Is it normal to get no matches on apps (man)?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Funny, my DD has the opposite experience. The men all still want to live in the hook up world and no one wants to actually date. She hates the apps for that reason.

This is something you need to understand: most men on dating apps cannot hookup very easily. Only the top 10-20%. For a huge % of guys, actually most of them, the only way to get consistent sex is to be in a committed relationship. So if a guy is non committal it means he has a steady stream of women going for him, probably an indication your daughter is going for only hot men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 26-year-old son is 5'10, average-looking, and has a good-paying job. He is also an introvert, but he has no shortage of women wanting to date him. He is a very good pickleball player and there are so many young women playing pickleball these days. That is how my son met them, and they played mixed doubles together. They usually go out to eat or drink after pickleball, so it does not have to be a date. Once the women found out that my son could sing and play the guitar, they all wanted to date him. The moral of the story is, in order to attract women, you must bring interesting things to the table, in addition to having $$$ and/or a good-paying job. YMMV.

An introvert who can also sing and willing to do so in public. You don't find them every day. Do women really care about $$? I am not sure. I know that won't impress my daughter. She comes from money and she is starting med school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Funny, my DD has the opposite experience. The men all still want to live in the hook up world and no one wants to actually date. She hates the apps for that reason.

Because she is stuck in the rut that the PP said, she thinks she must find "someone her age" and meet all the list requirements.

She must date 10-20 years older if she wants an actual marriage. Men in their 20s to 30s are still too immature these days for marriage that won't end in divorce.

Ew, found the old man trying to get young women to date them. They don’t want you. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's going for women who are too hot for him.
BTDT with my cousin. The truth is he WAS getting matches but they weren't up to his smokin-hot standards. He was basically only open to dating a bombshell.

It’s usually this. Some men have very unrealistic standards.

It is the opposite. Men will generally be happy with anyone even marginally attractive and not an emotional mess.

Noticing this among younger generations.
The men want to date, but the women are all thinking they are models and nobody is tall, rich, hot enough for them.

Probably why so many young women are single now.

Unfortunately it’s true in a lot of cases. I know a few young women in their 20’s (friends of my gf) who are overweight, not pretty, and very broke who still hold out for a tall rich man. I’ve even tried to set them up with a few of my friends who are decent guys with decent jobs and they reject them upon seeing their photos (these are very normal looking guys, average heights).

So many women are delusional nowadays

You sound like a big fat liar

[Anonymous]

He needs a woman or two to look over his profile and not his mom. He should also run it through Chat-GPT for a little polishing of the wording. It helps.

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Anonymous wrote:How tall is he? If he’s short he’s gonna have trouble on apps. It’s not fair, but it’s true.

I think he’s about 5’7 so yes a bit short. He’s about an inch taller than my husband. Why is height such a big deal on apps?

You can't be serious. Many women won't date someone shorter than 5 ft 10. He needs to meet people in person. 5 ft 7 is short.

All sensible women under 5'.7 would date guys 5'.7 and up, if they are looking for marriage. Height doesn't commit, doesn't earn, doesn't comfort, doesn't help with chores, doesn't default good sex, doesn't come debt free. It can but not necessarily. Height is only necessary if you are tall yourself.

You would be wrong. I know plenty of women—even short ones—who only date over 5 ft 10. On an app, you can easily filter for it.

I am 5 ft 7. 3 inches taller is the minimum I ever considered for marriage.

I know many men who would not marry a woman under 5 ft 6 in because they did not want short kids.

[Anonymous]

Is he getting no matches or no dates? My brother-in-law is 43, has a good job, is good looking...so he gets matches but he's on the spectrum so then he just plays message tennis with them for five days. By then most women in their late 30s are like, uh, no, I'm not here for a penpal, and they unmatched him. If your son is shy, I wonder if he's not being direct and asking them out. I'm in my 30s and when I was on the apps if a guy didn't ask me out within a day or so I would phase him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he short? That is the first bar that girls sort by.

He really needs to be at least 6 feet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do women really care about $$? I am not sure.

What kind of question is that? It's what they care about the most.

[Anonymous]

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You sound like a big fat liar

Aside from the women are delusional nowadays part.

[Anonymous]

For women, the concept of "pre-selection" plays a significant role in attraction. In simple terms, a woman is more likely to be interested in a man who is already surrounded by other attractive women. This signals to her that he likely possesses desirable traits such as:

Financial stability

Intelligence and a good sense of humor

A likable, easygoing personality

It's similar to buying a $5 million home with a pre-approved loan—the value has already been validated. In the case of OP’s son, he should consider posting photos of himself in relaxed social settings with attractive women. Including these on his online dating profile will significantly boost his chances of getting matches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not us, this is our son who is 26. He hasn't had much luck with women and only had one previous girlfriend at 22 that lasted for a year. Our son is athletic, has a good job, pretty normal looking. But he recently made a comment to us saying he has nowhere to meet women his age in person and is forced to use dating apps which I guess is normal these days? He said he's been on a few apps and basically can't get a date from them. Is this normal? He is shy and introverted which I think makes it a lot harder for guys like him.

Has he "liked" 100 profiles?

Is he "liking" regular people or only supermodels?

[Anonymous]

He needs to get involved in volunteer work, a running club, community theater (he can do behind the scenes stuff if shy)... something where he can meet people in person.

[Anonymous]

Is he short?

Short men can't use OLD.