Just got pre-teen a Smartwatch, it's not going well

[Anonymous]

The only thing that sounds weird about your 12yo son is that he doesn't have any homework. But that's a school issue, not him. And if he's reading every day, that should mitigate that some.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What about calling a meeting with him, you, and your husband, and just asking him in a heartfelt way to please be honest with you both about his watch-activities?

The kid’s brain isn’t fully developed, this is so stupid. And if he has ADHD (like me and my daughter) impulse control is so very much harder. The guardrails for kids need to be EXTERNAL, not internal.

Kids brains (especially boys) don’t fully develop until around age 25. So I would hold off on allowing him to have that watch, until he surpasses that age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about calling a meeting with him, you, and your husband, and just asking him in a heartfelt way to please be honest with you both about his watch-activities?

The kid’s brain isn’t fully developed, this is so stupid. And if he has ADHD (like me and my daughter) impulse control is so very much harder. The guardrails for kids need to be EXTERNAL, not internal.

Kids brains (especially boys) don’t fully develop until around age 25. So I would hold off on allowing him to have that watch, until he surpasses that age.

Yeah, how about you hold on to that watch until he gets married and then hand that watch to your DIL, so that she could put controls and restrictions on it? Some parents here sound completely unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about calling a meeting with him, you, and your husband, and just asking him in a heartfelt way to please be honest with you both about his watch-activities?

The kid’s brain isn’t fully developed, this is so stupid. And if he has ADHD (like me and my daughter) impulse control is so very much harder. The guardrails for kids need to be EXTERNAL, not internal.

Kids brains (especially boys) don’t fully develop until around age 25. So I would hold off on allowing him to have that watch, until he surpasses that age.

Yeah, how about you hold on to that watch until he gets married and then hand that watch to your DIL, so that she could put controls and restrictions on it? Some parents here sound completely unhinged.

Speaking of lacking brain power -- the "age 25" comment was obviously sarcasm, highlighting that the full development of the brain is not the point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about calling a meeting with him, you, and your husband, and just asking him in a heartfelt way to please be honest with you both about his watch-activities?

The kid’s brain isn’t fully developed, this is so stupid. And if he has ADHD (like me and my daughter) impulse control is so very much harder. The guardrails for kids need to be EXTERNAL, not internal.

Kids brains (especially boys) don’t fully develop until around age 25. So I would hold off on allowing him to have that watch, until he surpasses that age.

Yeah, how about you hold on to that watch until he gets married and then hand that watch to your DIL, so that she could put controls and restrictions on it? Some parents here sound completely unhinged.

Speaking of lacking brain power -- the "age 25" comment was obviously sarcasm, highlighting that the full development of the brain is not the point.

You never know these days Like really, my 12 yo son is texting his friends, the horror! And one of them is a girl, the audacity! Need to lock him in his room ASAP, take away his smart watch, and force him to knit a scarf!!! Or else!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about calling a meeting with him, you, and your husband, and just asking him in a heartfelt way to please be honest with you both about his watch-activities?

The kid’s brain isn’t fully developed, this is so stupid. And if he has ADHD (like me and my daughter) impulse control is so very much harder. The guardrails for kids need to be EXTERNAL, not internal.

Kids brains (especially boys) don’t fully develop until around age 25. So I would hold off on allowing him to have that watch, until he surpasses that age.

Yeah, how about you hold on to that watch until he gets married and then hand that watch to your DIL, so that she could put controls and restrictions on it? Some parents here sound completely unhinged.

WAIT! But how is he going to get married if his watch gets taken away when he talks to girls?

No grandkids for OP!

[Anonymous]

"You broke the contract. Let's try again in 3 months."

[Anonymous]

12 years old
As and Bs
Makes friends easily
Three sports including a travel one
Reads an hour per day

He sounds like a great kid and you’re overbearing. All twelve year olds chat and I believe he did indeed feel left out without a way to do so. You need to lighten up.