Am I in the wrong here or is my daughter?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should read up on how much sleep teenagers need and what happens when they don’t get enough.

Thats why I told her to go to bed earlier.

Honest question, what time do you go to bed?

Like 12-1 am because I have to put the kids to bed, do some extra work, do the kitchen, and after all this have some time to myself to read a book or watch a movie with my husband who works from 7-9 on weekdays and 3 hours on weekends.

This is sounding more and more troll-ish. I kind of hope you're making this all up.

You cannot wake up before 8 to help your teen daughter prioritize sleep because you need to read a book or watch a movie. You are shocked that a teenager rolls their eyes, therefore you take away all screens.

Be a loving parent. Feed the cats for her, then talk to her when she wakes up. Most teens are sleeping until 11 or later whenever they get the chance. They need it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why shes always in such a bad mood or has such bad attitude. She talks to us rudely and rolls her eyes. Instead of saying OK like a normal person she says Okayyyyyy while rolling her eyes or instead of saying what she says WHAT in a rude tone. Her 12 year old sister isnt like this.

You seem like a very sensitive person. You need a thicker skin to live with teenaged girls. Don’t take out your hurt feelings on your dd.

We do punish her. We take away screen time. Once she had only had 5 minutes for all apps total. If this doesn't prove her crappy behavior I don't know what will.

You’re talking about what punishments you’ve given her, not what her offenses were. Nothing you’ve said helps your case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:
SHE wanted the foster cats. We as a family agreed we would help by entertaining them, and buying supplies plus driving them to the vet and meeting up with adopters. Her sister already does more than we as a family agreed on. Her sister sometimes feeds them and cleans the litterbox when that is my oldest daughters responsibility. I told my oldest that if she continues on with her bad attitude, we will not be fostering anymore in the future and she said that was really unfair since she was doing all the work and she enjoys fostering cats.

Yeah, OP. You’re not helping your case at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should read up on how much sleep teenagers need and what happens when they don’t get enough.

Thats why I told her to go to bed earlier.

Honest question, what time do you go to bed?

Like 12-1 am because I have to put the kids to bed, do some extra work, do the kitchen, and after all this have some time to myself to read a book or watch a movie with my husband who works from 7-9 on weekdays and 3 hours on weekends.

This is sounding more and more troll-ish. I kind of hope you're making this all up.

You cannot wake up before 8 to help your teen daughter prioritize sleep because you need to read a book or watch a movie. You are shocked that a teenager rolls their eyes, therefore you take away all screens.

Be a loving parent. Feed the cats for her, then talk to her when she wakes up. Most teens are sleeping until 11 or later whenever they get the chance. They need it.

So you expect me not to have any time to myself? If you were a parent you would know that that is necessary or you will become burnt out. Especially with 3 kids and a husband who is constantly working. Plus during the week she wakes up at 6 to take care of the cats so there is no reason for me to. On the weekends its her sister usually even though I dont agree that she should be the one having to do the work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds amazing. I can’t believe she’s taken on all that responsibility. Even as an adult, that would be a lot. If she mentioned to you previously she was exhausted and you or her sibling were already up, I’d just do what needed to be done and let her sleep.

Oh trust me, she's not.

You are a shitty mother. I could never fathom saying this about any of my kids, and they've had their moments. The buck stops with you and if your daughter is so terrible it's your fault.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why shes always in such a bad mood or has such bad attitude. She talks to us rudely and rolls her eyes. Instead of saying OK like a normal person she says Okayyyyyy while rolling her eyes or instead of saying what she says WHAT in a rude tone. Her 12 year old sister isnt like this.

You seem like a very sensitive person. You need a thicker skin to live with teenaged girls. Don’t take out your hurt feelings on your dd.

We do punish her. We take away screen time. Once she had only had 5 minutes for all apps total. If this doesn't prove her crappy behavior I don't know what will.

You’re talking about what punishments you’ve given her, not what her offenses were. Nothing you’ve said helps your case.

The offenses are her attitude and he way of speaking with us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds amazing. I can’t believe she’s taken on all that responsibility. Even as an adult, that would be a lot. If she mentioned to you previously she was exhausted and you or her sibling were already up, I’d just do what needed to be done and let her sleep.

Oh trust me, she's not.

You are a shitty mother. I could never fathom saying this about any of my kids, and they've had their moments. The buck stops with you and if your daughter is so terrible it's your fault.

I love my daughter but she is far from being an "amazing" daughter. An amazing daughter would do chores without having to be asked, be respectful and speak nicely to her parents etc..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds amazing. I can’t believe she’s taken on all that responsibility. Even as an adult, that would be a lot. If she mentioned to you previously she was exhausted and you or her sibling were already up, I’d just do what needed to be done and let her sleep.

Oh trust me, she's not.

You are a shitty mother. I could never fathom saying this about any of my kids, and they've had their moments. The buck stops with you and if your daughter is so terrible it's your fault.

I love my daughter but she is far from being an "amazing" daughter. An amazing daughter would do chores without having to be asked, be respectful and speak nicely to her parents etc..

Well whose fault is that?

[Anonymous]

Plus she is extremely polite and helpful at friends houses - I have received so many comments about her helping with the dishes, being very polite etc..- why cant she do this at her own house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds amazing. I can’t believe she’s taken on all that responsibility. Even as an adult, that would be a lot. If she mentioned to you previously she was exhausted and you or her sibling were already up, I’d just do what needed to be done and let her sleep.

Oh trust me, she's not.

You are a shitty mother. I could never fathom saying this about any of my kids, and they've had their moments. The buck stops with you and if your daughter is so terrible it's your fault.

I love my daughter but she is far from being an "amazing" daughter. An amazing daughter would do chores without having to be asked, be respectful and speak nicely to her parents etc..

Well whose fault is that?

Her own since the other kids aren't like that at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Plus she is extremely polite and helpful at friends houses - I have received so many comments about her helping with the dishes, being very polite etc..- why cant she do this at her own house?

Probably because she doesn't like or respect you because of everything you've told us today. Can't wait for a "why doesn't my daughter speak to me" post from you in five years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your daughter sounds amazing. I can’t believe she’s taken on all that responsibility. Even as an adult, that would be a lot. If she mentioned to you previously she was exhausted and you or her sibling were already up, I’d just do what needed to be done and let her sleep.

Oh trust me, she's not.

Holy shit! You’re an ass!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plus she is extremely polite and helpful at friends houses - I have received so many comments about her helping with the dishes, being very polite etc..- why cant she do this at her own house?

Probably because she doesn't like or respect you because of everything you've told us today. Can't wait for a "why doesn't my daughter speak to me" post from you in five years.

We do everything for them. Whatever sports they want to do, If they want new books, and we agreed to these foster cats.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plus she is extremely polite and helpful at friends houses - I have received so many comments about her helping with the dishes, being very polite etc..- why cant she do this at her own house?

Probably because she doesn't like or respect you because of everything you've told us today. Can't wait for a "why doesn't my daughter speak to me" post from you in five years.

We do everything for them. Whatever sports they want to do, If they want new books, and we agreed to these foster cats.

Literally who cares? That's not what kids want or need. They want and need to feel loved and accepted by their parents. Your posts are dripping in disdain for your own child. I promise you she senses that and gives it right back. For the love of God read a parenting book during your many hours of "me time" every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plus she is extremely polite and helpful at friends houses - I have received so many comments about her helping with the dishes, being very polite etc..- why cant she do this at her own house?

Probably because she doesn't like or respect you because of everything you've told us today. Can't wait for a "why doesn't my daughter speak to me" post from you in five years.

We do everything for them. Whatever sports they want to do, If they want new books, and we agreed to these foster cats.

Literally who cares? That's not what kids want or need. They want and need to feel loved and accepted by their parents. Your posts are dripping in disdain for your own child. I promise you she senses that and gives it right back. For the love of God read a parenting book during your many hours of "me time" every night.

Like I always tell her: "With you attitude nobody wants to be around you." She knows why. She doesn't change.