Is it normal to get no matches on apps (man)?

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Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

DP, but my wife's best friend was like that. And she was actually very pretty. Not hot, but definitely cute. She refused to date any guy under 6 feet and without a graduate school degree. In the end it took her until 34 to land a guy. She married a tall, unattractive, bald guy who was recently divorced and had a daughter. And he was living with his mom.

I still laugh. He is a carpet salesman with a degree from NOVA CC, probably makes 55K.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is he short? That is the first bar that girls sort by.

He really needs to be at least 6 feet.

On apps, yes, that is true.

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Anonymous wrote:How tall is he? If he’s short he’s gonna have trouble on apps. It’s not fair, but it’s true.

I think he’s about 5’7 so yes a bit short. He’s about an inch taller than my husband. Why is height such a big deal on apps?

You can't be serious. Many women won't date someone shorter than 5 ft 10. He needs to meet people in person. 5 ft 7 is short.

Tom Cruise is 5'6". Patrick Swayze was 5'8" if even that tall.

Celebrities are loaded and have a public profile. That is not the normal population. They are not an app. In no way is that comparable. You filter for height on an app. No one is looking for a random stranger those heights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 26-year-old son is 5'10, average-looking, and has a good-paying job. He is also an introvert, but he has no shortage of women wanting to date him. He is a very good pickleball player and there are so many young women playing pickleball these days. That is how my son met them, and they played mixed doubles together. They usually go out to eat or drink after pickleball, so it does not have to be a date. Once the women found out that my son could sing and play the guitar, they all wanted to date him. The moral of the story is, in order to attract women, you must bring interesting things to the table, in addition to having $$$ and/or a good-paying job. YMMV.

And your son met them in person. That is the point. Apps for are above average--not average.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

DP, but my wife's best friend was like that. And she was actually very pretty. Not hot, but definitely cute. She refused to date any guy under 6 feet and without a graduate school degree. In the end it took her until 34 to land a guy. She married a tall, unattractive, bald guy who was recently divorced and had a daughter. And he was living with his mom.

I still laugh. He is a carpet salesman with a degree from NOVA CC, probably makes 55K.

1. A salesperson of any kind likely makes more than 100k.
2. I would only date for marriage the same requirements. I am above average attractiveness. I married an attorney (never married, no kids)...attractive but I am more attractive. I outearn him now. There is nothing wrong with that standard (grad degree and 6ft) as long as you are attractive yourself. I also have a grad degree and am 5 ft 7.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 26-year-old son is 5'10, average-looking, and has a good-paying job. He is also an introvert, but he has no shortage of women wanting to date him. He is a very good pickleball player and there are so many young women playing pickleball these days. That is how my son met them, and they played mixed doubles together. They usually go out to eat or drink after pickleball, so it does not have to be a date. Once the women found out that my son could sing and play the guitar, they all wanted to date him. The moral of the story is, in order to attract women, you must bring interesting things to the table, in addition to having $$$ and/or a good-paying job. YMMV.

And your son met them in person. That is the point. Apps for are above average--not average.

PP here.

Before 2022, I used to assume pickleball was just a retiree’s pastime. But over the last three years, I’ve noticed a huge shift—now it’s packed with young professionals, especially women, playing after work and on weekends. If I were OP’s son, I’d take up pickleball seriously and head to these courts to meet ambitious, like-minded women. It’s the perfect low-pressure social scene for introverts: fun, active, and full of opportunities to connect.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

DP, but my wife's best friend was like that. And she was actually very pretty. Not hot, but definitely cute. She refused to date any guy under 6 feet and without a graduate school degree. In the end it took her until 34 to land a guy. She married a tall, unattractive, bald guy who was recently divorced and had a daughter. And he was living with his mom.

I still laugh. He is a carpet salesman with a degree from NOVA CC, probably makes 55K.

1. A salesperson of any kind likely makes more than 100k.
2. I would only date for marriage the same requirements. I am above average attractiveness. I married an attorney (never married, no kids)...attractive but I am more attractive. I outearn him now. There is nothing wrong with that standard (grad degree and 6ft) as long as you are attractive yourself. I also have a grad degree and am 5 ft 7.

Complete BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

DP, but my wife's best friend was like that. And she was actually very pretty. Not hot, but definitely cute. She refused to date any guy under 6 feet and without a graduate school degree. In the end it took her until 34 to land a guy. She married a tall, unattractive, bald guy who was recently divorced and had a daughter. And he was living with his mom.

I still laugh. He is a carpet salesman with a degree from NOVA CC, probably makes 55K.

...this is pretty average for DC lol but I love that you're acting like it's a societal aberration.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is he short? That is the first bar that girls sort by.

He really needs to be at least 6 feet.

If he is under 6 feet he should not be trying to meet women on apps.

He needs to make sure he’s hitting the gym everyday and hopefully is already has a career making 6 figures and at least that in savings.

Short guys have to work a lot harder to find women these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

DP, but my wife's best friend was like that. And she was actually very pretty. Not hot, but definitely cute. She refused to date any guy under 6 feet and without a graduate school degree. In the end it took her until 34 to land a guy. She married a tall, unattractive, bald guy who was recently divorced and had a daughter. And he was living with his mom.

I still laugh. He is a carpet salesman with a degree from NOVA CC, probably makes 55K.

1. A salesperson of any kind likely makes more than 100k.
2. I would only date for marriage the same requirements. I am above average attractiveness. I married an attorney (never married, no kids)...attractive but I am more attractive. I outearn him now. There is nothing wrong with that standard (grad degree and 6ft) as long as you are attractive yourself. I also have a grad degree and am 5 ft 7.

Depends how attractive you are, above average is anyone in the top 50%. 6ft tall men only make up about 14% of the population. I agree if you’re very hot that it isn’t crazy to make 6ft your standard, but people are often wrong about their own hotness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How tall is he? If he’s short he’s gonna have trouble on apps. It’s not fair, but it’s true.

I think he’s about 5’7 so yes a bit short. He’s about an inch taller than my husband. Why is height such a big deal on apps?

You can't be serious. Many women won't date someone shorter than 5 ft 10. He needs to meet people in person. 5 ft 7 is short.

Tom Cruise is 5'6". Patrick Swayze was 5'8" if even that tall.

Celebrities are loaded and have a public profile. That is not the normal population. They are not an app. In no way is that comparable. You filter for height on an app. No one is looking for a random stranger those heights.

So all the women on the apps are basically prostitutes who want either a hot hookup or a loaded wealthy man?

Probably about right these days, with the OF generation of women.

[Anonymous]

Women will only swipe on the most attractive guys. It just means your son isn’t that attractive. He’ll have to figure out another way to meet a woman.

[Anonymous]

Want to maximize your matches? Based on what works, women are more likely to swipe right if your profile shows:

Social Proof – Photos with other women (subconsciously signals desirability)

The Dog Effect – A pup in your pics (instant approachability + trust)

Euro Backdrops – Travel shots in European cities (conveys sophistication and adventure)

Talent Flex – Videos playing piano/guitar (bonus points if you sing—swoon)

Lifestyle Tease – A glimpse of your Georgetown home (subtle status cue without being tacky)

It’s not just about looks—it’s about crafting intrigue, charm, and a vibe that stands out in a sea of low-effort profiles.

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Anonymous wrote:Want to maximize your matches? Based on what works, women are more likely to swipe right if your profile shows:

Social Proof – Photos with other women (subconsciously signals desirability)

The Dog Effect – A pup in your pics (instant approachability + trust)

Euro Backdrops – Travel shots in European cities (conveys sophistication and adventure)

Talent Flex – Videos playing piano/guitar (bonus points if you sing—swoon)

Lifestyle Tease – A glimpse of your Georgetown home (subtle status cue without being tacky)

It’s not just about looks—it’s about crafting intrigue, charm, and a vibe that stands out in a sea of low-effort profiles.

All women have to do is not be fat. Incredible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Want to maximize your matches? Based on what works, women are more likely to swipe right if your profile shows:

Social Proof – Photos with other women (subconsciously signals desirability)

The Dog Effect – A pup in your pics (instant approachability + trust)

Euro Backdrops – Travel shots in European cities (conveys sophistication and adventure)

Talent Flex – Videos playing piano/guitar (bonus points if you sing—swoon)

Lifestyle Tease – A glimpse of your Georgetown home (subtle status cue without being tacky)

It’s not just about looks—it’s about crafting intrigue, charm, and a vibe that stands out in a sea of low-effort profiles.

All women have to do is not be fat. Incredible.

There are millions of not-fat women out there that men think they're too good for.