It'll get worse once the baby is born and she is scrolling on her phone all day while nursing etc. motherhood and pregnancy are hard and some of us get so caught up in the perfect way to do it, we fail to be present in the moment.

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Late October is the best, especially if you have a boy. I also have an April baby, and would say that’s a good time as well, because people are happy to celebrate in the spring.