Tween guest wasted all the food we bought him. Would you be offended by his mom's pretentious remark?

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Anonymous wrote:You seriously dug through the fast food bag and dissected it to see exactly that he took one bite? That is extremely weird.

If he didn't eat it and just kept it in the bag, the bag would obviously feel like it had stuff in it when OP went to throw it out.

That’s not the point. She opened it up and went through the burgers and fries and junk to see that he had taken one bite. That is just extremely weird - - and frankly, gross. Any sane person would just throw the bag away.

You don't have to sift through a bag to feel if something is inside of it.

Correct. If I felt the fast food bag was heavy, I honestly wouldn’t obsess about it or mention it to the mother. What does the OP do? She opens it up and dissect it to see that he only took one bite. That is frankly weird.

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How embarrassing for you, OP. The title of your thread says it all.

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

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Anonymous wrote:How embarrassing for you, OP. The title of your thread says it all.

+1

Clueless.

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Anonymous wrote:Look, McDonalds isn't reheatable and isn't good cold, so let's be honest if he wasn't eating it, it was going in the trash anyway.

I'm generally not a "finish your plate" type. Food waste is a problem but the point of significant waste isn't picky children. The kid was trying to be polite in his own way, he didn't like the food but he was trying to hide that fact from you.

The issue here was bringing it up with his mom. What, exactly was she supposed to say in that moment? Especially if couched as it being a problem with the kid. So she came up with a dip response.

Just, when you buy someone a gift you have to accept they make not like it. But move on.

This.
Honestly, if extracurricular carpool mom told me my kid wasted two fast food meals, I wouldn’t know how to respond. Probably “thank you for letting me know.“ Depending on our relationship and if I buy her kids fast food meals, I may or may not offer to Venmo her $20 to cover it because apparently she has an issue with it.
I don’t necessarily think they shake shack comment is that big of a deal. The Mom needed to provide some sort of response, and she just picked something to justify why he didn’t eat it. Was it the best response? No. But it wasn’t a horrible response that you need to dissect and judge? No.

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^correction - “But it was it (not wasn’t) a horrible response that you need to dissect and judge? No.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

I have kids, and occasionally we carpool, and I end up with trash in the back of my car. If I saw a balled up fast food bag, I absolutely would not open it up. And the fact that the OP not only opened it up, but pulled apart the ball of food it to see that the child had only taken one bite is disgusting. Who does this?

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I would be ashamed of myself for nitpicking on a kid OP, not offended.

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That moms comment was kinda’ rude .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find your attitude so offensive, OP.

Maybe he wasn't hungry. Maybe the food wasn't great. Maybe he felt off that day (maybe he gets carsick or something). But regardless, he know how it was going to come across and made a social effort to hide the food you had bought, so you wouldn't be surprised, offended or disappointed.

And yet here you are, being all three. Don't. He's a child. His mother made a totally innocuous remark that you, operating on a hair-trigger, chose to take the wrong way.

Just stop.

Omg, drama queen lmfao. It's weird of an 11yo to ball up food TWICE. Jesus. Just don't order anything the second time if you're not hungry.

This is why I think the tween was rude. It wasn’t once, but twice. It’s weird that some of you think opening a bag is “rummaging”.

I have kids, and occasionally we carpool, and I end up with trash in the back of my car. If I saw a balled up fast food bag, I absolutely would not open it up. And the fact that the OP not only opened it up, but pulled apart the ball of food it to see that the child had only taken one bite is disgusting. Who does this?

Yeah, if it was heavy I would be curious and open it! I’m also certain that it was obvious that they only took one bite. She didn’t have to pull apart the food. Did she say that and I missed it?

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Yes, everyone one in this situation was rude.

The kid for doing this twice, OP for specifically calling him out about it to his mom, and mom for the comment (probably meant as a joke- since it was awkward of OP to bring it up).

But none of these things are terrible offenses. Just move on.

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We know a kid that we often have over or carpool that does this. BUT, he doesn’t hid it. He will usually say something like, “Sorry Mrs. M, I guess I’m not very hungry after all.” My DH has no problem eating his food- haha. I’m never offended and I’m glad he is honest. I will ask him if he wants to buy something small for a snack later- but he always says no. We always have various snacks on hand anyway if it’s a tournament or something. I may mention to his mom he didn’t eat much-
But I think she just assumes this

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I want to hear more about OP's truck.

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That moms comment was kinda’ rude .

It was a polite enough deflection, given OP’s terrible manners.

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My teen is really picky. If you went somewhere he didn't like or wasn't sure about, he might have ordered and tried it. Which would be a HUGE step for him. But if he didn't like it, he wouldn't eat it and then would have felt stupid and embarrassed. And then I feel weird because it is so unusual and I know that you were trying but I know he was trying too.

So just let go. Assume good intentions all around. Because the situation on our side is so much more awkward and uncomfortable than you know.