My DD is sliding into depression

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

Meh, it's a spot on a high school JV team. An ice cream cone and a hug should just about cover it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

Meh, it's a spot on a high school JV team. An ice cream cone and a hug should just about cover it.

This should work if that's what the doctor recommends... How would you treat the disproportionate outrage at the OP's ability to raise a resilient child?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

Meh, it's a spot on a high school JV team. An ice cream cone and a hug should just about cover it.

This should work if that's what the doctor recommends... How would you treat the disproportionate outrage at the OP's ability to raise a resilient child?

If OP and others like her don’t like the truth, they should get off the internet.

It’s a JV team. Maybe it was unfair, maybe it was fair. Every kid goes through something like this. Get over it.

What’s OP going to do when DD gets dumped, call her boyfriend’s mother?

Or gets a C on a paper when a less smart kid with a worse paper gets a B-? Perhaps OP should petition the school board and sulk with her child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

Meh, it's a spot on a high school JV team. An ice cream cone and a hug should just about cover it.

This should work if that's what the doctor recommends... How would you treat the disproportionate outrage at the OP's ability to raise a resilient child?

Ice cream cone and a hug for them too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What OP and others miss is this: if the other earlier cut girl had not been put on the roster, that doesn't mean OP DD would get on.

The outrageous part is that a girl who got cut early made it on the roster. If any of the girls who made it into the last round of tryouts was selected instead, this would be an entirely different conversation (or lack thereof). That's what the "life is unfair" mob doesn't get or refuses to acknowledge.

I think people DO get and acknowledge this. It's an injustice, one that doesn't make sense. You don't want to talk to the coach about it, and you and your daughter are both ruminating on it, resulting in her becoming depressed. This isn't healthy for either one of you. This is a setback, a disappointment, one of many that she will experience in her life. I know you think that this situation is "different" from other disappointments, but it isn't. It's a result of decisions that are outside of your control. I hope you get help for your daughter and possibly for yourself as well. This won't be the last time that something unfair happens to her and you need to learn how to parent through it without all of this sturm and drang.

You are not replying to the OP - this is something that I wrote. I agree that some people acknowledge the unfairness, but there are quite a few who simply blame the OP for not raising a more resilient DD. No shades of gray, no acknowledgement of injustice, just go for the jugular.

Meh, it's a spot on a high school JV team. An ice cream cone and a hug should just about cover it.

This should work if that's what the doctor recommends... How would you treat the disproportionate outrage at the OP's ability to raise a resilient child?

If OP and others like her don’t like the truth, they should get off the internet.

It’s a JV team. Maybe it was unfair, maybe it was fair. Every kid goes through something like this. Get over it.

What’s OP going to do when DD gets dumped, call her boyfriend’s mother?

Or gets a C on a paper when a less smart kid with a worse paper gets a B-? Perhaps OP should petition the school board and sulk with her child.

Because we all recognize the Internet as the beacon of truth. And everybody expressing opinions here is full of grace and not dismissive at all. If you cannot see how this is different from getting dumped by a boyfriend, you should probably hang on to your opinions a little longer. Or just go ahead and embarrass yourself because this is an anonymous forum and nobody will know anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"She is quite dizzy during the day, but at least she is not up all night thinking about why a shorter girl with less than 50% of her skills made her position on the team despite being cut earlier during tryouts. "

Something is wrong with you.

It is called tryouts for a reason. No matter how many times you type, the other kid wasn't as good as yours, the coaches disagreed. Or it was political, which is also a thing in sports tryouts. Always has been always will be. Does it make it right no, we all know that. Will it ever change? No.

Life is unfair. Instead of teaching your kid life skills like how to handle disappointment, you made your child suffer. For Volleyball.....

Grow up get your kid help asap, and read some good books on parenting because this reaction of your kid is on you. You failed as a parent to prepare them for rejection.

This below what I quoted is a way nicer response than you deserve, given you came on social media and ranted over and over again about a nothingburger. It's HS volleyball for god's sake.

"I do think you need to stop focusing on the girl who made the team you think should not have. You and daughter can’t control what coaches decide. Had 4 kids go through many levels and never had one coach who I didn’t think to myself could have picked different players, allocated playing time differently, or run other plays. They are the coach, it’s their job and their decision. Same thing once out of school and working, boss is going to do things not everyone agrees with for reasons unknown. Winter and spring sports just around the corner, plenty more opportunities to play sports."

NP. You know PP, I can't tell whether you're a troll or just a really bitter person, but while I also think OP's approach and details could be drastically improved, OP did come here asking opinions and for help and your tone is just ridiculously nasty and completely unproductive. Many others have raised questions and concerns about what OP wrote without being a jerk about it. But you're going all the way with the jerk part.

Get over yourself. And if you're trolling, still, get over yourself.