Why did preschool teachers care that my daughter hummed when she ate? I regret getting her to stop.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH was a hummer at school. At home he was a chatterbox. He talked a lot, even playing by himself at home. He outgrew it

DS not DH.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother has always done this and frankly it's just annoying and distracting for others trying to talk to each other at the table if it's not very quiet humming.

+ 1 million

Only OP thinks it’s cute

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Anonymous wrote:It must’ve been bad enough that two completely different preschools and teachers felt the need to comment and ask you to work on it with her.

Right?

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Adhd.

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Anonymous wrote:humming while eating can lead to choking so I would not regret that op.

How?!

Because humming opens your airways. Air comes out.

Any swimmer or scuba diver knows this

Many of us hum on flip turns since that makes water come out our nose or mouth and not get us our nose.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is neurodivergent and has some stimming behaviors like this. Not this specific one, but she makes a specific noise when she's concentrating (impossible to replicate, it's like a clicking in her throat). We understand this is a self soothing behavior and it's very satisfying to her, but we also know that if she continues to do it, it will annoy peers, teachers, coworkers, friends, etc. So we have talked to her about being self-aware about it and trying to only do it when she is alone. She has actually been pretty successful with this.

It's very hard as a parent of an ND kid because I am actually NOT trying to "norm" her -- her neurodivergence is pretty apparent to most people who interact with her and we are more than okay with that. But we feel we have an obligation to her to help her with certain habits that could become real obstacles to living a fulfilling life.

I also have some ND behaviors and I wound up talking to her about stims I do that are silent or unobtrusive. She wound up adopting a kind of nodding head jerk instead of the sound. She's literally doing it right now while reading next to me lol. It's still the kind of think that will annoy some people, but it's less disruptive than the sound so we've encouraged the switch.

What happens if your ND child is next to an ND child who is disturbed by jerky movements?

All hell breaks loose and they put too well behaves buffer girls in between then. Buffer girls never get to sit by their real friends, they’re always buffering.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister and my niece hum while eating. Drives me nuts.

I happy hum when doing something around the house, my mom flat out sings .

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Anonymous wrote:I had a dentist once who hummed while she cleaned my teeth. She couldn’t help herself. It was off-putting and I switched dentists.

I agree with others those teachers did her a favor.

That dentist seems unhygienic. Why force more air, spit and snot out your nose into your mask or customer than necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a dentist once who hummed while she cleaned my teeth. She couldn’t help herself. It was off-putting and I switched dentists.

I agree with others those teachers did her a favor.

That dentist seems unhygienic. Why force more air, spit and snot out your nose into your mask or customer than necessary.

You're reaching.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:humming while eating can lead to choking so I would not regret that op.

How?!

Because humming opens your airways. Air comes out.

Any swimmer or scuba diver knows this

Many of us hum on flip turns since that makes water come out our nose or mouth and not get us our nose.

Doesn't that annoy the other swimmers?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Making noises that are not usual can be a sign of ADHD and/or autism (some symptoms overlap). Your preschool teacher was old-fashioned in that she wanted you to train your child not to do this... but a more modern take on it would have been to bring it to your attention as a potential red flag for neurodivergence.

Pp with the brother who does this, definitely has ADHD.

My DD with ASD did this as a preschooler.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Making noises that are not usual can be a sign of ADHD and/or autism (some symptoms overlap). Your preschool teacher was old-fashioned in that she wanted you to train your child not to do this... but a more modern take on it would have been to bring it to your attention as a potential red flag for neurodivergence.

Pp with the brother who does this, definitely has ADHD.

My DD with ASD did this as a preschooler.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is neurodivergent and has some stimming behaviors like this. Not this specific one, but she makes a specific noise when she's concentrating (impossible to replicate, it's like a clicking in her throat). We understand this is a self soothing behavior and it's very satisfying to her, but we also know that if she continues to do it, it will annoy peers, teachers, coworkers, friends, etc. So we have talked to her about being self-aware about it and trying to only do it when she is alone. She has actually been pretty successful with this.

It's very hard as a parent of an ND kid because I am actually NOT trying to "norm" her -- her neurodivergence is pretty apparent to most people who interact with her and we are more than okay with that. But we feel we have an obligation to her to help her with certain habits that could become real obstacles to living a fulfilling life.

I also have some ND behaviors and I wound up talking to her about stims I do that are silent or unobtrusive. She wound up adopting a kind of nodding head jerk instead of the sound. She's literally doing it right now while reading next to me lol. It's still the kind of think that will annoy some people, but it's less disruptive than the sound so we've encouraged the switch.

What happens if your ND child is next to an ND child who is disturbed by jerky movements?

All hell breaks loose and they put too well behaves buffer girls in between then. Buffer girls never get to sit by their real friends, they’re always buffering.

I'm the PP whose kid has the audible stim we taught her to switch for the silent head jerk, and the funny thing is that my kid *is* the well-behaved kid who gets placed next to other kids as a buffer. She may be ND, but she's a rule follower who listens to the teacher and is highly conscientious. She just also has sensory issues, anxiety, and potentially a mild version of ASD. The OT she's done is part of why she's so well behaved in class -- her therapist has been very clear about certain social and classroom rules (that I think are not spelled out clearly for many kids) which has turned Dad's natural tendency towards rigidity/rule-following into an asset because she knows what is expected of her and delivers. But she does jerk her head when she focuses in reading or other school work, so if that annoys another kid, sitting next to my DD isn't going to work.

Stop assuming the ND kids are always the troublemakers. Often the most I'll behaved kids are NT and it's just their parents haven't set limits or explained how to behave. Or NT kids dealing with trauma and other risk factors at home. Lots of ND kids are quiet and studious, especially if they have involved parents who get them the support they need.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the things I regret from my oldest child’s life. She’s in high school now but she went to two preschools and each time a teacher commented that she hummed when she ate lunch and snacks and that I needed to work on that with her and teach her not to. I did and she stopped humming during meals but looking back, she was just happy and enjoying her food.

What did it matter to the schools? Why should little kids not hum when they eat?

Because it's bloody annoying and she is done deaf.
She can hum at home as opposed to school or in a restaurant. Your child is only the center of your universe.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a dentist once who hummed while she cleaned my teeth. She couldn’t help herself. It was off-putting and I switched dentists.

I agree with others those teachers did her a favor.

That dentist seems unhygienic. Why force more air, spit and snot out your nose into your mask or customer than necessary.

NP My dentist and his assistant wear masks and gloves.