DD's friend is wearing a tux to homecoming, but is not a date?

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It's absolutely a trend. If you'd rather keep your head in the sand (or elsewhere...), that's fine, but your willful obliviousness doesn't make it any less true.

Not going to try and quote you, as I've no idea what you've done to the quote chain.

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40 years ago, this would have been a "statement'; today it is truly no big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely a trend. If you'd rather keep your head in the sand (or elsewhere...), that's fine, but your willful obliviousness doesn't make it any less true.

Not going to try and quote you, as I've no idea what you've done to the quote chain.

I’m not seeing this at all at our very liberal public high school or neighboring schools

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your homophobia is showing. You might want to tuck that back in.

I don't think that's OP's concern. Sounds like OP is worried the guest sees it as a date when her DD might not.

all because the date is planning to wear a suit??? that's quite the stretch by OP. I'm sure her DD is fine.

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Anonymous wrote:I just experienced my DD's fourth HS homecoming dance, and before that my son's four homecoming dances. Girls who are straight are not wearing tuxedos to homecoming.

My opinion is OP's daughter's friend is not straight. OP's daughter is either not straight as well, or she's quite naive. The latter is a good possibility based on other things OP said about her.

It sounds to me like OP is just trying to protect her daughter from any teasing or nasty comments/gossip. As much as posters here want to collect social justice points and believe kids today are so enlightened and won't say cruel things, that isn't the case.

Call me homophobic, I don't care. I'm just pointing out the obvious.

I know lots of straight girls who are wearing tuxes and suits for prom, homecoming, etc. It’s quite a trend.

Post a pic with blurred faces of all the hoco girls in their tuxes. I haven’t seen this at all.

You are conflating two posters. Also demanding pictures of other people’s minor children. You’re weird.
I hate to tell you, but some of those girls in the short, tight dresses aren’t straight.

So? You said it’s quite the trend. The question isn’t the orientation of girls in dresses. I guess you have no pics of this so called trend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely a trend. If you'd rather keep your head in the sand (or elsewhere...), that's fine, but your willful obliviousness doesn't make it any less true.

Not going to try and quote you, as I've no idea what you've done to the quote chain.

A trend means more than your daughter is doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:A tux is overdressed for homecoming. More appropriate for prom.

This is what I was thinking. I wouldn't think a tux means it's a date, but I haven't seen anyone wear a tux to homecoming. They seem to be reserved for prom. I'd be more worried the friend would feel out of place for being too dressed up, but that's for her mom to consider. I would let them go and have fun without analyzing it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is worried her kid may be a closet lesbian. Frankly I would be too.

Why?

Because being closeted is psychologically damaging.

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Anonymous wrote:Wearing a tux is not a big deal. You are reading way too much into this. It is awesome that girls who hate dresses have other choices now.

But a tux is menswear, so not exactly another option other than a dress. If she is wearing a tux to homecoming she is likely gay or bi. Which is fine, but if your DD isn’t that could be uncomfortable in this scenario

Please get your outdated head out of your a$$. This is not accurate at all. I'm 35. Even in mean girls one of the girls wears a tux and is not gay or bi. Do you also think guys who wear pink are gay? This is such a bizarrely outdated thought process I am struggling to believe you arent a troll.

Idk but dcum moms are not exactly known for their progressive views.. a boy wearing a dress/skirt is trans or gay so it's not really surprising this is the consensus.

Yes, I've been reading DCUM for 15 years at this point and it always boggles my mind that this liberal area produces such Talibanesque posters. Not just for what kids are supposed to signal by their clothes, but what *grown women* are supposed to wear or not wear. Apparently you're only supposed to wear a bikini if you're in an adult-only resort somewhere tropical (with duly married husband, of course), and you can't wear miniskirts past your 20s and when you're old - you know, 40! - you just have to bury yourself in trash bags because the fun clothes are reserved for the 18-22 set. Before that, they also have to wear trash bags, lest any man ogle their underage bodies. Gender belonging is strictly observed through dress codes, and most everyone has a phobia of anything gender-bending, masked by a "of course there's nothing wrong with it" safety phrase.

Gross.

Sorry you can't understand that different people have different values.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is worried her kid may be a closet lesbian. Frankly I would be too.

Why?

Because being closeted is psychologically damaging.

I think a 14 year old girl who is secure enough with herself to go with a friend in a tux to homecoming is doing just fine psychologically. It’s the rest of you I’m worried about.

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Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely a trend. If you'd rather keep your head in the sand (or elsewhere...), that's fine, but your willful obliviousness doesn't make it any less true.

Not going to try and quote you, as I've no idea what you've done to the quote chain.

A trend means more than your daughter is doing it.

...And that's the point. They are.

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Anonymous wrote:Wearing a tux is not a big deal. You are reading way too much into this. It is awesome that girls who hate dresses have other choices now.

But a tux is menswear, so not exactly another option other than a dress. If she is wearing a tux to homecoming she is likely gay or bi. Which is fine, but if your DD isn’t that could be uncomfortable in this scenario

Please get your outdated head out of your a$$. This is not accurate at all. I'm 35. Even in mean girls one of the girls wears a tux and is not gay or bi. Do you also think guys who wear pink are gay? This is such a bizarrely outdated thought process I am struggling to believe you arent a troll.

Idk but dcum moms are not exactly known for their progressive views.. a boy wearing a dress/skirt is trans or gay so it's not really surprising this is the consensus.

Yes, I've been reading DCUM for 15 years at this point and it always boggles my mind that this liberal area produces such Talibanesque posters. Not just for what kids are supposed to signal by their clothes, but what *grown women* are supposed to wear or not wear. Apparently you're only supposed to wear a bikini if you're in an adult-only resort somewhere tropical (with duly married husband, of course), and you can't wear miniskirts past your 20s and when you're old - you know, 40! - you just have to bury yourself in trash bags because the fun clothes are reserved for the 18-22 set. Before that, they also have to wear trash bags, lest any man ogle their underage bodies. Gender belonging is strictly observed through dress codes, and most everyone has a phobia of anything gender-bending, masked by a "of course there's nothing wrong with it" safety phrase.

Gross.

Sorry you can't understand that different people have different values.

Saying that if a girl wears a suit she must be gay is not a "different value". It's straight up bigotry and incorrect.

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Anonymous wrote:It's absolutely a trend. If you'd rather keep your head in the sand (or elsewhere...), that's fine, but your willful obliviousness doesn't make it any less true.

Not going to try and quote you, as I've no idea what you've done to the quote chain.

A trend means more than your daughter is doing it.

...And that's the point. They are.

Nobody but you sees it and you can’t prove it but we should take your word for it? No. This is a you and your community thing.

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Nobody but you sees it and you can’t prove it but we should take your word for it? No. This is a you and your community thing.

You keep replying as if one person is seeing the trend. I know that’s not accurate because I see posts from other people that see the trend. Also, this got eaten in the quotes somehow and I think it’s worth noting:

You are conflating two posters. Also demanding pictures of other people’s minor children. You’re weird.

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Nobody but you sees it and you can’t prove it but we should take your word for it? No. This is a you and your community thing.

You keep replying as if one person is seeing the trend. I know that’s not accurate because I see posts from other people that see the trend. Also, this got eaten in the quotes somehow and I think it’s worth noting:

You are conflating two posters. Also demanding pictures of other people’s minor children. You’re weird.

I said the blur the faces. But multiple people have said they don’t see this at all. Despite what the person sockpuppeting thinks.