Is it weird for a married man to chat up women and pet their dog?
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Anonymous
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My husband absolutely loves all dogs. He is also super outgoing and objectively handsome. With or without me, he will beeline towards any woman with a dog to chat them up and meet their dog. If he stays outside of a shop for ten minutes I'll come out and he'll be making some random gal laugh while petting some corgi or spaniel. Same goes for running errands, jogging, when walking our dog, or at a beach.
Am I crazy for wanting my husband to stop doing this? I'm not insecure, I just think it might be perceived to kind of weird and pushy, and also, were I a single woman I'd assume a random attractive man trying to chat me up is flirting and hitting on me, right? |
Anonymous
| Yes, you are crazy. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed. No harm even if your DH finds the dog owner attractive or fun to talk to. Don't you think he can control himself or does he have to move to a muslim country where women are covered from head to toe? |
Anonymous
He knows exactly what he is doing. |
Anonymous
What do you mean by that? |
Anonymous
Agree. Ehhh. |
Anonymous
| I think it's fine. I have a dog that's gets LOADS of attention, from everyone really but definitely some married men. Unless he's asking for their number or something, this is harmless. Dog guy being a dog guy. |
Anonymous
| No, it's fine. The posters who think anyone nice is flirting with them are delusional. That is a very common problem on DCUM. There are so many threads about what constitutes flirting, and some of the responses are... insanely optimistic? Arrogant? Self-serving? I don't quite know how to phrase it. |
Anonymous
| He's flirting and using the dog as an excuse. |
Anonymous
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I’m in my 50s and not hot, so I don’t know how an attractive woman in her 20s would interpret it, but I love talking about my dog and know that dog lovers enjoy meeting new dogs. When men stop and ask me questions about my dog and pet him, I don’t interpret it as their showing interest in me. Women do it even more often. My dog has literally been kissed by numerous strangers. I also compliment other people’s dogs and I mean it sincerely; I’m not trying to ingratiate myself with them.
My dog has made friends with some other dogs in the neighborhood that we run into often, and the married men walking those dogs chat with me for a minute or two while the dogs sniff each other and then we go our separate ways. Most of us know the dogs’ names, but not their humans’ names! |
Anonymous
| Would he chat up a man if the man had a cute dog? If the answer is yes, then it's not weird. If the answer is no, I'd point that out to him. |
Anonymous
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At least it's a dog and not a cat! ... in which case he'd be petting their.... er... ah.... I'll just see myself out now. |
Anonymous
+1. Flirting with other women is very disrespectful to your spouse. DH does this sometimes and I just walk away. He’ll ask where I went, and I say I didn’t want to interrupt your conversation with the woman you were speaking with. I’ve left the table at a restaurant and got in my car to drive away. Then he gets it. What he doesn’t understand is that these women generally don’t want to talk to him. But he can’t see it. Men are so stupid sometimes. |
Anonymous
Yes.
You absolutely are insecure.
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Anonymous
| He's flirting, but as long as that is all it is, I would not be particularly upset. |
Anonymous
| Why is it so bad to flirt? I like mild flirting, but have never cheated on my husband, and would never do so. It's just making some fun conversation with an attractive person and moving on. |