Helping 3rd grade girl "look cool" without compromising herself

[Anonymous]

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/kids/p/essential-full-zip-hoodie-61410327?categoryId=6316564&faceout=model&seq=04&pagefm=navigation-grid&prodvm=navigation-grid

This is a great hoodie for girls this age (it has lulu scuba vibes).

[Anonymous]

I have a high school age daughter. I, too, noticed a shift in 3rd grade. Half the girls dress like children and half like miniature adults. The boys all dress the same!

I would not encourage the “teenager” look for a 3rd grader. First, your daughter has the wrong friends. Second, let her pick her own style (obviously within reason.)

I do not know where you are currently purchasing clothing. However, you could taking your daughter shopping at a couple mid range stores and let her try on a variety of items to see what she likes.

I disagree with the above. I lived in Chevy Chase and bought my child clothes everywhere from Old Navy to Nordstrom. I would not encourage brand signaling.

Old Navy, though not the most durable, has a lot of variety and plenty of items in store on.

Uniqlo has a lot of kids basics and graphic tees. The graphic tees at Uniqlo sway less “babyish”.

Gap Kids, Dicks Sporting Goods.

Does your daughter like the clothes of any particular friends? Ask the parents where they buy clothing.

Take her to see choices. Try on and see what is comfortable. Feel the fabric. Look at colors. Go and stop for some hot chocolate when you’re out to make it fun!

Shoes. I do find brand name shoes are more durable and supportive. Though fit here is key. Have her try on shoes. Pains me to see children (and adults) walking around in shoes that don’t fit and their feet rolling in!!

[Anonymous]

so pathetic

[Anonymous]

My 8 yr old really likes Boden clothes (and Hanna) and specifically likes the clothes some of you are deriding as "geriatric and babyish." Like she actively likes them and will choose them over the more "cool" options people are recommending here. She is a kid who still like pink and flowers and ruffles. It is her genuine preference and when she sees other kids wearing clothes like that she will tell me "oh I really like that dress."

If she gets flak for it at school I don't hear about it. But to be honest, she doesn't seem overly impressed with her classmates opinions on things so even if they don't like how she dresses, I doubt she cares.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 yr old really likes Boden clothes (and Hanna) and specifically likes the clothes some of you are deriding as "geriatric and babyish." Like she actively likes them and will choose them over the more "cool" options people are recommending here. She is a kid who still like pink and flowers and ruffles. It is her genuine preference and when she sees other kids wearing clothes like that she will tell me "oh I really like that dress."

If she gets flak for it at school I don't hear about it. But to be honest, she doesn't seem overly impressed with her classmates opinions on things so even if they don't like how she dresses, I doubt she cares.

That's great for your DD. If that's her style then that's what she should wear. (My DD would be roasting (turtle neck, cardigan, and corduroy!!!) and probably itchy at the neck in the Boden outfit posted, FWIW. Style aside, it doesn't really seem conducive to everyday school and play clothes for active third graders.) And if your DD is truly unbothered by being teased then she is a rarity among kids (and really humans), but good for her.

The OP's DD is not yours, however. She wants to blend in a bit more to shut some mean girls up. Let her. Folks on this thread are just answering OP's question and letting her know some fashion trends they are seeing. Big deal. Everyone relax.

[Anonymous]

the target athleisure for kids (I think it's all in motion) is cute and affordable. agree with PPs that abercrombie kids is a nice choice for a couple of "cooler" things.

I don't see anything wrong with this. She is asking you for help, right?

[Anonymous]

My DD is in third. If our school has a popular clique I am not aware of it but she is friends with everyone. I see a lot of the following kinds of outfits. I linked to target because brands are not a thing at our school but if they are and you don't mind spending more, I agree with the abercrombie kids rec.

Baggier athleisure pants like this: https://www.target.com/p/girls-airy-sleek-wide-leg-pants-all-in-motion/-/A-94741241?preselect=94396550&clkid=de9b5a03N40b011f0876c136d554195a9&cpng=PTID4&TCID=AFL-de9b5a03N40b011f0876c136d554195a9&im_rewards=1&afsrc=1&lnm=81938&afid=Ebates+Performance+Marketing%2C+Inc.+dba+Rakuten+Rewards&ref=tgt_adv_xasd0002#lnk=sametab

Flair leggings: https://www.target.com/p/girls-everyday-soft-flare-leggings-all-in-motion/-/A-91496582?preselect=90627552#lnk=sametab

Matching scuba looking top, this woul dbe cute in a matching set in a color: https://www.target.com/p/girls-fleece-1-2-zip-pullover-all-in-motion/-/A-94741251?preselect=94396681#lnk=sametab

Bows are having a moment: https://www.target.com/p/girls-ribbed-bow-cardigan-cat-jack/-/A-94691324?preselect=94664609#lnk=sametab

Wide leg jeans: https://www.target.com/p/girls-39-wide-leg-jeans-cat-38-jack-8482/-/A-94492244?preselect=94335064#lnk=sametab

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the target athleisure for kids (I think it's all in motion) is cute and affordable. agree with PPs that abercrombie kids is a nice choice for a couple of "cooler" things.

[b]I don't see anything wrong with this. She is asking you for help, right?[b]

Yeah,all these PPs think Op should what, tell her DD no? That's cruel. OP has gotten lots of good ideas in this thread -- and her DD can put her own spin on them. Listen to your DD, OP -- take her on a little shopping trip.

[Anonymous]

Yoga pants and cute sweatshirts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at Zara kids together or H&M to see how she can experiment with textures, silhouettes, etc. Wideleg jeans in pink with a fun printed T, "right" shoes, etc.

+1 to Zara kids