Special needs parent here. In my experience, schools are WAY too slow to provide services and parents are too slow to try medication. Not just ADHD medication but SSRIs for kids with autism whose anxiety is making them act out aggressively. Most the blame is on the school, in my experience, but I do blame the parents for the medication piece sometimes. They will try every other thing and think it’s so virtuous that they haven’t resorted to meds, when the child and everyone around them is clearly suffering. In my experience. |
Honestly I would let my child hit this guy back. Sometimes it does wonders, even for SN kids. |
Teachers are sick of it. Normal parents are over it. Regular kids are traumatized and bullied daily. Consensus is building. Keep thinking your entitled thoughts instead of understanding what your crazy kids are doing to schools. |
Yes, send your kid to fight against someone with no self control.no way they'll lose an eye or a testicle from that |
Please explain to the class what "special needs" means. |
I work in a Title I school, and I absolutely have met parents that deny special needs and refuse services. There are cultural issues at play. It’s incredibly frustrating. |
Does anyone wonder why the heck we have so many violent elementary aged students nowadays? There existed in the past, but it feels like in every school I hear of multiple kids who are destructive and dangerous. What has changed? |
I’m an SN parent and I’ve spent 10+ yrs on the Kids with SN forum. I was reading it yesterday wondering the same thing. The first page is filled with variations on the same topic. So many kids are struggling and it’s coming out as violent behavior in the classroom. I was trying to remember if it was always this bad once school got underway but this year just seems overwhelmingly bad. |
One thing is the inability to discipline. Kids would have been sent home or at least to the office once upon a time but now are just left in classrooms to disrupt. The other seems to me to be the breakdown of parents caring how they are viewed by others, which may relate to overwhelm, exhaustion, or spreading out of parents with this attitude as schools and communities sought to be more inclusive. I think the latter accelerated when society collectively turned is back on parents during the pandemic. |
I'm a Special Education teacher and have a child with a disability. Schools have been quietly whittling away services and making the job impossible for the past 10 years or so. Fewer services and fewer teachers who can provide the existing services is a recipe for disaster. Each year feels a little worse than the one before because qualified people are not willing to take a job where they're underpaid and not respected. |
+1 we’ve cut self-contained programs and are striving to have even students with significant needs in gen Ed 80% of the time. It’s not going well. |
I said nothing to suggest that it is your fault, nor did I say "huge numbers." But it is absolutely not false that your (or my) model of special needs parenting is not the only one encountered in schools. If you don't believe that parents deny their kid has any special needs whatsoever and fight against the school's recommendations, just ask your school counselor. There is a spectrum from schools wanting to implement a plan and parents denying it to parents begging for a plan and schools denying it, and every mix in between. |
IDK. I think it's the whole increasingly common neurodivergent problem kids have. Prenatal exposures, PFAS in the environment. things we know nothing about in the long-term but are likely affecting developing nervous systems in humans. |
Can anyone tell me the result when they have called the Police on a violent child? Did the police take it seriously? Did it light a fire under the school? |
I am sorry for any parents and students who have to go through any of this, incl. the OP. Please know that sometimes families are seeking help and trying to get their kid moved. 15 years ago my kid was "that kid" acting out in K. While he never hit anyone as far as I know (and I was called a lot), he did chase someone around after lunch recess and tried to kick them, unsuccessfully. For that he was suspended from school. I am not sure what stories were going around, but we in fact tried to get an IEP meeting and added help. DS had been diagnosed with ADHD and ASD. The school administration stood firmly in our way and it was not until we sought legal intervention that DS was granted an evaluation for an IEP eligibility by the school. Not surprising, he was eligible. In the end, the school and teacher continued on about their business and DS received a more appropriate placement. The status quo does not work for the "problem" student, and certainly does not work for the rest of the students and teachers. |