Parents who volunteer for everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only parents that annoy me are the ones who take every field trip slot. In my eldests grade it's one married couple. In 6 years I've never gotten to go on a field trip but this same couple is always there.
For every other volunteer slot, there is generally no competition and we're just there to get the job done.

Our elementary school allowed all parents who wanted to chaperone field trips to do so, but they only provided free admission and transportation for a limited number of chaperones. The rest had to pay for their admission provide their own transportation. They tried not to give free admission and transportation to the same parents every time. That seems like the fairest way to do it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only parents that annoy me are the ones who take every field trip slot. In my eldests grade it's one married couple. In 6 years I've never gotten to go on a field trip but this same couple is always there.
For every other volunteer slot, there is generally no competition and we're just there to get the job done.

When my kids were in ES, I usually didn’t sign up for field trips but let the teachers know I was available if they didn’t get enough volunteers. I got called for about 75% of those trips. I did sign up for one trip where the class was to meet a famous and widely admired person. That was the only trip I remember where parents came out the woodwork to volunteer, some of whom had never volunteered before. It was hilarious.

[Anonymous]

I did it because I wanted to know the teachers and administrators who were with my kids during the day. I wanted to know the kids with whom my kids were spending the day. I wanted it to be fun for everyone and not many people ever stepped up. I did it because it needed to be done and I was able to. I help put away chairs after the concert because I value the staff and am happy to help so they can go home sooner.

If you want a community, you need to do your part.

[Anonymous]

I appreciate those parents that willing to volunteer. I don’t understanding why some people judge them instead, yes they do it for their kids, but they also definitely help the class/program your kids also in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have some growing up to do, OP. Why be gratuitously nasty?

I'm a low-energy introvert, and occupying a board position for years on the elementary school's PTA was the most I could do.

But other people are different, and have lots of energy and want to help out a lot. That's great!

There just needs to be rules in place because there's always the risk of embezzlement or child abuse. Parents need to keep an eye out. My kids are adults and teens now, and I've seen my share of situations.

This is true. Maybe OP is the mom who got mad at me when I wouldn’t let her sell 50/50 tickets after she flat out stole from our kids’ scout troop.

[Anonymous]

it's the only way to have real glimpses into the school experience of your child. Volunteering for recess was a huge eye opener compared to more sugar coated official events.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm grateful for these parents so I don't have to volunteer at every event.

+100000 Don't be a hater just cuz you're lazy OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

What is the explanation for your character defect? Seriously, who thinks this way?

Someone who is wildly insecure and never volunteers for anything.

Yep. This is the only possible explanation because OP’s post is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh? We step up to coach, be scout leaders, volunteer at school because no one else will. Not trying to relive anything.

Field trips are fun, but my kids beg me to go on them. I only go on one per year per kid. I'm very annoyed at parents that sign up for every field trip because it doesn't give others opportunity to go.

PTA is where I draw the line. I'm not stepping up to do things that I think admin or central office should be doing. I also just want to treat teachers like professionals, not some pink collar job where we give them free snacks one week a year.

Your PTA resistance isn't convincing central office to do those things. They will just not happen. If you're ok, go forward, but know that otherwise you should still be grateful for parents to do pick up that slack.

[Anonymous]

We had so many volunteers, no professional was in charge. I have no respect for a school or organization that lets so much chaos reign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow that’s quite a take.

Yeah, it's extreme. I volunteer less than I could and I appreciate those who enjoy volunteering. I would never think to judge them for volunteering too much. WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

Have not read through the comments to this post but as a working parent with three kids can confirm that I have encountered maybe 1-2 moms who are kind of like this. The vibe to me is more like they see being present for all this stuff as their mom job. They either have one child and don’t work or have 2-3 kids and a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

Have not read through the comments to this post but as a working parent with three kids can confirm that I have encountered maybe 1-2 moms who are kind of like this. The vibe to me is more like they see being present for all this stuff as their mom job. They either have one child and don’t work or have 2-3 kids and a nanny.

And I will add I don’t find it annoying. I volunteer when I can and don’t begrudge other parents who volunteer more. And I don’t take their inventory beyond clocking they find being present important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

Have not read through the comments to this post but as a working parent with three kids can confirm that I have encountered maybe 1-2 moms who are kind of like this. The vibe to me is more like they see being present for all this stuff as their mom job. They either have one child and don’t work or have 2-3 kids and a nanny.

The moms and dads at our school who volunteer take off work to do it 🤷‍♀️ There are definitely some SAHMs who don’t help out. But I guess if they did, they’d be judged negatively anyway…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

Have not read through the comments to this post but as a working parent with three kids can confirm that I have encountered maybe 1-2 moms who are kind of like this. The vibe to me is more like they see being present for all this stuff as their mom job. They either have one child and don’t work or have 2-3 kids and a nanny.

The moms and dads at our school who volunteer take off work to do it 🤷‍♀️ There are definitely some SAHMs who don’t help out. But I guess if they did, they’d be judged negatively anyway…

I’m very active at school. I’m one of the few SAHMs. Most of the very involved moms are all working moms. They just prioritize their kids.

I sometimes see a few negative busy moms. They often are the complainers. I personally can’t stand people who complain yet don’t contribute.