Parents who volunteer for everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree there is a happy medium. I feel bad for the kids whose parent is always at their activity with no room to breathe.

I would do a few in person volunteering, made sure i was not at every field trip, did some volunteering in the background (treasurer), and coached a sport a few years but not all of them.

If your parent is your coach every.single.year for every.single.sport - red flag.
If you parent lives at the school.... red flag.

You have no idea if the kids prefer it that way. I volunteer a lot but there are plenty of times my kids are at things where I am not. And I have met exactly zero moms or dads on the volunteer circuit who didn't step back if their kid asked them to.

[Anonymous]

These parents are not ‘reliving’ their youth. They are the ones who have to tell the kids constantly to quit horseplaying, to be quiet at a music competition, to line up in straight lines, to follow the rules, etc. It can be exhausting at the end of a volunteer gig and yet these parents have to pickup garbage off if the classroom floors and haul heavy containers of items to and from cars. Sorry, Op, you are wrong on this one. I’m very thankful for people who step up. It’s much easier to stay home with your feet up.

[Anonymous]

As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see worksheets/study materials for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree there is a happy medium. I feel bad for the kids whose parent is always at their activity with no room to breathe.

I would do a few in person volunteering, made sure i was not at every field trip, did some volunteering in the background (treasurer), and coached a sport a few years but not all of them.

If your parent is your coach every.single.year for every.single.sport - red flag.
If you parent lives at the school.... red flag.

You have no idea if the kids prefer it that way. I volunteer a lot but there are plenty of times my kids are at things where I am not. And I have met exactly zero moms or dads on the volunteer circuit who didn't step back if their kid asked them to.

You seem pretty defensive for someone who this comment doesn't even apply to, you might want to figure out why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad they have an outlet. I'm busy.

[Anonymous]

Oh my gosh, OP. That is such a sour view. What’s going on?

Thank you to all the volunteers. They help all children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

Did you read it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh, OP. That is such a sour view. What’s going on?

Thank you to all the volunteers. They help all children.

Do they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a frequent volunteer here is my 2 cent. OP, you should not feel bad for the parents who volunteer at all. I am sure they do it because it makes them feel good. I love to volunteer for everything because I get to spend time with my kids. I feel I am able to help the entire class and the teachers and also elevate the experience for my own child.

For example - if we are on a field trip to the museum, I am able to read up on the exhibits and teach/instruct my kids on that subject, much before we visit the museum. We watch documentaries about the subject, we look at images on the net etc. So, when I go with my kid to the museum, they have the background knowledge to look at the artifacts and make the connection. I am not a fan of how field trips are conducted in our schools. At school, these kids are not taught about what they are going to see and experience at these field-trips. They do not connect it to the curriculum or even general knowledge topics. I hardly ever see for the students for the field-trip.

On the other hand, the teachers remain the glorified babysitters for the students. They have their hands full with dealing with kids who are unwell (parents have dosed them with tylenol and send them for the field trip), SN kids who have behavioral problems and are having full on meltdowns, kids who have not been dressed appropriately for the weather by their parents and are shivering in the cold, and kids who did not bring their lunch or snacks.

As a parent, I am responsible for my assigned group of 2-3 kids. I make a small group chat with their parents to introduce myself and find out about allergies etc. The day of the fieldtrip I take pictures of the kids before the start of the trip and send it to the group chat, so that I have picture of what the kid looks like and what they are wearing. Throughout the trip, I take pics and send it on the group chat to the parents. I carry wipes, kleenex, hand sanitizer, rain ponchos, extra snacks, small bottles of water etc.

But, most of all, I love to see the happiness on my kid's face to know that I am around and they know it that I am there because I love them. I don't need for other people's children to love me at all - they are my responsibility for the duration of the trip. My kindness and care is to make the kids comfortable and compliant, so that I am able to discharge my duty as a chaperone in the most incident-free and safe way that I can.

Did you read it?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm grateful for these parents so I don't have to volunteer at every event.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh my gosh, OP. That is such a sour view. What’s going on?

Thank you to all the volunteers. They help all children.

Do they?

Aah! Someone with an axe to grind.

[Anonymous]

I feel a strong sense of duty to support the people and institutions that have a big impact on my kids’ life. There’s no amount of money that can replace parent involvement and participation (both at home and at school, scouts, sports, etc .) and not doing so at all is pretty damn selfish unless you are a single parent or otherwise strained. I don’t always love the jobs (cleaning pots and pans for spaghetti night) and I certainly don’t think their peers care who I am as long as I’m ‘fair’ and help them have fun. Made a couple good parent friends this way but not sure if we will last past school years. So no I’m not doing it for myself at all.

I think you have some major issues op. Probably social anxiety. Get some help so you don’t pass that burden onto your kids.