Freshman roommate... hard liquor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just said they go to the library when the roomie is drinking.

If the roommate is not being a jerk, who cares what they are drinking? This is such a non-issue, if there is not a fall out problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just said they go to the library when the roomie is drinking.

How is the drinking bothering your kid? Mine doesn't drink (D1 athlete) and still goes to parties/doesn't care who else does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not enough. Stay out of it and let your child handle inroads issues. Possessing alcohol in college is not enough to ask for a room switch.

If they are caught with it in the room, typically all the roommates are punished. Doesn't matter whose stuff it is.

My kid was in a triple freshman year. One roommate was a student athlete. He made it very clear NO Alcohol in the room ever---he could loose his scholarship if that happened.

Now that roommate did drink---just not in the dorms/on campus---did it at parties and off campus apartments to ensure that he was never caught underaged on campus.
I think that is a better plan---having it in your dorm room is a huge risk

[Anonymous]

My kid is at a T20 and my understanding is that most kids have hard alcohol stored in their rooms for weekend drinking. Many parents actually buy it for them rather than risk having them drugged at parties (we didn't do that). And college is not like boarding school where rooms are searched for alcohol(?)

As others have said, in any event, this would be your kid's issue, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not enough. Stay out of it and let your child handle inroads issues. Possessing alcohol in college is not enough to ask for a room switch.

If they are caught with it in the room, typically all the roommates are punished. Doesn't matter whose stuff it is.

My kid was in a triple freshman year. One roommate was a student athlete. He made it very clear NO Alcohol in the room ever---he could loose his scholarship if that happened.

Now that roommate did drink---just not in the dorms/on campus---did it at parties and off campus apartments to ensure that he was never caught underaged on campus.
I think that is a better plan---having it in your dorm room is a huge risk

Crazy fearmongering.

[Anonymous]

Are the kids 21?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are the kids 21?

Right? All the cool parents defending kids who won't follow the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not enough. Stay out of it and let your child handle inroads issues. Possessing alcohol in college is not enough to ask for a room switch.

If they are caught with it in the room, typically all the roommates are punished. Doesn't matter whose stuff it is.

My kid was in a triple freshman year. One roommate was a student athlete. He made it very clear NO Alcohol in the room ever---he could loose his scholarship if that happened.

Now that roommate did drink---just not in the dorms/on campus---did it at parties and off campus apartments to ensure that he was never caught underaged on campus.
I think that is a better plan---having it in your dorm room is a huge risk

Crazy fearmongering.

That really depends on the school. At my college a whole room of girls was expelled. It violated the law to have it and the honor code not to report it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Roommate has a crate under his bed. My kid is a teetotaler. Is that enough to request a move? I don't know how to do that without being a snitch.

Yes, it is enough to request a move. And he should move as drinking in the shared room is too disruptive and changes the relationship dynamic in a substantial manner when mixing a non-drinker with a hard liquor individual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the kids 21?

Right? All the cool parents defending kids who won't follow the rules.

Just stop with the "cool parents." It's not "cool" but realistic that many college kids drink. And if they don't, which is FINE, they are in college and can be expected to be around things/activities/people they don't like, don't agree with, etc. That's part of what college is.

You're little snowflake will survive being around kids who drink before they are 21.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just said they go to the library when the roomie is drinking.

Oh that is bad. I would definitely be asking for a new room, if it was me sharing with that kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just said they go to the library when the roomie is drinking.

Oh that is bad. I would definitely be asking for a new room, if it was me sharing with that kid.

I don't see that as bad. I see that as her kid has solved the problem.

[Anonymous]

I'm a teetotaler but other people's drinking didn't/doesn't affect me at all. I don't think I drank the entire five years I was in college. No big deal, despite having roommates that did.

[Anonymous]

I think this really depends on the context. Is this High Point? Some school with an Honor Code that requires reporting? A school that actually expels all students if they find alcohol? I'm not denying there are a handful of these schools; if so, protect your kid.

If you're at a normal school? Ignore unless it actually creates an issue for your kid. I cannot tell you how high the percentage of kids that have some alcohol in their dorms is at my kid's "normal" school.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the state, the roommate will catch a charge too.