Freshman roommate... hard liquor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

So you know of 3 colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would assume most college rooms have alcohol in them…I’m not sure switching rooms is a solution unless your kid gets a single

You are wrong. This is highly college dependent. Not all college students are rule breaking alcoholics. This is a bid deal at alot more schools than some of you seem to realize.


Can YOU name five schools where this would be a big deal now that you’ve called college students who drink alcoholics? Get a grip.

OP, can you name the school?

[Anonymous]

This seems pretty normal. I’m sure the roommate will request a change before your son does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your child in recovery for addiction? If so, tell them to talk to the roommate and ask if they can remove the alcohol from the room. If the answer is no, then yes, request a change.

Otherwise, no, this is not worth a room change, or even a conversation with the RA.

It depends. I agree if they're in recovery, it's a real problem also; if the roommate gets drunk on weekdays and is a nuisance, that affects your kid's ability to function, it's a real problem.

[Anonymous]

OP here. It is a Top 20 private. Turns out the roommate has been at boarding schools since 7th grade. This is not a new habit. So far no uncomfortable interactions.

[Anonymous]

If no uncomfortable interactions, I wouldn't do anything.

[Anonymous]

I was a teenage immigrant from a European country and had no problem with underage drinking per se. My roommates were horrified at the idea but they were the ones who ended up getting drunk all the time and couldn't hold their liquor worth a damn and caused problems for me when all I wanted was to either sleep or study. So who was the problem, me or them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

My kid is at VT. They had dorm inspections it she was in Greek housing and they were pretty much a joke. As long as you threw a blanket over your liquor you were fine. Even if you forgot they just told you to put it away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

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It is. GMU caught my DD's hamster on inspection but forgot to check - she had permission. But then she had to unravel the bureaucratic tape at GMU so as to not pay the fine, which was time consuming and annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of a college dorm room inspection and have had 2 kids graduate from college. Inspections didn’t even exist when I was in college and I am OLD.

My DC is at Tulane and they definitely have dorm room inspections every semester. They are not a surprise, so you have a day or two warning. There can be no alcohol in plain sight. I thought this was normal?

My kid is at VT. They had dorm inspections it she was in Greek housing and they were pretty much a joke. As long as you threw a blanket over your liquor you were fine. Even if you forgot they just told you to put it away.

The point is that it is not uncommon to have a dorm room inspection, despite the PP who has never heard of it.

[Anonymous]

Is it just that your child doesn’t drink and feels uncomfortable around alcohol, or is the roomie’s drinking causing more disruptive issues (eg. late night parties)? I think how to proceed may depend on additional details regarding the actual impact.

[Anonymous]

My kid had a roommate like this—who also had an advanced drinking problem that began in boarding school. The roommate was day drinking 7 days a week and hooking up in their room at night with older non-students found on dating sites. It was super sad, but I let my kid handle it. She finally asked to move when she really felt unsafe from the flood of strangers. I felt very sorry for the roommate too, as it was so obviously advanced alcoholism. A case of hard liquor is not normal.

[Anonymous]

He should ask for a room change over the winter break. It sounds like he has to always hang out at the library to avoid the partying roommate back at the dorm room. He should demand a change after the fall semester.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not enough. And it's worth your finding out what's really going on, because a crate of alcohol hidden under a bed is really not hurting anyone.

FWIW, I lived in a triple my freshman year and drank a lot more than my roommates. But they were the ones who tended to stay up late nights and disturb me by being loud. I was on the crew team, so it was particularly difficult.

Don't borrow trouble. Pay attention to real problems.

eyeball. correction. you were the one on the crew team, so you were waking THEM up obnoxiously early.