Why don’t schools have stronger policies about redshirting?

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

No one is doing that but it’s creepy to hold back your child. There is no good reason too.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

People generally know the birthdays of peers in social circles at schools. If you and your kid aren’t really in the loop you likely don’t have any idea.

Sounds like you only kinda, sort of know the birthdays of a small fraction of the kids at your school.

DP but I know the birth month for pretty much every kid in my child's grade and usually the age because of class parties in PK, K, and 1st. I'm not like investigating, but when you show up to the K party and the balloon is a 7 instead of a 6, you notice because it's different.

The kids also know. They talk about it.

This isn't me judging. My kid's best school friend was redshirted and it's totally fine. Just saying it's not weird at all for elementary kids and their parents to know birthdays and ages for most of not all of their peers.

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Same we know everyone’s but we socialize with most of the families.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

People generally know the birthdays of peers in social circles at schools. If you and your kid aren’t really in the loop you likely don’t have any idea.

Sounds like you only kinda, sort of know the birthdays of a small fraction of the kids at your school.

DP but I know the birth month for pretty much every kid in my child's grade and usually the age because of class parties in PK, K, and 1st. I'm not like investigating, but when you show up to the K party and the balloon is a 7 instead of a 6, you notice because it's different.

The kids also know. They talk about it.

This isn't me judging. My kid's best school friend was redshirted and it's totally fine. Just saying it's not weird at all for elementary kids and their parents to know birthdays and ages for most of not all of their peers.

But PP is talking about middle schoolers, and that is very weird behavior for that age. You’d have to go out of your way to track that down.

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Anonymous wrote:Same we know everyone’s but we socialize with most of the families.

Uh, huh. Right. There's literally 900 kids at Lafayette. There's 700 kids at Murch. These schools are big. You don't know the ages of everyone. And the desire to explain every little thing by whether someone's birthday is four months before someone else's is just strange.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

People generally know the birthdays of peers in social circles at schools. If you and your kid aren’t really in the loop you likely don’t have any idea.

Sounds like you only kinda, sort of know the birthdays of a small fraction of the kids at your school.

DP but I know the birth month for pretty much every kid in my child's grade and usually the age because of class parties in PK, K, and 1st. I'm not like investigating, but when you show up to the K party and the balloon is a 7 instead of a 6, you notice because it's different.

The kids also know. They talk about it.

This isn't me judging. My kid's best school friend was redshirted and it's totally fine. Just saying it's not weird at all for elementary kids and their parents to know birthdays and ages for most of not all of their peers.

But PP is talking about middle schoolers, and that is very weird behavior for that age. You’d have to go out of your way to track that down.

It really depends on the size of the school and how people socialize and how pathways and feeders work. In my sister's kids' district, this wouldn't be weird at all. There are only two middle schools, the district is fairly small (one high school, classes around 500). Everyone knows everyone. Even if you aren't in the same elementary, you learn ages through stuff like swimming and soccer. And especially when redshirting isn't common, people know.

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Anonymous wrote:Same we know everyone’s but we socialize with most of the families.

Uh, huh. Right. There's literally 900 kids at Lafayette. There's 700 kids at Murch. These schools are big. You don't know the ages of everyone. And the desire to explain every little thing by whether someone's birthday is four months before someone else's is just strange.

The creepy thing is that I bet that PP does know the ages of all the 700 kids. That is what anti-redshirters do.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

Your obsession with it is weird as you hold your kids back for sports. You cannot make your kids smarter by holding them back and you are socially hurting them as they are not with their peers, they are with much younger kids who are age-appropriate and your child isn't if you are basing their behavior and maturity on kids 1-2 years younger.

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Anonymous wrote:Same we know everyone’s but we socialize with most of the families.

Uh, huh. Right. There's literally 900 kids at Lafayette. There's 700 kids at Murch. These schools are big. You don't know the ages of everyone. And the desire to explain every little thing by whether someone's birthday is four months before someone else's is just strange.

People won't know for all 700 kids. But they will know for the 100 kids in their child's grade.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

Sounds like your kid is very young. Beyond third grade who cares?

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

Your obsession with it is weird as you hold your kids back for sports. You cannot make your kids smarter by holding them back and you are socially hurting them as they are not with their peers, they are with much younger kids who are age-appropriate and your child isn't if you are basing their behavior and maturity on kids 1-2 years younger.

I didn’t redshirt my kids. I just think anti-redshirters are very creepy with their obsessions with other people’s kids. One of my kids is actually very young for grade.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

Your obsession with it is weird as you hold your kids back for sports. You cannot make your kids smarter by holding them back and you are socially hurting them as they are not with their peers, they are with much younger kids who are age-appropriate and your child isn't if you are basing their behavior and maturity on kids 1-2 years younger.

They aren’t being socially hurt. You know this. You think someone is getting ahead of you and you can’t stand it. The kids don’t have a problem, you do.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

We actually know all the kids and families. There’s only 70 kids in my child’s grade and 35 boys, all who I know and have pretty much every mom’s phone number and some social relationship with from parties and sports and extracurriculars. This is elementary school. No one is talking about middle school
but you. We know every kid except for a few outliers that don’t socialize with the rest of the families or participate in activities.

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Anonymous wrote:The redshirt debate is so dumb. The advantages are highly exaggerated. No one is going to think your kid is super smart because they repeated a grade. And your kid may feel self conscious and embarrassed by being older than everyone else for the rest of their time in school (not to mention being incredibly bored having to repeat a grade).

Lol no. The only people who have a problem are people like OP who think they made a mistake or missed out. It’s all upside for redshirters.

I’ve seen it go sideways in athletics with kids who were used to cruising by being the stars in elementary and when some of the younger kids came out ahead post puberty they struggled not being the best on the team and didn’t have the grit and work ethic to keep up and dropped altogether. I saw that even in 4/5 grade when kids started evening out.

Same for academics.

If you are truly gifted, then redshirting can give you that edge to be a champion. But that needs to overcome the challenge of not being challenged in your grade level program.

If you are not truly gifted, but redshirting for edge, then redshirting is just delaying inevitable lackluster performance.

If you are holding back a year because you aren't mature enough for the original assigned grade, you'll thrive.

Truly gifted kids don't gain an edge by being redshirted. They perform at the top either way.

This depends. Our county’s gifted program for math and English starts in 7th grade. Not only is it very accelerated in material, the pace is also very accelerated- as in it requires 2+ hours of homework per night. Even many kids that test into it can’t keep up. The ones on the younger side tend to lack the executive function skills and maturity to handle such a high volume of work and expectations

Give me a break. Send your kid to RSM and tell me how "gifted" they are. The seven year olds will run circles around your seventh grader.

My kids finished through precalc and 12th grade English through this program by the end of 8th grade. They have winter birthdays. Their peers with late summer/early fall birthdays that didn’t redshirt really struggled in this program and dropped. It wasn’t for lack of intellect.

So weird how everyone always knows precisely how old all the other children are and, not only that, but how literally every single thing can be explained by whether a child is slightly older or younger than the next one.

This is a creepy anti-redshirter thing. As someone who has read these threads for awhile, I’ve seen some awful behavior justified. It is of course entirely inappropriate for a parent to be tracking down the birthdays of seventh and eighth graders in a pull-out program. They should not even know the names of the kids in a standard public school setting, let alone when they were born. But this is something really creepy that anti-redshirt parents do. I remember a thread where someone compiled a spreadsheet of the birthdays of the gifted kids in middle school.

It’s extremely creepy behavior but they justify to themselves somehow.

Nothing creepy about it, my kid gets invited to a few bday parties a month and plays sports with most of the kids. Rosters often have birthdays, the kids talk about it in carpool, etc, It’s not a secret. You may not know if you’re socially isolated

For middle school? Absolutely creepy. Just the fact you are cross referencing sports rosters with class names that you had to dig up on your own (because no middle school math teacher is releasing names) shows how absolutely inappropriate you are. Stay away from kids, weirdo.

Your obsession with it is weird as you hold your kids back for sports. You cannot make your kids smarter by holding them back and you are socially hurting them as they are not with their peers, they are with much younger kids who are age-appropriate and your child isn't if you are basing their behavior and maturity on kids 1-2 years younger.

They aren’t being socially hurt. You know this. You think someone is getting ahead of you and you can’t stand it. The kids don’t have a problem, you do.

What? DC doesn't flunk any kids, regardless of how little they've learned, because of the social stigma. But if they're "redshirted," then the stigma disappears? Wow. Who knew?