What typically happens to a violent kid in the classroom?

[Anonymous]

My child has been hit in the face by a classmate 4 times since school started. Just from speaking to the other parents this is occurring daily and others are also being hit. Parents are receiving calls home but there doesn’t seem to be any action. What typically happens to a child like this and what is the threshold where they would remove someone hitting others on a daily basis? This is a nine year old child.

[Anonymous]

Very little, or nothing. They aren't going to remove the kid. This is why families are leaving the so-called great schools in the DMV area for privates.

[Anonymous]

Nothing ask your kid to change classrooms.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to say but a lot of these poor behavior kids are coming to the private schools, too. The parents get tired of the phone calls in the public system and switch to private. The kids have no consequences and continue to act up.

[Anonymous]

15 years ago or so, there was a boy in my DC's kindergarten who clearly needed more assistance than the standard classroom was equipped for. However, his parents enrolled him in K and denied that there was any problem at all. In spite of many incidents, the parents refused to agree to meet for an IEP that would have given this child 1:1 support. So the school had to work through a long drawn out process of creating a paper trail to eventually, like a year later, force the issue in a manner that would stick and not get them sued. In the meantime, the kindergarten teacher has a nervous breakdown and quit, so the series of substitutes basically spent the year trying to keep the other kids safe from this kid. I hope he eventually got the help he needed in spite of his parents.

[Anonymous]

You and the other parents need to become such a nuisance to the administration that the nuisance of actually dealing with the violent child is preferable for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 years ago or so, there was a boy in my DC's kindergarten who clearly needed more assistance than the standard classroom was equipped for. However, his parents enrolled him in K and denied that there was any problem at all. In spite of many incidents, the parents refused to agree to meet for an IEP that would have given this child 1:1 support. So the school had to work through a long drawn out process of creating a paper trail to eventually, like a year later, force the issue in a manner that would stick and not get them sued. In the meantime, the kindergarten teacher has a nervous breakdown and quit, so the series of substitutes basically spent the year trying to keep the other kids safe from this kid. I hope he eventually got the help he needed in spite of his parents.

That’s horrible. I am sorry

[Anonymous]

Nothing. And the violence will usually escalate. These are the kids who are causing teachers to leave, sometimes mid year. In my experience these weren’t special needs kids, they were kids who had abusive parents at home. They’d been abused themselves.

[Anonymous]

"There doesn't seem to be any action"

How in the world would you know what action has or hasn't been taken?

My kid was that kid. BEGGED AND PLEADED for him to be removed to a special school. It never happened. By all means, bug the administration, I'm sure his parents don't want him to hurt other kids either.

[Anonymous]

Nothing will be done except maybe your kid can be switched to another classroom if you’re lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You and the other parents need to become such a nuisance to the administration that the nuisance of actually dealing with the violent child is preferable for them.

This. Politely but constantly hassle them. Create as much of a paper trail as you possibly can.

And yes, the kid's parents may also be begging and pleading for more support. It takes time for the school to get these things approved. Don't assume it's the parents' fault-- sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.

[Anonymous]

Are you posting here because you have a child with SNs and you want to know how to protect them?

Or are you assuming that the "violent child" has SNs and that's why you posting in this forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"There doesn't seem to be any action"

How in the world would you know what action has or hasn't been taken?

My kid was that kid. BEGGED AND PLEADED for him to be removed to a special school. It never happened. By all means, bug the administration, I'm sure his parents don't want him to hurt other kids either.

what is his diagnosis?

I know there’s been no action because the student is in the classroom and my child continues to be hit.

[Anonymous]

If a child is violent daily the child needs special support. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you posting here because you have a child with SNs and you want to know how to protect them?

Or are you assuming that the "violent child" has SNs and that's why you posting in this forum?

I’m assuming a 9 year old who is violent has some special needs. I think that’s a fair assumption, no?