Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Ok, since the answers seem to mostly align, I will add a bit more color. My partner expects that our two under two will travel with her on every work trip because she will otherwise miss them, which means that I would likely have to accompany on most of those trips.
She has not had any work trips so far, but I have been trying to get ahead of the issue and manage expectations, as some might be forthcoming after the holidays. In discussions right now, she is saying that we just have different preferences regarding the reasonableness of work travel with kids and there is no reason why my standard or preference should matter more than hers. No perspective is more valid than the other; they're just different.
Any suggestions on how to approach this? I have no problem at all watching the kids while she is away on work trips, but this solution does not seem to satisfy her so far.
Her expectations are unreasonable. If she is unable to travel solo for work, she needs a job that doesn't require travel. And that is fine, it is some people's preference. But if her job requires travel, she goes without the kids. I would find it extremely odd if a coworker brought their spouse and child because they were going to miss them. That is not normal or healthy. But again if that is her mindset, she needs a job that aligns with that.
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