Why would parents send kid to school without coat in 20 degree weather?

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

You send Susie in her coat. Susie takes off her coat the moment she’s out of your sight. What do you do next?

There is zero chance Susie is standing at the bus stop at 7 am shivering with a coat in her backpack. Stop the lunacy.

If Susie came crying to school day after day with no coat don't you think the school would call home or help poor Susie out because her parents can't afford a coat? Or did Susie make a bad decision one day and correct it the next day? I doubt you see the same girl day after day.

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for some reason our kids think coats are for losers

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

At what age? In elementary school, they could choose among the items of clothing that were age, weather, and situation appropriate.

No, you can't back it up now. You think it's your job to decide everything. What exactly are your kids allowed to decide?

I JUST told you. Please read it again.

That's it? How sad for your kids.

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Lived in MN for 7 years. Snowpants/boots/hats/gloves REQUIRED this time of year for ES and they went outside almost every day. Made it easy for everyone.

DC area is right on the edge of what is mandatory, but this early stretch of well below average temps does bring up these scenarios. It will be in the 50s and 60s soon so no big deal really.

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OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

Like i said, lazy BS parenting and now you're having to do mental gymnastics to justify it. It's not like the rest of us have some special, super agreeable kids. We know it's a struggle to make them do the right thing. You're just choosing the easy, lazy path. We get it.

We parent the kids we have. Yours needed a lot of direction, hand holding, and guidance. I wouldn't brag about that, to be honest.

Oh every kid does. You just refuse to do your job as a parent. We see it. The teachers see it. But apparently, you'd rather spend more time justifying your bad parenting than actually teaching your kids how to behave properly.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

At what age? In elementary school, they could choose among the items of clothing that were age, weather, and situation appropriate.

No, you can't back it up now. You think it's your job to decide everything. What exactly are your kids allowed to decide?

I JUST told you. Please read it again.

That's it? How sad for your kids.

So your kid decides to go to school in just his underwear? WHY NOT!!!! HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO CHOOSE. Otherwise, you're an authoritative parent. See how ridiculous that sounds?

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It's amazing to me how none of these kids have a problem wearing coats in private schools with a dress code. hmmmmmmmmm I wonder why that is.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

At what age? In elementary school, they could choose among the items of clothing that were age, weather, and situation appropriate.

No, you can't back it up now. You think it's your job to decide everything. What exactly are your kids allowed to decide?

I JUST told you. Please read it again.

That's it? How sad for your kids.

So your kid decides to go to school in just his underwear? WHY NOT!!!! HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO CHOOSE. Otherwise, you're an authoritative parent. See how ridiculous that sounds?

Your attempt to shame other parents has failed spectacularly. You should probably just step away because you're flailing and spinning out now

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

Way to raise a completely incompetent and immature child. No one is failing if they are listening to their kids….ABOUT A STUPID COAT.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

Like i said, lazy BS parenting and now you're having to do mental gymnastics to justify it. It's not like the rest of us have some special, super agreeable kids. We know it's a struggle to make them do the right thing. You're just choosing the easy, lazy path. We get it.

We parent the kids we have. Yours needed a lot of direction, hand holding, and guidance. I wouldn't brag about that, to be honest.

Oh every kid does. You just refuse to do your job as a parent. We see it. The teachers see it. But apparently, you'd rather spend more time justifying your bad parenting than actually teaching your kids how to behave properly.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how none of these kids have a problem wearing coats in private schools with a dress code. hmmmmmmmmm I wonder why that is.

My kids go to private school. The dress code does not involve coats.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

At what age? In elementary school, they could choose among the items of clothing that were age, weather, and situation appropriate.

No, you can't back it up now. You think it's your job to decide everything. What exactly are your kids allowed to decide?

I JUST told you. Please read it again.

That's it? How sad for your kids.

So your kid decides to go to school in just his underwear? WHY NOT!!!! HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO CHOOSE. Otherwise, you're an authoritative parent. See how ridiculous that sounds?

Your attempt to shame other parents has failed spectacularly. You should probably just step away because you're flailing and spinning out now

No, no.....you started it. Why not let him go in his underwear??? Explain.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

Like i said, lazy BS parenting and now you're having to do mental gymnastics to justify it. It's not like the rest of us have some special, super agreeable kids. We know it's a struggle to make them do the right thing. You're just choosing the easy, lazy path. We get it.

We parent the kids we have. Yours needed a lot of direction, hand holding, and guidance. I wouldn't brag about that, to be honest.

Oh every kid does. You just refuse to do your job as a parent. We see it. The teachers see it. But apparently, you'd rather spend more time justifying your bad parenting than actually teaching your kids how to behave properly.

You need a life.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

Like i said, lazy BS parenting and now you're having to do mental gymnastics to justify it. It's not like the rest of us have some special, super agreeable kids. We know it's a struggle to make them do the right thing. You're just choosing the easy, lazy path. We get it.

We parent the kids we have. Yours needed a lot of direction, hand holding, and guidance. I wouldn't brag about that, to be honest.

Oh every kid does. You just refuse to do your job as a parent. We see it. The teachers see it. But apparently, you'd rather spend more time justifying your bad parenting than actually teaching your kids how to behave properly.

DP

These sound like excuses you make to justify your poor classroom management. Life is great when all your failures can just be blamed on poor parenting.

My 6yo wore a coat to school today. My job was to tell her it's really cold out and offer an appropriate coat, hat and gloves. Her job was to put them on. She rejected the hat but put on the coat and gloves. I would rather she wear a hat but she has never liked hats. Does this mean the teacher thinks I'm a better parent than the parents of the kids that didn't wear gloves (or a jacket) and a worse parent than the parent of the kids that wore a jacket, hat and gloves? I doubt it, she seems really smart and understands kids so I assume she understands that kids are different, want different things and ultimately have the power to decide what they wear. Parents can incentivize behaviors with carrots and sticks but ultimately the choice is theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

At what age? In elementary school, they could choose among the items of clothing that were age, weather, and situation appropriate.

No, you can't back it up now. You think it's your job to decide everything. What exactly are your kids allowed to decide?

I JUST told you. Please read it again.

That's it? How sad for your kids.

So your kid decides to go to school in just his underwear? WHY NOT!!!! HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO CHOOSE. Otherwise, you're an authoritative parent. See how ridiculous that sounds?

Your attempt to shame other parents has failed spectacularly. You should probably just step away because you're flailing and spinning out now

No, no.....you started it. Why not let him go in his underwear??? Explain.

Go away Troll Mommy.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how none of these kids have a problem wearing coats in private schools with a dress code. hmmmmmmmmm I wonder why that is.

My kids go to private school. The dress code does not involve coats.

sure, but let's say it did. Would you make your kid put one on? My guess is that magically all of these people who simply can't make their kids wear one would find a way.