Spring break cruise coordination drama—do I just drop it?

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone loved the idea at the time.

Have you considered that you might have selective hearing? You wanted to do it, so the few positive responses made you feel like "everyone loved the idea"?

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone loved the idea at the time.

Have you considered that you might have selective hearing? You wanted to do it, so the few positive responses made you feel like "everyone loved the idea"?

None of this seems hard to imagine. You try to get people to meet for dinner and it’s all thumbs ups, and Yes, let’s do this it’s been too long! Then you propose a date then cue all the reasons that doesn’t work, and then you pick a restaurant then all the dietary restrictions come in to play, or the place doesn’t have good parking, or it’s too far from person B or C. But yes, let’s all go out to dinner! This is why planning for groups is a pain. People think they are easy, go with the flow, but they aren’t.

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Nobody likes your lame idea Karen. Shut it down now

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Anonymous wrote:One thousand percent drop it. It's just such busy and unnecessary work.

I’d like to avoid dropping it because it could still be fun and most are on board. I also feel like making a grand declaration now would invite just as much drama. Is there a tactful way to do either, and avoid added drama?

No good comes from trying to control others, OP. Drop it. It's bad enough you've appointed yourself coordinator.

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Not a huge Mel Robbins fan but this is a good example of "Let Them" - let them wear the shirt, or let them not wear the shirt. You have a great time and don't worry about what they won't or will do.

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Anonymous wrote:One thousand percent drop it. It's just such busy and unnecessary work.

I’d like to avoid dropping it because it could still be fun and most are on board. I also feel like making a grand declaration now would invite just as much drama. Is there a tactful way to do either, and avoid added drama?

No good comes from trying to control others, OP. Drop it. It's bad enough you've appointed yourself coordinator.

When you travel is it just a free for all? No plans, agenda or coordination?

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Anonymous wrote:Can they jsut buy their own shirt? So it's just hawaiin shirt night? And some people match and others don't and life goes on.

They could, but it defeats the purpose and they’ll look out of place in the photo.

This is so tacky. Cruises are bad enough, but matching outfits. Come on. Just let it go. People are trying to be nice and don't want to hurt your feelings, but they don't want to be dressed up like 3 year olds.

OP here. It’s not mandatory. Clearly they want to join in, but only on their terms.

Well, you want it on your terms. Take the Amazon thing. Lots of people don’t want to buy from Amazon these days, and surely you know that. But you still want to force your shirt and your shirt only. If you really want a fun happy photo, invite people to wear a tropical shirt or a shade of xxx color and then just accept what happens. You can’t treat a large family group like a wedding party who signs up for allowing the bride to dictate their apparel.

No, that's you trying to take control. If you don't like it, don't do it. Are you always a massive control freak?

I have a very unhealthy relationship with xcel that I enjoy, but other than that, no. Thanks for asking!

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

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Anonymous wrote:One thousand percent drop it. It's just such busy and unnecessary work.

I’d like to avoid dropping it because it could still be fun and most are on board. I also feel like making a grand declaration now would invite just as much drama. Is there a tactful way to do either, and avoid added drama?

Why just say totally fine to opt out. Those who want to participate can, tell them the night to wear it and be done with it.

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

DP. I would check with my husband. I’d say “hey, they’re trying to organize this dumb thing. Do you want to play along and wear this cheap, ugly shirt, or do you want to be the only one not wearing it?”

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

DP. I would check with my husband. I’d say “hey, they’re trying to organize this dumb thing. Do you want to play along and wear this cheap, ugly shirt, or do you want to be the only one not wearing it?”

Every party has a pooper. It’s supposed to be a joke that you don’t tell your husband about, but some people have no sense of humor.

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

DP. I would check with my husband. I’d say “hey, they’re trying to organize this dumb thing. Do you want to play along and wear this cheap, ugly shirt, or do you want to be the only one not wearing it?”

I would tell my husband too because he would think it was as stupid as I did.

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Anonymous wrote:$16 on a peice of plastic fabric trash...that, shortly after the trip, will end up in the landfill or the ocean.

But yeah, that one photo that you looked at once and posted to instagram, is priceless.

What difference does it make? It's not like they were going to go shirtless. Amazon, Walmart, Bonobos, Tommy Bahama, all the same in the end.

The difference is, they all could have just worn a shirt they already owned and will actually wear again. OP’s dumb plan is just induced demand for garbage that will never be used again.

But then it's not a prank on husbands to unknowingly show up in the exact same shirt. Are you always this slow?

The only people that want to do this just want to post about it on social media. It’s the same people who wear matching shirts to Disney.

So do you create a stink in a group chat and try to do something completely different or do you just bow out gracefully?

DP. I would check with my husband. I’d say “hey, they’re trying to organize this dumb thing. Do you want to play along and wear this cheap, ugly shirt, or do you want to be the only one not wearing it?”

Every party has a pooper. It’s supposed to be a joke that you don’t tell your husband about, but some people have no sense of humor.

It’s not as funny as you think it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Can they jsut buy their own shirt? So it's just hawaiin shirt night? And some people match and others don't and life goes on.

They could, but it defeats the purpose and they’ll look out of place in the photo.

I want you to read your sentence out loud to yourself as many times as you need to for the absurdity to sink in.

If you care this much about a photo, I don't know what to tell you.