Is it weird for a married man to chat up women and pet their dog?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

That is weird for sure. In my 30 years of happy marriage, my husband has never chatted up a woman and "petted her dog". However it helps that I am extremely attractive, fit and slim for my age and have a fun personality.

Have you ever owned a dog? It’s super common for dog lovers who are complete strangers to interact with dogs in public. I get asked all the time by strangers if they can pet my dog. They tell me about other dogs of the same breed they’ve known. It sounds like your dh isn’t an extroverted dog lover.

Yes. I have a photogenic dog, and many people, male and female, old and young, all throughout his life, have asked if they could pet him. A few of the men did look as if they thought I was cute too, but comparatively speaking, that's been a drop in the ocean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

+1. Flirting with other women is very disrespectful to your spouse. DH does this sometimes and I just walk away. He’ll ask where I went, and I say I didn’t want to interrupt your conversation with the woman you were speaking with. I’ve left the table at a restaurant and got in my car to drive away. Then he gets it.

What he doesn’t understand is that these women generally don’t want to talk to him. But he can’t see it. Men are so stupid sometimes.

You actually drove off from a date with your husband and he still keeps repeating this behavior? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Men approach my dog ALL the time. They then, of course, strike up conversations with me simply because it would be rude not to. Rarely do I encounter flirting but, I do notice that the longer they pet/play with my little pup, the broader their smiles, the more easygoing their conversations, and the more happier their demeanor. I wouldn't think anything of it. He probably does the same to dog walking men who seem approachable. Plus, he loves dogs! Free dopamine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse.

Wants to feel like he still has "it" lol

Both of the above.

Op trust your instinct. A spouse can always tell if the dh is just being friendly or being flirtatious. It’s pretty simpler.

[Anonymous]

I am a married woman in her late 40s and I like talking to strangers (men or women) who walk their dogs, there's nothing wrong with that, it's called being nice.

[Anonymous]

I’m not a dog person, but I still love petting cute dogs. Does he feel like there’s social pressure not to approach a man with a dog?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men approach my dog ALL the time. They then, of course, strike up conversations with me simply because it would be rude not to. Rarely do I encounter flirting but, I do notice that the longer they pet/play with my little pup, the broader their smiles, the more easygoing their conversations, and the more happier their demeanor. I wouldn't think anything of it. He probably does the same to dog walking men who seem approachable. Plus, he loves dogs! Free dopamine!

It's amazing to me how easily people can create their own narrative. Did you not read the thread or is gaslighting your thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a married woman in her late 40s and I like talking to strangers (men or women) who walk their dogs, there's nothing wrong with that, it's called being nice.

So you're not doing what ops husband is. Thanks for your useless input.

[Anonymous]

If it annoys you, bring it up with your DH and don't take it out on the dog owner. I'm an attractive woman with an adorable dog, and men approach us all the time. The dagger eyes I get from their wives...one even tried to kick my dog as she walked by!

Take your fury to the source, not on innocents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

Yes, you are crazy. The behavior, like the dogs, is adorable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

SUPER!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.

Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right?

Guy here. I love dogs and will often ask about them and ask if its ok to pet them. Sometimes on the other end of the leash there’s an attractive woman but I don’t discriminate. I’m reasonably attractive and social too. I have zero interest in going outside of my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Any interaction between human beings is problematic one way or another for some DCUM posters.

OP: "My husband chats up women and pets their dog"

DCUM: "Your husband is a rapist."
DCUM: "Your husband has low T."
DCUM: "Your husband has porn addiction."
DCUM: "Your husband is a dog"
DCUM: "Your husband is a dog rapist."
DCUM: "Your husband is raping the rapist who rapes dogs."
DCUM: "Your husband needs to do more chores."

OP: "I'm considering marrying a man I've known for 18 months and having babies."

DCUM: "Do it!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flirting is fun. It's not cheating. You can flirt with a stranger and then walk away and never see them again. If this was someone actually in his life that would be problematic. But some stranger on the sidewalk? Fine.

Often you come off as pathetic. There is an unhappily married woman in my neighborhood who attempts to flirt with the more attractive men who live nearby. She completely ignores how horrified and uncomfortable they are when she starts her inappropriate attempts. It's so cringe. I would describe her as an insecure attention seeking drama freak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a married woman in her late 40s and I like talking to strangers (men or women) who walk their dogs, there's nothing wrong with that, it's called being nice.

It's this. But that's a bit mysterious for many DCUM users, going by the many comments by posters who have literally no idea how to interact with people around them in life.