Should I find someone to hook up with on my solo trip this week

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

Thank you, I will. And I've managed to avoid any and all STDs, even a cold sore, although I've had multiple partners for decades. Most of us do. That doesn't make me a STI denier. Just a realist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

Sure but what if its a charming conman or a serial killer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds yuck to me. not for me.

Good thing you arent op What a great contribution to this thread

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

You are so full of shit. No 3 men confided in you about their medical conditions and relationships to that level. I know you can't resist chiming in, STD lady, on every post where enjoyable sex is mentioned but come on now. You really went too far with this one.

Agree-this is fiction. nobody goes around telling people they have an std-even close family or friends. I am 42 years old and was wild and had a wild group of friends when I was young. I know of one woman who got an std (i’m also a female) and the only reason I know is because she was freaking out and asked me to come to the dr. with her. This is not typically something that comes up in conversation. And also you are definitely a woman by how you are talking and there is no freaking way three different men told you about an std.

[Anonymous]

Please keep us updated if you found your ONS this weekend 😊

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About 20 years ago I spent a year as a bartender at a resort in the Caribbean. I was 25 at the time and there were often single women 35+ sitting at the bar who ended up chatting away with the bartender. I had a good time with quite a few of them. That could be a good option for OP.

Were you working at a hotel in St. Croix in 2003? Asking for a friend!

[Anonymous]

It's soooooo easy for a woman to hook up. I am not even a f**boy but if any woman makes sexual advances toward me I am down lol

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

I do wonder who all these disease-ridden people are banging? I have never had one. Most people I know haven't (and most people i know are single).

Funny. One PP said she knew about three men who had STDs and she got criticized here as making it up because "no man confides that." Yet this PP above claims "most people I know" havent had one and yet, no one's calling that out as equally fictional. So: Yeah, equally fictional. Most people you know are not confiding their status to you, either, PP.

For the poster who thinks it's fun to make up one "STD lady" here, as if only one person posts that STDs are real -- It sure is convenient for your narrative, to pretend there's only one grown-up here. But no, there are more of us. And realism isn't fear or prudishness, but you seem incapable of understanding that.

[Anonymous]

OP are you on your weekend now? How’s it going?

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

You are so full of shit. No 3 men confided in you about their medical conditions and relationships to that level. I know you can't resist chiming in, STD lady, on every post where enjoyable sex is mentioned but come on now. You really went too far with this one.

Agree-this is fiction. nobody goes around telling people they have an std-even close family or friends. I am 42 years old and was wild and had a wild group of friends when I was young. I know of one woman who got an std (i’m also a female) and the only reason I know is because she was freaking out and asked me to come to the dr. with her. This is not typically something that comes up in conversation. And also you are definitely a woman by how you are talking and there is no freaking way three different men told you about an std.

I didn’t say they were friends. I know because they needed treatment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Selling women the idea the sexual promiscuity will bring happiness and liberation is the biggest con ever sold.

Eh I dunno. I lived it up in my 20s and it was fab.

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

You are so full of shit. No 3 men confided in you about their medical conditions and relationships to that level. I know you can't resist chiming in, STD lady, on every post where enjoyable sex is mentioned but come on now. You really went too far with this one.

Agree-this is fiction. nobody goes around telling people they have an std-even close family or friends. I am 42 years old and was wild and had a wild group of friends when I was young. I know of one woman who got an std (i’m also a female) and the only reason I know is because she was freaking out and asked me to come to the dr. with her. This is not typically something that comes up in conversation. And also you are definitely a woman by how you are talking and there is no freaking way three different men told you about an std.

I didn’t say they were friends. I know because they needed treatment.

So you are some kind of medical professional who treated them and you don’t think that skews the pool of population we are talking about? give me a break. Also-why would a guy tell you they got it because they cheated? Nothing you are adding is making you any more believable.

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

I do wonder who all these disease-ridden people are banging? I have never had one. Most people I know haven't (and most people i know are single).

Funny. One PP said she knew about three men who had STDs and she got criticized here as making it up because "no man confides that." Yet this PP above claims "most people I know" havent had one and yet, no one's calling that out as equally fictional. So: Yeah, equally fictional. Most people you know are not confiding their status to you, either, PP.

For the poster who thinks it's fun to make up one "STD lady" here, as if only one person posts that STDs are real -- It sure is convenient for your narrative, to pretend there's only one grown-up here. But no, there are more of us. And realism isn't fear or prudishness, but you seem incapable of understanding that.

Maybe you haven’t read a lot of threads on here that discuss sex when you are not married but there is at least one poster (maybe more) who has to comment about the risk of herpes and stds in general on every single one. As if people don’t know it’s a thing. It’s clearly this person’s own anxiety issues that they are trying to place on others. it’s weird.

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

You are so full of shit. No 3 men confided in you about their medical conditions and relationships to that level. I know you can't resist chiming in, STD lady, on every post where enjoyable sex is mentioned but come on now. You really went too far with this one.

Agree-this is fiction. nobody goes around telling people they have an std-even close family or friends. I am 42 years old and was wild and had a wild group of friends when I was young. I know of one woman who got an std (i’m also a female) and the only reason I know is because she was freaking out and asked me to come to the dr. with her. This is not typically something that comes up in conversation. And also you are definitely a woman by how you are talking and there is no freaking way three different men told you about an std.

I didn’t say they were friends. I know because they needed treatment.

So you are some kind of medical professional who treated them and you don’t think that skews the pool of population we are talking about? give me a break. Also-why would a guy tell you they got it because they cheated? Nothing you are adding is making you any more believable.

NP. It’s amazing when people say this. And then say no one has STIs.

[Anonymous]

Just go to a fancy spa and get a man to do a massage