Is it weird for a married man to chat up women and pet their dog?

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with talking to beautiful women.

Shame any and all charismatic middle aged men who seek to make pretty girls laugh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

The man is flirting with a stranger for 5 minutes. Does he see these people again? No? Then just let him flirt.

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Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

The man is flirting with a stranger for 5 minutes. Does he see these people again? No? Then just let him flirt.

Cheating is about proximity, opportunity, and often a numbers game. Sure, 99 out of 100 random female dog owners are purely platonic small talk. But then there’s a spark with one. They bump into each other a couple of times and then bam.

Truly kind married men and women I’d never in a million years assume would cheat have cheated and confess it was not something they were looking for. It’s often a random person they were in proximity to, one or both parties were in a vulnerable state, and it develops from there.

[Anonymous]

Is it all women or just attractive ones?
Do you know your husband to be a real Dog Person? There are people who like dogs fine and then there are Dog People.
Does he seem titillated afterwards or just happy because he got to pet a dog and extrovert a bit?
Are his eyes going places they shouldn’t while he petting the dog and chatting?

I’m a jealous person so it would probably bug me too, but I’m not sure you can really ask him to stop. If it’s innocent then you’re asking him not to be himself and to dull his sparkle.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

Of course, unless your hubby has some odd dog fetish. Some people get obsessed with certain things, so I guess dogs could be a thing. Does he have a lot of dogs, or books about them, posters, search online about dogs and visit dog forums?

[Anonymous]

Attractive charismatic rich guy who loves dogs? Most of the women absolutely think or hope he's hitting on them.

[Anonymous]

Don't know.

But, it would be weird for a married man to pet a woman while chatting up her dog.

Hope that helps !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attractive charismatic rich guy who loves dogs? Most of the women absolutely think or hope he's hitting on them.

Even seeing a ring won't stop a lot of women from trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't know.

But, it would be weird for a married man to pet a woman while chatting up her dog.

Hope that helps !

I like you

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Anonymous wrote:Attractive charismatic rich guy who loves dogs? Most of the women absolutely think or hope he's hitting on them.

Even seeing a ring won't stop a lot of women from trying.

What? I'm sorry you got cheated on, but this isn't true of most of the people I know. Maybe get better female friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

This is insecure af. What is it you're worried about? He's not going anywhere with these women, who are out walking their dogs (i.e. occupied). If I don't want to talk when I'm out, I just tell people my dogs aren't friendly. It's a lie, but who's gonna test it? And no, I definitely don't assume that people of any gender who make small talk with me are flirting, let alone hitting on me.

There's a loneliness epidemic among men, and you're keeping yours on a pretty tight leash, OP. Loosen up a little.

[Anonymous]

I was recently traveling without my dogs, and by day three, I was stopping random people walking their dogs, asking if I could pet them and say hello. Not flirting. It's just nice to pet a dog sometimes, especially if/when you're away from your own. They've got good energy, and it's calming, as is a pleasant, brief exchange with a friendly human. Don't read too much into it, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was recently traveling without my dogs, and by day three, I was stopping random people walking their dogs, asking if I could pet them and say hello. Not flirting. It's just nice to pet a dog sometimes, especially if/when you're away from your own. They've got good energy, and it's calming, as is a pleasant, brief exchange with a friendly human. Don't read too much into it, OP.

More gaslighting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

Yeah it’s rude

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Anonymous wrote:I am a married woman in her late 40s and I like talking to strangers (men or women) who walk their dogs, there's nothing wrong with that, it's called being nice.

It's this. But that's a bit mysterious for many DCUM users, going by the many comments by posters who have literally no idea how to interact with people around them in life.

It's not being nice when your friendliness is only directed towards attractive women. Stop with the gaslighting.

+100! Men will sleep with anyone. It does not matter if the woman is attractive or not. It only matters if the woman is willing. This is why smart women do not let their DH or boyfriend talk with another woman. How many times have you heard about a man cheating and then saw who the woman was and you are like …he cheated with her! Men just do not care.

Forbidding your husband from talking to women is abuse.

And it's not inconsequential. The man who can't talk to a woman without his partner freaking out and trying to control him is exactly who ends up cheating with the "whoever" woman, because she let him be without all the demands and constraints.