Is it weird for a married man to chat up women and pet their dog?

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you women are just determined to be unhappy

This! Geez.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

That is weird for sure. In my 30 years of happy marriage, my husband has never chatted up a woman and "petted her dog". However it helps that I am extremely attractive, fit and slim for my age and have a fun personality.

[Anonymous]

Our family including DH loves dogs too . Sadly can't have one right now. We all "chat up" anyone that looks friendly and is willing to let us pet their dog.

I guess we can be annoying to some people but most pet owners love to show off their pets. It's nothing personal. We aren’t necessarily trying to start a relationship with the person in all cases. We just love their dog.

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Anonymous wrote:Would he chat up a man if the man had a cute dog? If the answer is yes, then it's not weird. If the answer is no, I'd point that out to him.

Very rarely will he approach a solo man with a dog. Only once in a blue moon and only if it's an especially interesting dog.

Could be confirmation bias on your part. You are more likely to notice and remember it when it’s a female dog owner, particularly if she’s attractive.

No, he admits this.

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Anonymous wrote:I will chat with a man or woman of any age with a cute dog. I am a married woman.

And I stop to pet every dog, whether walked by a man or woman, and I'm a single woman. I am never, ever interested in the person. They are just attached to the dog.

I am a relatively new dog owner. My dog is friendly, and I am less so. But I talk to all the other dog owners all the time. I have no idea about anything related to the humans but I know all about their dogs.

All the time. My phone is filled with contacts like, "Oatmeal's Mom" and "Bella's Dad (Tom)."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

Wants to feel like he still has "it" lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

That is weird for sure. In my 30 years of happy marriage, my husband has never chatted up a woman and "petted her dog". However it helps that I am extremely attractive, fit and slim for my age and have a fun personality.

Have you ever owned a dog? It’s super common for dog lovers who are complete strangers to interact with dogs in public. I get asked all the time by strangers if they can pet my dog. They tell me about other dogs of the same breed they’ve known. It sounds like your dh isn’t an extroverted dog lover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would he chat up a man if the man had a cute dog? If the answer is yes, then it's not weird. If the answer is no, I'd point that out to him.

This^.

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You are crazy, yes. I am a woman and make friends with strangers’ dogs all the time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would he chat up a man if the man had a cute dog? If the answer is yes, then it's not weird. If the answer is no, I'd point that out to him.

Very rarely will he approach a solo man with a dog. Only once in a blue moon and only if it's an especially interesting dog.

Could be confirmation bias on your part. You are more likely to notice and remember it when it’s a female dog owner, particularly if she’s attractive.

No, he admits this.

So you know he's intentionally flirting with attractive women. Only you can decide if this is acceptable for you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

+1. Flirting with other women is very disrespectful to your spouse. DH does this sometimes and I just walk away. He’ll ask where I went, and I say I didn’t want to interrupt your conversation with the woman you were speaking with. I’ve left the table at a restaurant and got in my car to drive away. Then he gets it.

What he doesn’t understand is that these women generally don’t want to talk to him. But he can’t see it. Men are so stupid sometimes.

Women are so jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will chat with a man or woman of any age with a cute dog. I am a married woman.

I do the same, and I am a married man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

Are they laughing about the dog or he using the dog as an excuse to start talking to her, but then the conversation shifts to things unrelated to the dog? Is he actually flirting or just really outgoing in general?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, it's fine. The posters who think anyone nice is flirting with them are delusional. That is a very common problem on DCUM. There are so many threads about what constitutes flirting, and some of the responses are... insanely optimistic? Arrogant? Self-serving? I don't quite know how to phrase it.

Any interaction between human beings is problematic one way or another for some DCUM posters.

So true!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you are crazy. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. No harm even if your DH finds the dog owner attractive or fun to talk to. Don't you think he can control himself or does he have to move to a muslim country where women are covered from head to toe?

He doesn’t chat up men with dogs, does he?