2 married professors having an affair. Do I report it?

[Anonymous]

Report to whom? Ms. Karen Kravitz, Director. Office of Rumor and Innuendo?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

There is no policy. You don't have a leg to stand on.

I do have a leg to stand on. Google is your friend. Took me 30 seconds to find it at numerous universities (including Top 10 universities). Falls under the fraternization policy.

Sounds like you're standing on the leg - adultery is okay, so MYOB.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

There is no policy. You don't have a leg to stand on.

I do have a leg to stand on. Google is your friend. Took me 30 seconds to find it at numerous universities (including Top 10 universities). Falls under the fraternization policy.

Sounds like you're standing on the leg - adultery is okay, so MYOB.

Fraternization rules usually only apply to unequal power balances, like professor/student or supervisor/employee. Two professors can have a relationship. If they weren’t married, would you still try to wield a fraternization policy against them? Profs marry each other all the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

There is no policy. You don't have a leg to stand on.

I do have a leg to stand on. Google is your friend. Took me 30 seconds to find it at numerous universities (including Top 10 universities). Falls under the fraternization policy.

Sounds like you're standing on the leg - adultery is okay, so MYOB.

Fraternization rules usually only apply to unequal power balances, like professor/student or supervisor/employee. Two professors can have a relationship. If they weren’t married, would you still try to wield a fraternization policy against them? Profs marry each other all the time.

Nice goalpost shifting. They do include that, and until the university knows, it can't investigate whether such an improper relationship exists.

Sounds like you think the university doesn't have a right to know. It does, and if the professors are in violation of policy, they are subject to discipline.

[Anonymous]

I would only report it if it was affecting their work in some way. Like if they were both in power positions and using their joint power to advance each other or their students in some way. Otherwise, I'd stay out of it.

But I'd go ahead and gossip with colleagues I was close to. They deserve it for cheating on their spouses.

[Anonymous]

This is very common in academia.