What is your biggest stressor in life right now?

[Anonymous]

Money. Prices are rising exponentially - no matter what the data says - and I have kids to feed.

[Anonymous]

Husband not working. Focused on not bring income but on distractions!

[Anonymous]

-Not worrying about various wars. (Fux it!)
-Not worrying about the imminent pandemic. (Though I am good with vaccinations and timely medical upkeep).
-Not worrying about inflation. (We have scope to cut down expenses.)
-Not worrying about Trump. (Fixed term of presidency. And he is an old man)
-Not worrying about Crime. (We have a gun and other protection)
- Not worrying about female reproductive rights. (We can go to country of origin for all medical tourism, plus kids are sensible)
- Not worrying about AI. (Too many stupid and ill-educated people to be ever able to use AI properly. Besides, if everyone is unemployed, who will buy Amazon stuff?)
- Not worried about Global Warming? (Fux it)
- Not worried about microplastics. (Lessen use. Try and remain healthy. Fux it)
- My Cancer. (ok. Fux it too. It is annoying but I will be ok)
- Not worried about DH's job security. (We are retirement age. kids are done with college. We have good savings)
- Not worried about our house payments( Low mortgage. Decent sized home).
- Not worried about retirement. (We will age in place)
- Worried about my grown kids future. (They are saving and being careful. We will bankroll as much as we can).

[Anonymous]

We just got a 9 week old puppy. It's an adorable stressor but still a ton of work.

[Anonymous]

Divorce process

[Anonymous]

Child with serious medical condition going to college in less than 2 weeks. We were hoping the medications would have been sorted out by now but kid recently had a relapse. So now I have to worry about my kid taking meds on time, getting enough sleep, limiting alcohol, eating well, etc. Basically all the stuff that college kids are bad at doing. Ugh 😩

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what are you going to do about it?

I think my house is haunted. Someone keeps moving my cheese.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My pending green card application. I do not want to be arrested when I go to the interview.

The reason it's stressful is that I cannot do anything about it.

I hear ya. My husband just applied for citizenship. I don’t know if we’ll be having a party or paying a lawyer the afternoon of his interview. Do I bring our kids so they can be there for the ceremony or leave them so they aren’t traumatized if he doesn’t come out?

Also, can he go to Home Depot and not be abducted? Should he avoid going into DC? Which of us should carry proof of citizenship for the kids? I’m up for hours every night thinking on these questions.

[Anonymous]

Work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And what are you going to do about it?

Someone needs to paint my house. I'm not sure who to hire.

[Anonymous]

My agency got DOGE-ed and 2/3 of my colleagues are gone. I’m grateful to have a job still, but it is grim.

At home, my daughter has cancer, and my son, who just graduated from college, has not found a job in his field yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:-Not worrying about various wars. (Fux it!)
-Not worrying about the imminent pandemic. (Though I am good with vaccinations and timely medical upkeep).
-Not worrying about inflation. (We have scope to cut down expenses.)
-Not worrying about Trump. (Fixed term of presidency. And he is an old man)
-Not worrying about Crime. (We have a gun and other protection)
- Not worrying about female reproductive rights. (We can go to country of origin for all medical tourism, plus kids are sensible)
- Not worrying about AI. (Too many stupid and ill-educated people to be ever able to use AI properly. Besides, if everyone is unemployed, who will buy Amazon stuff?)
- Not worried about Global Warming? (Fux it)
- Not worried about microplastics. (Lessen use. Try and remain healthy. Fux it)
- My Cancer. (ok. Fux it too. It is annoying but I will be ok)
- Not worried about DH's job security. (We are retirement age. kids are done with college. We have good savings)
- Not worried about our house payments( Low mortgage. Decent sized home).
- Not worried about retirement. (We will age in place)
- Worried about my grown kids future. (They are saving and being careful. We will bankroll as much as we can).

I can't tell if you are NOT worrying about these but this list would be similar to what stresses me out. There are too many to just list the one biggest stressor.

[Anonymous]

My dyslexic kid is about to start high school. Hoping his new IEP provides the right supports and his supplemental tutoring helps. Middle school was a disaster and I'm hoping this is better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:-Not worrying about various wars. (Fux it!)
-Not worrying about the imminent pandemic. (Though I am good with vaccinations and timely medical upkeep).
-Not worrying about inflation. (We have scope to cut down expenses.)
-Not worrying about Trump. (Fixed term of presidency. And he is an old man)
-Not worrying about Crime. (We have a gun and other protection)
- Not worrying about female reproductive rights. (We can go to country of origin for all medical tourism, plus kids are sensible)
- Not worrying about AI. (Too many stupid and ill-educated people to be ever able to use AI properly. Besides, if everyone is unemployed, who will buy Amazon stuff?)
- Not worried about Global Warming? (Fux it)
- Not worried about microplastics. (Lessen use. Try and remain healthy. Fux it)
- My Cancer. (ok. Fux it too. It is annoying but I will be ok)
- Not worried about DH's job security. (We are retirement age. kids are done with college. We have good savings)
- Not worried about our house payments( Low mortgage. Decent sized home).
- Not worried about retirement. (We will age in place)
- Worried about my grown kids future. (They are saving and being careful. We will bankroll as much as we can).

I can't tell if you are NOT worrying about these but this list would be similar to what stresses me out. There are too many to just list the one biggest stressor.

Make an exhaustive list and forget about those things that you cannot do anything about.

Then take practical steps - work on your health, make sure that you are immunized, eat healthy, exercise, take care of your home security, save money at home, let your kids stay at home so that they can save money on rent, create a peaceful environment at home, put effort towards your skills and education, be nice to people around you, pray, declutter your home, put your legal papers together, get in touch with your friends and relatives etc. You can only take practical steps for things that you can control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 21 year old son who has mental health and substance use issues. I worry constantly. I’m in therapy and keep working on helping him to get better - including better boundaries for myself

Wishing the best for you, your DA and your family!