Spring break cruise coordination drama—do I just drop it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

This isn’t about race or even cruises. The people still scratching their head at what OP is talking about are just hopeless at this point. You could do the shirt joke at church, home, a restaurant, school, wherever. The cruise is totally irrelevant.

That is absolutely true. But the Venn Diagram of "people who think this is the best idea ever" and "people who love cruises" are pretty much concentric circles.

(They're the same people who have to look up Venn Diagram. And concentric.)

I think I love you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One thousand percent drop it. It's just such busy and unnecessary work.

I’d like to avoid dropping it because it could still be fun and most are on board. I also feel like making a grand declaration now would invite just as much drama. Is there a tactful way to do either, and avoid added drama?

If most people are on board and do it the others will look dumb!

No, because people who choose not to participate are the type who don't care about this sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

This isn’t about race or even cruises. The people still scratching their head at what OP is talking about are just hopeless at this point. You could do the shirt joke at church, home, a restaurant, school, wherever. The cruise is totally irrelevant.

That is absolutely true. But the Venn Diagram of "people who think this is the best idea ever" and "people who love cruises" are pretty much concentric circles.

(They're the same people who have to look up Venn Diagram. And concentric.)

Umm, I thought concentric circles never intersect. Therefore, wouldn’t that mean that the above categories do NOT coincide?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the basic premise that you are all doing this on the dl, getting your DH to wear the shirt and then the men show up surprised to see they’re all dressed the same.

Does that mean every single one of your husbands gets dressed up by their mommies? Does not one of these men choose their own clothes?

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My husband would think it really weird if I told him to wear a cheap, new Hawaiian shirt one night. I would have to make up a story about some theme night and wanting him to match my outfit, or just tell him it was a dumb prank and try to persuade him to go along with it.

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I haven’t dictated an outfit to my husband since our wedding. I would have to tell him the truth, and he’d immediately text all his buddies on the cruise to ask if they were going along with it.

[Anonymous]

Whenever the temptation to do an activity like this comes up, ask yourself, would you still do it if you couldn’t post it to social media? In other words, is the pleasure of a transient act enough, or is part of the joy from showing other people how cute and clever you are?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is typical of people who frequent Disney and cruises. Generally white and trashy

These people are all going on the cruise already. They clearly would never be as cool as you.

I go to disney and on cruises pretty frequently and I can assure you that th large family groups that have matching clothes items are not exclusively white and in fact are probably less likely to be white than the American population as a whole. Because white peoples are generally less likely to travel in large family groups, if we want to put people in racial categories.

This isn’t about race or even cruises. The people still scratching their head at what OP is talking about are just hopeless at this point. You could do the shirt joke at church, home, a restaurant, school, wherever. The cruise is totally irrelevant.

That is absolutely true. But the Venn Diagram of "people who think this is the best idea ever" and "people who love cruises" are pretty much concentric circles.

(They're the same people who have to look up Venn Diagram. And concentric.)

Umm, I thought concentric circles never intersect. Therefore, wouldn’t that mean that the above categories do NOT coincide?

DP. I think you need a refresher on Venn diagrams.

[Anonymous]

Not sure why we have to pick on people who like cruises. I like cruises and don’t like matching shirts or silly social media pranks. I also got an 800 on the math SAT and fully understand vent diagrams and concentric circles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure why we have to pick on people who like cruises. I like cruises and don’t like matching shirts or silly social media pranks. I also got an 800 on the math SAT and fully understand vent diagrams and concentric circles.

Do you pick out your spouse’s clothes?

[Anonymous]

Any kind of Coord tone is thankless.

I would say, “you guys, I have no more time to devote to this. I have ordered the shirt I linked for Bill. Others can handle the shirt decision as they see fit. I look forward to seeing you all onboard.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why we have to pick on people who like cruises. I like cruises and don’t like matching shirts or silly social media pranks. I also got an 800 on the math SAT and fully understand vent diagrams and concentric circles.

Do you pick out your spouse’s clothes?

I mean I do buy him clothes sometimes but I don’t tell him what to wear on which day. Again no need to be mean about people while cruises or lump them in with people like OP.

[Anonymous]

Imagine thinking you’re the smartest person in the room because you refused to participate in a joke. That’s not intellect. That’s rigidity. The only thing more embarrassing than matching shirts is watching grown adults unravel over them. If your self-worth hinges on not participating in a joke, that’s not superiority, that’s fragility. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine thinking you’re the smartest person in the room because you refused to participate in a joke. That’s not intellect. That’s rigidity. The only thing more embarrassing than matching shirts is watching grown adults unravel over them. If your self-worth hinges on not participating in a joke, that’s not superiority, that’s fragility. Just wow.

Who is unraveling? Only OP it seems.

[Anonymous]

It's a stupid cheesy idea, drop it. Just say "everyone find a tropical shirt for your husband."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine thinking you’re the smartest person in the room because you refused to participate in a joke. That’s not intellect. That’s rigidity. The only thing more embarrassing than matching shirts is watching grown adults unravel over them. If your self-worth hinges on not participating in a joke, that’s not superiority, that’s fragility. Just wow.

Who is unraveling? Only OP it seems.

OP stopped responding and yet there are pages and pages of the aforementioned unraveling. So much defensiveness and superiority, and for what? You all should ask yourselves why this triggered you so.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine thinking you’re the smartest person in the room because you refused to participate in a joke. That’s not intellect. That’s rigidity. The only thing more embarrassing than matching shirts is watching grown adults unravel over them. If your self-worth hinges on not participating in a joke, that’s not superiority, that’s fragility. Just wow.

Who is unraveling? Only OP it seems.

OP stopped responding and yet there are pages and pages of the aforementioned unraveling. So much defensiveness and superiority, and for what? You all should ask yourselves why this triggered you so.

DP. I’m not unraveling at all, but the OP’s predicament represents a lot of serious stupidity that permeates every aspect of life these days. Many see good harmless fun in this stunt, but cruises, throwaway fast fashion and social media do far more harm than good throughout the world. It’s just such a dumb thing to expect people to care about.