Freshman roommate... hard liquor

[Anonymous]

Check your parent correspondence from the school if you've joined a group or association, or the res life website. Thanksgiving Break and winter break are typically announced as opportunities for room safety and violation checks.

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Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

My kid is at VT. They had dorm inspections it she was in Greek housing and they were pretty much a joke. As long as you threw a blanket over your liquor you were fine. Even if you forgot they just told you to put it away.

The point is that it is not uncommon to have a dorm room inspection, despite the PP who has never heard of it.

I never heard of it either, fwiw.

and yet they nabbed my DD's hamster at GMU. GMU will also get you in inappropriate electrical extension cords, drugs, booze, etc.

+1. Colleges are usually looking for fire hazards. When you sign up for college housing a warning of possible quarterly or semester inspections is always given

+1 And the inspections are often surprise. So you have to always hide your alcohol--both my kids schools had rules that they can not open your personal property---so put it in a fridge or in your own suitcase/set of drawers, but not the university desk/dresser/closet/etc.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is a Top 20 private. Turns out the roommate has been at boarding schools since 7th grade. This is not a new habit. So far no uncomfortable interactions.

Sad though.

Not surprising. Most HS boarding schools are filled with rich kids whose parents provide them an endless supply of money rather than time with them

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Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

My kid is at VT. They had dorm inspections it she was in Greek housing and they were pretty much a joke. As long as you threw a blanket over your liquor you were fine. Even if you forgot they just told you to put it away.

The point is that it is not uncommon to have a dorm room inspection, despite the PP who has never heard of it.

I never heard of it either, fwiw.

and yet they nabbed my DD's hamster at GMU. GMU will also get you in inappropriate electrical extension cords, drugs, booze, etc.

+1. Colleges are usually looking for fire hazards. When you sign up for college housing a warning of possible quarterly or semester inspections is always given

+1 And the inspections are often surprise. So you have to always hide your alcohol--both my kids schools had rules that they can not open your personal property---so put it in a fridge or in your own suitcase/set of drawers, but not the university desk/dresser/closet/etc.

“Everyone” knows that is what storage ottomans are for.

[Anonymous]

All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

You seem to be under the misimpression that all college students are into alcohol.

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Anonymous wrote:I would assume most college rooms have alcohol in them…I’m not sure switching rooms is a solution unless your kid gets a single

Why would assume everyone fails to follow basic rules? For many kids getting kicked out of college is life altering with no safety net. They won't want to throw away their shot because some loser is a boozer.

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

You seem to be under the misimpression that all college students are into alcohol.

NP. You’re out of your mind. This kid (adult!) has alcohol. He’s not disturbing the roommate with it. Liberty would be a good school for him.

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

Catholic nuns can drink

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

You seem to be under the misimpression that all college students are into alcohol.

NP. You’re out of your mind. This kid (adult!) has alcohol. He’s not disturbing the roommate with it. Liberty would be a good school for him.

Not 21. Not legal. Against school rules. He is disturbing his roommate, as OP said they have to leave the room to study when he's boozing it up and to not be implicated violation of law and school policy. And maybe they are at Liberty? Maybe they are a private college with strict alcohol rules and codes of ethics that are actually enforced.

Why can't people understand that some kids don't want to get kicked out of school? How privileged you must be to not get that this is a serious concern for many students.

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

Catholic nuns can drink

And they do!

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Personally, I would request a change.

No snitching though, try another excuse.

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Anonymous wrote:All schools allow roommate switches he can move in with a 80 year old Nun

You seem to be under the misimpression that all college students are into alcohol.

NP. You’re out of your mind. This kid (adult!) has alcohol. He’s not disturbing the roommate with it. Liberty would be a good school for him.

The response was to PP's suggestion that he move in with a nun because he doesn't want to have alcohol in his room. How does it make me "out of my mind" to acknowledge that OP's kid is not alone in preferring not to have illicit alcohol in the room?

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It would definitely bother and it would bother my kid too. They are affected if they have to leave the room regularly. Mine is super social but chose substance free for this reason, didn’t want the smell of pot or vomit in their living space and out of their control. I’m a total hypocrite as I had way too much fun in college, but now paying $90k a year and a kid with lofty goals, this nonsense would really irritate me to no end.

I am shocked by a friend’s stories, already had an OD on hall, and all these new crazy ways they chase highs like helium tank and crushing adhd pills to snort, and forget what else. Scary stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:Are the kids 21?

Right? All the cool parents defending kids who won't follow the rules.

Just stop with the "cool parents." It's not "cool" but realistic that many college kids drink. And if they don't, which is FINE, they are in college and can be expected to be around things/activities/people they don't like, don't agree with, etc. That's part of what college is.

You're little snowflake will survive being around kids who drink before they are 21.

OP's kid isn't complaining about "being around kids who drink." That is not the issue here.