Should I find someone to hook up with on my solo trip this week

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

You sound like a nice person. if you meet a nice guy, flirt a little, have some fun, but leave it at that. You don't sound like a ONS type of person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

She wouldn't be cheating, she kicked out her cheating ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

She wouldn't be cheating, she kicked out her cheating ex.

And got a divorce overnight? If only cheating husbands could be eliminated so quickly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enjoy your herpes sores

Seriously. My cheating spouse learned the hard way that protection doesn’t protect against all STDs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

Don't do it. You will only feel used after. Enjoy your time!

This is such and old fashioned and misogynist view about women and sex. I am a woman and when I was single I loved going on the prowl and this trip sounds like just the place.

Honestly, I would create an OLD account while you are there and they take your pick of the litter. Have fun! 👉🏻👌🏻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure you can do it.

But it doesn't sound like you really want to.

Sounds like you're trying to be someone you aren't to prove something which means it might not be as exciting as you hope.

There's definitely a lot of psychos out there. So be safe if you're going to do it. And make him wear a condom you don't want any souvenirs.

Let's not be uninformed here. There are still STIs one can get even with condom use. Even with correct condom use:
https://www.positivemed.com/2017/01/24/common-stds/#google_vignette
"Five most common STDs that even condoms can't stop"

DCUM's overconfidence in condoms as facilitators of no-strings, no-consequences sex is...something. But I've seen over the years that this forum has its collective head buried in the sand when it comes to STIs, testing, and consequences for casual sex.

True. Though I was thinking of a baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Selling women the idea the sexual promiscuity will bring happiness and liberation is the biggest con ever sold.

Hm, it brought me plenty of happiness when I slept around in my 20s. Sex is fun.

I was probably one of the guys who ran though you. And your p**y stank

This was totally written by some angry woman

[Anonymous]

what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

[Anonymous]

I was 31 and the ink wasn’t even dry on my divorce when I took a solo trip to Paris to just get away. I had the same mindset as OP, just meet someone, flirt and if it felt right go for it which I did. That was my first and only ONS but it was well worth it after a few years of misery. I’ve been happily remarried for 18 years but that night is a great memory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

She wouldn't be cheating, she kicked out her cheating ex.

And got a divorce overnight? If only cheating husbands could be eliminated so quickly!

So you have to have a divorce decree signed sealed and delivered before you can start moving on? GMAFB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what if I told you…hear me out: the majority of sexual experiences do not end with an std. This board is crazy with this fear. Of course it’s important to be safe but the fear on this board is absolutely absurd.

Hi! I figured you'd find this thread! I know you of old. One of DCUM's STI-deniers. You do not want to understand that being cautious and realistic is not "fear." Go ahead and enjoy all the sex you want, but don't try to fool others into thinking STIs just "aren't a thing."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Enjoy your herpes sores

Seriously. My cheating spouse learned the hard way that protection doesn’t protect against all STDs.

I hope he didn't give you an STD, PP. I mean that seriously. What an a$$ your spouse (I hope, your now-ex-spouse) is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

She wouldn't be cheating, she kicked out her cheating ex.

And got a divorce overnight? If only cheating husbands could be eliminated so quickly!

So you have to have a divorce decree signed sealed and delivered before you can start moving on? GMAFB.

A lot of posters would have a lot to say about a husband who moves out of the fmaily home and immmediately is out hooking up and looking for ONS. I doubt he would get many - you go get em tiger comments.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm heading to a warm, fun destination for work today-fri and extending the weekend to stay alone. I finally kicked my husband out 2 weeks ago after concrete proof of an affair (and not the first one).

I'm in my 30s, and have only been with him in my life while he has...not only been with me to put it lightly.

Part of me just wants to find someone and flirt and see if it leads to a ONS. Good or bad idea?

If good- how does one go about this? Look good at the hotel pool/bar? Find a bar with good vibes and do what-- sit at the bar attempting not to be awkward?

If you have to crowdsource the how-to on an anon board, you shouldn't do it.

If it hurt you to be cheated on, you shouldn't hurt others the same way (even if you can justify it, even if people here will help you justify it).

Since you asked, this is a horrible idea that only an idiot would pursue. Don't.

She wouldn't be cheating, she kicked out her cheating ex.

And got a divorce overnight? If only cheating husbands could be eliminated so quickly!

So you have to have a divorce decree signed sealed and delivered before you can start moving on? GMAFB.

A lot of posters would have a lot to say about a husband who moves out of the fmaily home and immmediately is out hooking up and looking for ONS. I doubt he would get many - you go get em tiger comments.

Kicking a cheating spouse out and then moving on is a lot different than... cheating. While you're still together.
If you can't see the difference, I feel sorry for your partners.