What is your biggest stressor in life right now?

[Anonymous]

Our gender-nonconforming daughter. Super smart, but wasted away her college years because, to her, being queer was more important than just about anything else, including a good career.

[Anonymous]

outside of politics/the world (which is a huge stressor)

My mom, for whom I am responsible, is in the later stages of dementia. She has no one else (in part because she moved to be near me and in part because she is widowed and my sibling is not capable or interested in doing anything much at all). Caring for her was actually more stressful last year, when I was constantly in/out of the doctors, hospital, fielding 30 calls a day from her. At this more advanced stage, it is just sad and I know it will also be stressful when she is very sick and then, after, when she passes and I will be executor.

My son, who is 15, and has some neurological disabilities (but he is also very bright), does not seem to be growing up/more responsible/sensible and definitely has mental health issues. Yes, he is in therapy, we have been in one form of therapy or coaching or whatever since he was TWO and diagnosed. I really wonder if he will ever be functional on his own. Still manages to lose everything, fail to turn in work, destroy things in the house (mostly not intentionally but you would not believe how he is, like a toddler still. He has broken multiple 'permanent ink' pens on wood floors; broken his sink off, broken tiles, holes in the wall, and then, intentionally, destroyed a few other things). He has gotten in trouble at school for saying things that he thinks are okay but they are not (social communication challenges), etc, AND he and my spouse have a bad relationship.

My work--tons of work and drowning under deadlines, understaffed (lost people, staff freeze, increased programming load) plus lots of international travel this fall and when I travel, spouse and aforementioned son usually manage to spectacularly fail at managing their anger and get into some kind of conflict or crisis.

Spouse's job--on the line (fed, agency under attack) so I feel like I need to keep my job even though I'm drowning.

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things that are okay:
we are going to be okay, financially, even if spouse loses job. we will manage
my daughter is doing well, better than last year.
my health, so far so good. could be better, could exercise more, drink less, etc but I'm taking better care of myself than last year.
my marriage---apart from parenting disagreements/stressors, we are okay. not particularly romantic/passionate, but I think solid enough.

[Anonymous]

Money. I'm a single parent who is trying my hardest to do it all on a single income and I can't. I'm employed and looking for other jobs, as I have been for some time now. However, the job market is brutal and nothing has worked out so far.

But that is nothing compared to my friend who is fighting glioblastoma. Literally fighting for her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our gender-nonconforming daughter. Super smart, but wasted away her college years because, to her, being queer was more important than just about anything else, including a good career.

You allowed this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our gender-nonconforming daughter. Super smart, but wasted away her college years because, to her, being queer was more important than just about anything else, including a good career.

Exploring who you are when you are still young is the foundation upon which a career is built. Skipping that important step can result in huge problems later in life. You should be supporting your actual daughter rather than trying to turn her into an extension of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our gender-nonconforming daughter. Super smart, but wasted away her college years because, to her, being queer was more important than just about anything else, including a good career.

You allowed this.

How many lives do you fundamentalists need to destroy before you take some responsibility for your own actions? People are suffering because of how you treat them as lesser beings.

[Anonymous]

My 17 yr old DD having lost her friend group. Watching her struggle is stressing me out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our gender-nonconforming daughter. Super smart, but wasted away her college years because, to her, being queer was more important than just about anything else, including a good career.

You allowed this.

dp.. how did the PP allow this? Do you think the PP didn't tell their DC that college was super important?

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Anonymous wrote:The cult of stupidity

Our children will live in a land run by old white Christian child abusers women haters and criminals

Yes this keeps me up at night

Especially thinking of college educated Catholic women that voted for this shit.

Yep I’m
Calling them out sane with orthodox. Jews.

💯 agree I am so concerned about the future of our country. We already lost our middle class but now the divide of the have and have Nots is getting even greater, women's rights are being eroded, it feels like on a daily basis, and I have a 20-year-old daughter, so that scares me, what I see happening with the immigrants in our country is shocking and I cannot believe we're allowing it to happen, and just the general hate I see in posts and in the general public towards people who are "different".

I would say our education system failed us, but I think it's really our legislative system that has failed us. Our legislators are not legislating. It's all about "winning" and nothing about what is a good for our people.

+1

I'm extremely concerned about my kids growing up in an oppressive environment with millions of people who actually chose this. WTF?

+1. We are trying to immigrate to another country.

my kids have dual citizenship, thank god.