Should I find someone to hook up with on my solo trip this week

[Anonymous]

I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

[Anonymous]

It usually isn't hard to find someone to pick up and have sex with is if all you want is sex with a stranger. But the reality of that for many of us isn't as appealing as it sounds. Finding someone you are actually attracted to is the first battle and then enjoying sex with a random stranger in your hotel room and the aftermath of that isn't always all that hot.

But if you just want sex, you can very easily get it. But be aware the random guy in the bar picking you up may well be married and has a wife at home feeling how you felt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

Call me.

[Anonymous]

Sure you can do it.

But it doesn't sound like you really want to.

Sounds like you're trying to be someone you aren't to prove something which means it might not be as exciting as you hope.

There's definitely a lot of psychos out there. So be safe if you're going to do it. And make him wear a condom you don't want any souvenirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

Don't do it. You will only feel used after. Enjoy your time!

[Anonymous]

Selling women the idea the sexual promiscuity will bring happiness and liberation is the biggest con ever sold.

[Anonymous]

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

OP, it appears that you will be reentering the dating pool soon. If so, finding someone to flirt with while out of town would be fun. Gently ask around (i.e., ask co-workers, in-town friends, etc.) where it would be fun to hang out and do it.

You can prepare for a ONS (e.g., stock up on protection) without committing to anything other than having fun unless someone special (or fun) shows up.

[Anonymous]

Boy people on this board are really anti-fun.

My only concern would be whether it's a good idea to do this on a work trip!

[Anonymous]

Go with protection, just in case. I'm someone with anxiety, who would not find a one-night stand fun at all. But if you're in the mood, then no judgement from me!

[Anonymous]

Are you on the GLT page on FB? There's a woman travelling around the world and writes a mini-"blog" on the page called something like "A date in every country". So basically she uses various date apps and sets up dates and goes on them - using caution of course. She has met expats or locals who show her around and do some fun unique things.

Use caution of course!

NO:
-picking up at your hotel
-dropping you off at your hotel
-giving personal info/phone number, keep it on the app
-let someone else know where you are going and who with, I think some apps let you do this easily

That's I think what she said anyways. If you're not on there, you may be interested in reading her stories.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy your herpes sores

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Selling women the idea the sexual promiscuity will bring happiness and liberation is the biggest con ever sold.

OP... just wants to flirt, and possibility have no strings sex. Why do you assume this is predicated on her needing happiness and liberation? You can feel happy, liberated, and still be horny and wanting no commitment sex.


Also the biggest con ever sold? Really? What about state propaganda campaigns leading to genocides?

[Anonymous]

Is this revenge sex or just flirt and have fun sex? If it’s flirt and have fun sex the odds of you finding someone you’d really like to flirt with are not great. If it’s revenge sex then any port in the storm. But since you are a real rookie be very careful because there are plenty of creeps out there. And buy condoms!

[Anonymous]

I have no problem with it, but you are not ready for it.
It's so much better with someone you know and have been talking/texting.

[Anonymous]

They could end badly. This is a dangerous idea.