No one is RSVP-ing for my party

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I appreciate the candid feedback. Most attendees are family/close friends who’ve indicated verbally they’ll be attending. I otherwise sent out the invite to a handful of local acquaintances in hopes they’ll attend.

I hear what everyone is saying on it being a “bad” date. Maybe so. My interpretation of the Christmas season is forgiveness, togetherness and cheer - I did not plan this party to punish people or add to their stress. It’s a party. I throw great parties. I know Covid has made people more comfortable in their digital cocoons than interacting IRL, but our primal selves long for connection. Stop scolding me on the gosh darn date.

What are you complaining about? sounds like they RSVPed yes.

+1. OP writes that “no one” RSVPed for her party and then adds later than close family/friends are attending.

[Anonymous]

I check my physical mailbox every 2 weeks. It is mostly junk mail and nothing important comes via snail mail anymore. The paper invite is an odd choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I appreciate the candid feedback. Most attendees are family/close friends who’ve indicated verbally they’ll be attending. I otherwise sent out the invite to a handful of local acquaintances in hopes they’ll attend.

I hear what everyone is saying on it being a “bad” date. Maybe so. My interpretation of the Christmas season is forgiveness, togetherness and cheer - I did not plan this party to punish people or add to their stress. It’s a party. I throw great parties. I know Covid has made people more comfortable in their digital cocoons than interacting IRL, but our primal selves long for connection. Stop scolding me on the gosh darn date.

OP no one is saying this here. People are saying that their other IRL plans are in flux around those dates. You sound very condescending.

+1. Plus you were trashing introverts in an earlier post, which has nothing to do with people's availability on your party date nor their propensity to follow RSVP protocol. Maybe this is a you thing.

I don't think the previous PPs actually read the whole thread, or they have very weak memories.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, sorry. I'm probably guilty of not managing my invites well this time of year. I'm kind of doing things one weekend at a time.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think you sound fun, and I would come to your party (and rsvp to the invitation). I’m sorry your friends are jerks. It’s a lot of work to host a party and all of the people on here making excuses for them sound like entitled ingrates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I had 30% of invited people not even respond. Naive me believed what people say about “Oh Evite ends up in spam all the time!” No. Nobody I know has ever said Evite goes to spam. They either ignore the Evite or they forgot about it and it got buried in other emails.

Anyway, I naively followed up with the no response people via private email. Still nothing. No RSVP, no response to my personal email, Evite shows they didn’t even view the invite.

Just… why? It takes two minutes to go in and click No.

Did they open it? Can you tell? I had a party last weekend and sent 40 evites and almost half we never opened. When I spoke to people in person they had not gotten them. I had to send it via text and then it showed they opened it. I did a test run with my husbands email and it never went to him. Had about 35 people total. I used to think it was an excuse - but I saw first hand how some were not even delivered.

No, they didn't open the Evite. It said Delivered, but not Viewed. But I sent them emails from my email address (not Evite) and I didn't get a response there either.

[Anonymous]

Most people in this area will be out of town on the 27th OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people in this area will be out of town on the 27th OP.

Op has made the point that they understand that, but then rsvp no. How is that so hard for ppl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think you sound fun, and I would come to your party (and rsvp to the invitation). I’m sorry your friends are jerks. It’s a lot of work to host a party and all of the people on here making excuses for them sound like entitled ingrates.

No one is a jerk yet. RSVPs are due on the 13th.

[Anonymous]

People should absolutely RSVP but the 27th is also a bad date - lots of people will be traveling or busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had 30% of invited people not even respond. Naive me believed what people say about “Oh Evite ends up in spam all the time!” No. Nobody I know has ever said Evite goes to spam. They either ignore the Evite or they forgot about it and it got buried in other emails.

Anyway, I naively followed up with the no response people via private email. Still nothing. No RSVP, no response to my personal email, Evite shows they didn’t even view the invite.

Just… why? It takes two minutes to go in and click No.

I found people reply to text but they don’t check their emails often.

Depends on the person though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I appreciate the candid feedback. Most attendees are family/close friends who’ve indicated verbally they’ll be attending. I otherwise sent out the invite to a handful of local acquaintances in hopes they’ll attend.

I hear what everyone is saying on it being a “bad” date. Maybe so. My interpretation of the Christmas season is forgiveness, togetherness and cheer - I did not plan this party to punish people or add to their stress. It’s a party. I throw great parties. I know Covid has made people more comfortable in their digital cocoons than interacting IRL, but our primal selves long for connection. Stop scolding me on the gosh darn date.

What are you complaining about? sounds like they RSVPed yes.

+1. OP writes that “no one” RSVPed for her party and then adds later than close family/friends are attending.

Yes, but obviously all her close family are also BIPOC. It’s the white people who are failing to rsvp here.

Wow. Blaming white people haha.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m having a holiday party Saturday, the 27th. I sent out thirty invitations last Monday, and asked invitees to RSVP via text by the 13th. So far I have received three responses. Is this normal?

This is terrible and I’m so sorry op! People can be so mean.

BTW, are you BIPOC? Are the people who are not RSVP-ing white by chance?

Thank you! Yes I am and yes they are - how did you know? Haha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m exhausted thinking about a party between Christmas and New Year’s. That would be way too much for me. How old are you, OP? But maybe it’s not an age thing, you are likely just more social than me. I’m 49 and it’s just too much.

I'm 46 and would attend but we're also not traveling for the holidays this year

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I get that you might think this isn’t a good day for a party - fine, but in that case, why not just RSVP no? I’m not concerned about whether people are attending or not - rather, that they are not indicating which it will be.

Communication, people. This is my qualm.

It took me years to get that "didn't RSVP" meant "No, I'm not coming." Get, not accept.

Except in one case. One person RSVP'd YES on the eve of the party and then showed up. Luckily, a different rude person changed RSVP from YES to NO the morning of the party, so it worked out seamlessly.

This is OP and this is why I’m a bit irked- like, just let me know. I ordered and mailed these invites, hoping it would seem/feel more “special” than an evite.

O well.

I enjoy getting paper mail BUT we have had multiple things (that either we knew were coming or USPS even sent me pictures of in my delivery digest) that have not made their way to our house, months later. It's caused a lot of issues because some of those things were bills, checks, car registrations, and replacement credit cards. It's been a nightmare. My husband and I even had duplicate copies of notices from VA DOT mailed to us from the same place on the same day. His arrived, mine did not. Maybe an electronic follow up with all the information on the invitation would be helpful.