Pausing career to SAHM for a bit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't regret it.

Your kids are the most amazing thing you will ever create.

Trust me, that once they are teens and young adults leaving home, you will look back not regret one moment you put them first.

I have never met a mom who looked at her adult children and wished that she had spent more time at her job and less time with her kids.

If you are able to tighten the family budget to spend a few precious years with them while they are young, either as a full time stay at home mom, or through a part time or flexible gig job, do it. It might be hard in the moment, but you won't regret it looking backwards.

This. I took over a decade off. You won't regret it.
We were careful with money at the beginning and then spouse's career took off. By the end, I went back less because of career/money and more because the kids were becoming independent and I wanted something stimulating to do.

This actually tells me you are only mediocre at your job and didn't have much to contribute to society other than to leach off your hesband.

Who peed in your porridge? You sound like a really unhappy person who is bitter about her choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took 2003 through 2017 off when I stayed home with our four kids. Absolutely the best decision my husband and I have made, hands down! I went back to work when my youngest was in first grade and oldest in eighth grade.

I hopped back into my career field (HR) and by 2019 moved back into an HR Director role. I have found that the executives that I work with, many with SAH spouses, value my experience managing our home life. They know first hand how important having a solid manager at home is. Post Covid, my career has taken off and since I am not in a federal government related industry, I can financially carry our family in case my husband has to make a career shift.

We have remained flexible and committed to our family and shaped our careers always thinking about family first. I never thought of staying home as a sacrifice, in fact it is a huge privilege. I am grateful and so lucky we chose this route.

Your field definitely matters. HR positions are everywhere and generally filled by women. Depending on the size of the business, HR shops can be 1-2 people. This would be a good avenue to take for many sahm returning to the workforce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't regret it.

Your kids are the most amazing thing you will ever create.

Trust me, that once they are teens and young adults leaving home, you will look back not regret one moment you put them first.

I have never met a mom who looked at her adult children and wished that she had spent more time at her job and less time with her kids.

If you are able to tighten the family budget to spend a few precious years with them while they are young, either as a full time stay at home mom, or through a part time or flexible gig job, do it. It might be hard in the moment, but you won't regret it looking backwards.

Eh. So I’m planning to transition to being a SAHM for a bit but do absolutely know someone who probably wishes she had spent more time at work. Her eldest son is truly a horrible person (and I’ve known him since he was a child and it’s just his innate character). She was second in her class in high school and phi beta kappa in a stem field in college and gave it all up to be at home for him and it really was not worth it.

Although maybe she doesn’t regret it because her younger son was very successful and a wonderful person (who unfortunately passed away).

Growing up knowing your parents wish you had died instead of your brother can do terrible things to a person's mental health

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't regret it.

Your kids are the most amazing thing you will ever create.

Trust me, that once they are teens and young adults leaving home, you will look back not regret one moment you put them first.

I have never met a mom who looked at her adult children and wished that she had spent more time at her job and less time with her kids.

If you are able to tighten the family budget to spend a few precious years with them while they are young, either as a full time stay at home mom, or through a part time or flexible gig job, do it. It might be hard in the moment, but you won't regret it looking backwards.

My mother left the workforce to look after us in the early 80s. She regretted it and told us never to leave the workforce. She went back when I was in 5th grade, the youngest in 2nd. She said she always felt she had more to contribute there and was never given the opportunities because of the time off. So you can speak for yourself. I'm an example of an adult whose mom stayed home and doesn't think like you do. I actually agree with her perspective. Some women are bright and have more to offer the world than breeding. BTW, my father made tons of money and it was definitely not a financial thing.

What an awful post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You won't regret it.

Your kids are the most amazing thing you will ever create.

Trust me, that once they are teens and young adults leaving home, you will look back not regret one moment you put them first.

I have never met a mom who looked at her adult children and wished that she had spent more time at her job and less time with her kids.

If you are able to tighten the family budget to spend a few precious years with them while they are young, either as a full time stay at home mom, or through a part time or flexible gig job, do it. It might be hard in the moment, but you won't regret it looking backwards.

My mother left the workforce to look after us in the early 80s. She regretted it and told us never to leave the workforce. She went back when I was in 5th grade, the youngest in 2nd. She said she always felt she had more to contribute there and was never given the opportunities because of the time off. So you can speak for yourself. I'm an example of an adult whose mom stayed home and doesn't think like you do. I actually agree with her perspective. Some women are bright and have more to offer the world than breeding. BTW, my father made tons of money and it was definitely not a financial thing.

I like how you so casually drop what is maybe the most hateful, misogynistic thing I have ever read on this board. I hope I don’t know you in real life.

Yep, its pretty misogynistic and hateful. Yet so relevant and true to politics today... you probably don't know that you know so many women (and men) with this view. Society has taught them well what to say (and what not to say) out loud. Your husband might be one of these people. He'd never tell you because it wouldn't serve his interests. Maybe he's smarter than you.

Well bless your heart.