Can I be honest? I don’t care much about my friends kids college announcements

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing amuses me more than some parents’ ineluctable enthusiasm while revealing their kids’ admission to Northeastern or Tulane.

This is repulsive. You know there are parents that are so thankful their kids are alive or healthy or able to overcome something you likely know nothing about, right? What does it cost you to support others in their excitement for whatever school makes sense for their kid?

Why do they need to post bragging wise that they got into Northeastern or Tulane then. Why not just enjoy the time together.

It's an accomplishment and a milestone and they are thankful for it? I find it far more palatable than a weekly sports post about xyz game.

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Anonymous wrote:After watching post after post about every athletic accolade and event from friends/neighbors, I felt NO shame posting my child’s college achievement. None. Lol

Sad that you're so insecure.

+1

And some kids with all of those sports and activities also get into Ivies on academics. Just sayin’

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I am happy for my friends and my friends kids when something good happens because I am not a sociopath.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I enjoy seeing these announcements...it is a major milestone and post worthy IMO.

That said, one year one of my Facebook friends announced her daughter's acceptance into Vanderbilt with a full scholarship. She went on to share that she also got accepted to Harvard and others, but that the full ride was hard to turn down. That it pretty tacky if you ask me.

Ah, I see. You only "enjoy" seeing the announcements you're not jealous of.

[Anonymous]

Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After watching post after post about every athletic accolade and event from friends/neighbors, I felt NO shame posting my child’s college achievement. None. Lol

Sad that you're so insecure.

+1

And some kids with all of those sports and activities also get into Ivies on academics. Just sayin’

So wait, it is ok to post about all the sports accomplishments, but not about their college announcement?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I enjoy seeing these announcements...it is a major milestone and post worthy IMO.

That said, one year one of my Facebook friends announced her daughter's acceptance into Vanderbilt with a full scholarship. She went on to share that she also got accepted to Harvard and others, but that the full ride was hard to turn down. That it pretty tacky if you ask me.

Ah, I see. You only "enjoy" seeing the announcements you're not jealous of.

Nah, I just think posting about every single acceptance is not appropriate. Just post about the school they plan to enroll in.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

Presumably these are closer friends to you than on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not impressed by any college my friends children got into. Most are wealthy. Maybe that’s not fair, but I know how much support/help these kids have. I appreciate the families are proud and that’s great, but there is no need to brag about the obvious privilege at play.

In contrast, I know a teacher whose dd got into Yale ED. I was happy and impressed to hear that news, although she didn’t tell me, our mutual friend shared the news.

That's such a strange attitude. I'm happy to hear where my friends' kids are going to college because I'm happy for them, not because I'm impressed. My happiness isn't more when it's an elite school and sharing news with friends isn't bragging.

This is where I fall. And I especially like hearing about a kid who has struggled and yet still finds a place they and their ‘sharing’ parents are excited about whether it’s Diesel Mechanics School, the Naval Academy, or good ‘ol JMU.

While a few announcements might be an over-the-top, it can still be genuine and I am happy for them.

I agree with this

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Anonymous wrote:I love seeing them. This is so weird. I have two in college about to graduate and I still love seeing where kids land.

I’m with you. It’s a special time of life for these kids. They’re making big decisions, getting to know themselves a little better in the process. They’re on the verge of a new thing, and it’s exciting. I’m happy for them, happy to be one of the people rooting for them. It’s not central for me like it is for them, but it doesn’t have to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

See, here's the thing: I've never heard of such a thing happening and I don't know anyone who's ever done this, ever. So all this tells me is that you have chosen to surround yourself with competitive or at least very weird people. And you are the company you keep. So this really is a "you" issue. You sound unhappy with where you are placing in a race that you alone chose to enter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

What's the difference? They're just sharing their happy news with people they like enough to communicate with outside of Instagram.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

Presumably these are closer friends to you than on social media?

Not necessarily tbh. Group chats etc. I enjoy these groups because they are closed channels, typically free of social media posturing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. As usual, the lack of reading comprehension on here astounds me.

It’s not posting on social media that bothers me (I expect it there, although some posts seem especially cringey but whatever), it’s people who bring it to off SM communications- group texts, group WhatsApp, emails etc.

Sorry, that’s especially lame. Unless I’m grandma

See, here's the thing: I've never heard of such a thing happening and I don't know anyone who's ever done this, ever. So all this tells me is that you have chosen to surround yourself with competitive or at least very weird people. And you are the company you keep. So this really is a "you" issue. You sound unhappy with where you are placing in a race that you alone chose to enter.

Hmm, maybe idk 🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in the mix this year too, and I know we all care as parents but I don’t need blow by blow updates/brags.

Post it on social media if you must, tell grandma, but you don’t need to text every friend with a ‘big announcement’ that Larla is going to X school.

Flame away

Have kids already started deciding outside of the ED process? Are you referring to "applied ED and got in" folks?

Are you are pre-emptively describing what will be occurring in Feb/March/April?

You sound as lame as some of the posters on here complaining. Have been on social media before December 2025? And yes, it’s already happening.

Gee, thanks. No my youngest is a senior in college and I don't know anyone who has HS kids at this point (other than my SIL who has a HS junior but SIL isn't on socials). So, no, I don't see this anywhere. I also limit my time on social because it's just not productive. Need to limit my time here...