Should I find someone to hook up with on my solo trip this week

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Anonymous wrote:Hit me up...I'm 50, wealthy and in shape.


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I haven’t had a ONS in many years but had a few in my 20s. One l was on a business trip and was going to a movie solo in the evening, l met a guy in the movie ticket line. The other was a crazy hot tour guide, l took his tour and we hit it off. This was before the app days. I guess my point is you can meet a guy pretty much anywhere for a ONS. I have standards though l only hooked up with guys l had great chemistry with lol. Never disappointed.

It might be harder now though now that everyone is on their phones.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read everything, but if you're going to some resort, focus on employees. They do this all the time, they're hot and there are never strings or weirdness.

[Anonymous]

Sit at the hotel bar. It shouldn't take long for a guy to hit on you and want to take you back to his room.

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Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

OP, it appears that you will be reentering the dating pool soon. If so, finding someone to flirt with while out of town would be fun. Gently ask around (i.e., ask co-workers, in-town friends, etc.) where it would be fun to hang out and do it.

You can prepare for a ONS (e.g., stock up on protection) without committing to anything other than having fun unless someone special (or fun) shows up.

This.

You are free now, OP. Be yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven’t had a ONS in many years but had a few in my 20s. One l was on a business trip and was going to a movie solo in the evening, l met a guy in the movie ticket line. The other was a crazy hot tour guide, l took his tour and we hit it off. This was before the app days. I guess my point is you can meet a guy pretty much anywhere for a ONS. I have standards though l only hooked up with guys l had great chemistry with lol. Never disappointed.

It might be harder now though now that everyone is on their phones.

Sometimes a “rebound fling” is just what a girl needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I haven’t had a ONS in many years but had a few in my 20s. One l was on a business trip and was going to a movie solo in the evening, l met a guy in the movie ticket line. The other was a crazy hot tour guide, l took his tour and we hit it off. This was before the app days. I guess my point is you can meet a guy pretty much anywhere for a ONS. I have standards though l only hooked up with guys l had great chemistry with lol. Never disappointed.

It might be harder now though now that everyone is on their phones.

Sometimes a “rebound fling” is just what a girl needs.

Yup!

[Anonymous]

It has only been two weeks. Maybe wait a little while to compose yourself.

[Anonymous]

About 20 years ago I spent a year as a bartender at a resort in the Caribbean. I was 25 at the time and there were often single women 35+ sitting at the bar who ended up chatting away with the bartender. I had a good time with quite a few of them. That could be a good option for OP.

[Anonymous]

sounds yuck to me. not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It has only been two weeks. Maybe wait a little while to compose yourself.

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!

[Anonymous]

Op you are too green to pull this off safely. Stay in your lane. Find a nice guy who will woo you and fall in love again. You don’t sound like the lusty hook up type

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

What did guy 3 end up getting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:sounds yuck to me. not for me.

So?

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Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

She didn't deny that STIs exist but that people are not riddled with disease to the degree that DCUM loves to say. This is true, and even if you do pick up something, the vast majority are easily treated with meds.

exactly. I posted the comment you are referencing and yes this is exactly what I mean. I in no way am denying that STIs exist. i’m simply saying the vast majority of people do not have them. I also think it’s important to understand that the statistics for STIs are very skewed toward certain populations. What I mean by that is you are going to have a much higher concentration of STIs among homeless, drug users, sex workers etc…which is also where a lot of the numbers come from since typically those folks are on government healthcare or nothing at all. So they are easily counted in statistics when/if they get treated. If you took a group of 100 people from the risk groups I mentioned and 100 people who are just your everyday people working regular jobs etc…there is going to be a vast difference in what you find.

My data pool may be skewed but I know three men who have cheated and came down with STDs (and no, one wasn’t easily treated. A year in and they still can’t have sex). Shockingly (I say this with sarcasm, the AP lied about being sexually active with others).

You are so full of shit. No 3 men confided in you about their medical conditions and relationships to that level. I know you can't resist chiming in, STD lady, on every post where enjoyable sex is mentioned but come on now. You really went too far with this one.