Is it normal to get no matches on apps (man)?

[Anonymous]

According to AI," In the U.S., online dating has become the most common way for couples to meet, with nearly half of all couples meeting their partner through online platforms. Specifically, about 10% of all partnered adults met their spouse or partner through a dating site or app. This means that approximately 7% of all Americans have met their current partner online."

Pew research doesn't differ. LGBTQ have a higher rate but even that's nowhere near as high as you suggested.


https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/02/key-findings-about-online-dating-in-the-u-s/#:~:text=One%2Din%2Dten%20partnered%20adults,partnered%20LGB%20adults%20(24%25).

[Anonymous]

Investors of dating apps seem to exaggerate these numbers to increase interest.

[Anonymous]

Numbers of average looking, average height, educated, employed, socially competent decent men with no debt and no addiction are very low so if they aren't getting any hits, women are clearly making bad choices. Which explains why they can't get men to commit to marriage or marry men who can't handle marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not us, this is our son who is 26. He hasn't had much luck with women and only had one previous girlfriend at 22 that lasted for a year. Our son is athletic, has a good job, pretty normal looking. But he recently made a comment to us saying he has nowhere to meet women his age in person and is forced to use dating apps which I guess is normal these days? He said he's been on a few apps and basically can't get a date from them. Is this normal? He is shy and introverted which I think makes it a lot harder for guys like him.

Most all the dating apps are owned by a small group of people.

They work together to keep men and women single as long as possible to get more click generated advertising revenue.

They will shadow ban, or learn your preferences and match you with people you don't want, lose your messages, censor your messages or profile, etc.

[Anonymous]

Is he willing to initiate contact and to drive the conversation on the app? I'm a guy and I've had success online dating but I had drive the interaction in every case. If he is sitting around waiting for a woman to express interest or ask interesting questions, in my experience, that will rarely happen on an OLD app. My approach was to reach out to women I found interesting and try to go on at least a date per week. I gained experience and became much more confident.

[Anonymous]

Most average guys don't really get many matches. He should have someone look over his profile and photofeeler is great for feedback on photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not us, this is our son who is 26. He hasn't had much luck with women and only had one previous girlfriend at 22 that lasted for a year. Our son is athletic, has a good job, pretty normal looking. But he recently made a comment to us saying he has nowhere to meet women his age in person and is forced to use dating apps which I guess is normal these days? He said he's been on a few apps and basically can't get a date from them. Is this normal? He is shy and introverted which I think makes it a lot harder for guys like him.

There is a reason women aren't getting good matches who are interested in commitment. They are passing on good guys and going after cheaters, narcissists and alcoholics because they talk smooth, look tall or show off money.

An outcome as old as time. Women are attracted to the dark triad of personality characteristics, and that's not going to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not us, this is our son who is 26. He hasn't had much luck with women and only had one previous girlfriend at 22 that lasted for a year. Our son is athletic, has a good job, pretty normal looking. But he recently made a comment to us saying he has nowhere to meet women his age in person and is forced to use dating apps which I guess is normal these days? He said he's been on a few apps and basically can't get a date from them. Is this normal? He is shy and introverted which I think makes it a lot harder for guys like him.

I don't if it's true or not, but someone told me that at age women tend to want men who are "toxic"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't matter if it's OLD or real life, if he's shy and introverted he's going to struggle.

I've dated shy, introverted men who I genuinely liked but it was always a MASSIVE struggle. They were too afraid to ask me out, couldn't plan a date, couldn't go out for very long because it was too exhausted, conversations were like pulling teeth, etc. I felt bad because they were genuinely great guys, but I don't want to do all the heavy lifting in a relationship.

The best thing would be for him to get a coach to help him learn some social skills and get over his shyness. Everything else is just a waste until he does that.

I am sorry but that's not a shy and introverted man. I am shy and introverted. I plan date, we have hours long convos with fiancee, we have amazing sex.

I am sorry but you dated an autistic man. Nothing wrong with that.

Shy and introverted men do the same things other men do. The big difference is that we need more momentum of solitude. Any person who can't plan a date, can't have a conversation and/or shakes when they speak is not a shy or introverted, they are just autistic

[Anonymous]

My biggest worry isn't him meeting someone, but falling in love with the first one that shows him genuine interests. And unfortunately for whatever reasons men like your son tend to end up with women who are promiscuous and/or have a history of cheating. These kind of women are like sharks. They smell the "nice guy" from far away and prey on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not us, this is our son who is 26. He hasn't had much luck with women and only had one previous girlfriend at 22 that lasted for a year. Our son is athletic, has a good job, pretty normal looking. But he recently made a comment to us saying he has nowhere to meet women his age in person and is forced to use dating apps which I guess is normal these days? He said he's been on a few apps and basically can't get a date from them. Is this normal? He is shy and introverted which I think makes it a lot harder for guys like him.

I don't if it's true or not, but someone told me that at age women tend to want men who are "toxic"

Some, maybe. But you definitely can't say all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Some, maybe. But you definitely can't say all.

Most. Hot babes love guys who treat them poorly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How tall is he? If he’s short he’s gonna have trouble on apps. It’s not fair, but it’s true.

I think he’s about 5’7 so yes a bit short. He’s about an inch taller than my husband. Why is height such a big deal on apps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Some, maybe. But you definitely can't say all.

Most. Hot babes love guys who treat them poorly.

Untrue. People with childhood issues might. Normal, well adjusted women like men who treat them like royalty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How tall is he? If he’s short he’s gonna have trouble on apps. It’s not fair, but it’s true.

I think he’s about 5’7 so yes a bit short. He’s about an inch taller than my husband. Why is height such a big deal on apps?

You can't be serious. Many women won't date someone shorter than 5 ft 10. He needs to meet people in person. 5 ft 7 is short.