How are some parents okay with this?

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Anonymous wrote:My teens need to have jobs or be otherwise occupied in some kind of constructive manner. If their job allows them to sleep until 1pm, great for them.

Why?

Because I believe there is value in teenagers having a job. Mine needs a job to earn spending money. And yes some teens go to some sleepaway camps and are highly committed to pursuing interests along with having a job.

Not a fan of teens who never work. If your kid has a summer free, get a job is my opinion. YMMV.

You didn’t answer the question. You just said teens should have a job in different words. What value do you think there is in teens having a job and why is it more valuable than teens having independence and learning to make their own decisions? Or just, you know, more valuable than gettin more sleep?

I’d bet my house that you have no clue why you hold this opinion. You don’t seem like the thinking type.

So your teens have independence and learn how to make decisions with your money. That works for you. Great. My kids like to spend money so they need to earn some money. Feels different to spend it when you earned it.

I also think it's important to experience a job in the service, retail, child care, or customer service industry. It was very formative for me and helped me realize why it was important for me to go to college.

I mean, why not kick your kid out to make their own way in the world if that’s how you feel?

You’re reaching. You might be a superior mother, but making your kid work at Burger King all summer certainly doesn’t prove it.

It's reaching to think there is value in teens having jobs? It's not reaching. DP and I think your view is the minority. I think you are probably a troll. The Burger King reference is weird these teens don't work at Burger King get a grip.

I never said there is no value in a teen having a job. I said that there is not necessarily MORE value than a teen NOT having a job.

Learn to read, please. Maybe hire a smart teen to tutor this summer. Win win.

My teens need to be gainfully occupied during the summer because i believe that some downtime is important for teens but too much downtime is detrimental. In my house, "gainfully occupied" means a part-time job or volunteer gig, or taking a class, or some combination of these.

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Mine have to wake up by 10:30am/11am. I don’t feel any guilt about this. This is true on school year weekends too. They are so used to it they just do it on their own. The later they sleep in, the less tired they are the next evening and the cycle just perpetuates. It’s bad enough with an 11am wake up.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine have to wake up by 10:30am/11am. I don’t feel any guilt about this. This is true on school year weekends too. They are so used to it they just do it on their own. The later they sleep in, the less tired they are the next evening and the cycle just perpetuates. It’s bad enough with an 11am wake up.

What do they have to get up for?

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Of all the things to be ticked off about...

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Let them sleep. This is the only time in their life when they can do this guilt-free. College will start soon enough and then the career, marriage, kids. Let them enjoy it.

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My 15 yr old son is literally growing. He needs all that sleep. And copious amounts of food. He wakes midday happy and hungry on days where he has no school or work. I’m happy he gets rest.

I was much more rigid with my older child. I regret that. I’m much more chill this time around.

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Because we don't have sticks up our a$$ and know that a summer of sleeping in is not doing them any harm. I

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Anonymous wrote:Let them sleep. This is the only time in their life when they can do this guilt-free. College will start soon enough and then the career, marriage, kids. Let them enjoy it.

Really? College and 20s are peak sleeping in years. Why limit oneself.

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Anonymous wrote:Let them sleep. This is the only time in their life when they can do this guilt-free. College will start soon enough and then the career, marriage, kids. Let them enjoy it.

Really? College and 20s are peak sleeping in years. Why limit oneself.

DP. College was when my internal alarm clock started moving earlier. I was waking up at 7:30 freshman year, but generally I agree. You're not going to sleep in your whole life because you did it at 17.

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Anonymous wrote:Let them sleep. This is the only time in their life when they can do this guilt-free. College will start soon enough and then the career, marriage, kids. Let them enjoy it.

It's not the sleeping in that I have an issue with, it's the staying up all night. When are DH and I supposed to have sex if DC never goes to sleep? Our house is not that big.

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God, my mother was like this. Would sing loudly and bang pots and pans around 10am to wake me up in the summer. Made me have a job every single summer starting when I was 15, including summers when I was in college, and winter breaks too once I started college and had 3 week long winter breaks (she’d tell neighbors I was available to babysit, she’d make me pick up hours at the coffee shop I used to work at, etc). To her, downtime was evil apparently.
I eventually graduated college and was going to grad school for my field. I came home for the 3 months before grad school started. She started at me again trying to make me pick up shifts at the coffee shop so I “wasn’t sitting around doing nothing in the prime of my life.” I just moved out and in with a friend who was starting her job right after graduation. I WAS in the prime of my life and what I wanted to do was sleep, see my friends, paint, train for a marathon, and read novels by the pool. This is what I did and it was the best, most life changing 3 months of my life because I had a few months to just BE, and think about my goals and what I wanted out of life. I still resent her for making me wait until I was 22 to have any free time.

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I worked a job from 3pm till midnight. I often went out after. My parents were off at work. Nobody woke me up. I had an alarm clock.

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Anonymous wrote:How are some parents okay with teens waking up at 1 pm doing Summer Vacation?

Some parents don’t care about their child’s sleep routine, or lack there of. They probably are unaware of the negative impact this will have in the long run.

As caring parents, it’s our responsibility to do the best we can. Your child is fortunate to have a parent who sees the value in promoting healthy sleep routines, on a regular basis.

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Anonymous wrote:If my teen were staying up on her phone to 1am and sleeping to noon, while I was getting up early to walk the dog, get the 6 yo on the summer school bus, get the 11 year old to camp, empty the dishwasher, and still get to work at 8am, that would not fly. If my teen were working late, that would be a different story. But I do expect her to get up at 7 to help me with the 7-8 out-the-door rush. She can then go back to bed for a few hours, though.

The only one of those tasks that should fall on the teenager is emptying the dishwasher and there's no reason that has to happen at 7.

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Anonymous wrote:How are some parents okay with teens waking up at 1 pm doing Summer Vacation?

Some parents don’t care about their child’s sleep routine, or lack there of. They probably are unaware of the negative impact this will have in the long run.

As caring parents, it’s our responsibility to do the best we can. Your child is fortunate to have a parent who sees the value in promoting healthy sleep routines, on a regular basis.

Yes, you two peaches win the mommy olympics. Congrats. Your kids hate you. But you won.