2 married professors having an affair. Do I report it?

[Anonymous]

I’m in academia and recently confirmed that 2 colleagues are having an affair. They’re both strange birds and have acted weird and uncomfortably close to each other for a couple years. I swear I’ve seen covert touching here and there. Others have noticed as well. They share an office and occasionally lock the door and not for a student meeting.

Well it was confirmed when I saw them out together at dinner in another town. (They didn’t see me). And I saw them making out in the parking lot before driving away in their separate cars.

This makes me sick. They are both solidly married with children. I don’t really know the protocol for this.

[Anonymous]

They are consenting adults. Who would you report this to?

I’d stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Id stay out of it. Too many ways his can go bad for you

[Anonymous]

What does being “strange birds” have to do with it? Is there any sort of policy against workplace relationships between colleagues? They are peers, not employee-boss. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

MYOB. At least they aren’t sleeping with students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in academia and recently confirmed that 2 colleagues are having an affair. They’re both strange birds and have acted weird and uncomfortably close to each other for a couple years. I swear I’ve seen covert touching here and there. Others have noticed as well. They share an office and occasionally lock the door and not for a student meeting.

Well it was confirmed when I saw them out together at dinner in another town. (They didn’t see me). And I saw them making out in the parking lot before driving away in their separate cars.

This makes me sick. They are both solidly married with children. I don’t really know the protocol for this.

If you don’t know the protocol — which is to MYOB — your parents raised you wrong.

What a bizarre impulse.

[Anonymous]

This is definitely something you forget you saw and play dumb about forever. There’s no upside for you from getting involved. Even if you were trying to knife one of them for some reason, you don’t have enough proof.

[Anonymous]

It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

[Anonymous]

Yuck!

[Anonymous]

Do you know their spouses?

I think people have a right to know that there is a 3rd person in their marriage, putting their health at risk and that their marriage is a sham / facade. It is very humiliating for others to know your spouse is cavorting about while you look like a fool thinking all is well.

If you know the spouse or spouses, I would tell them what you saw.

The cheaters are the ones who have already messed up the marriages / families. Being complicit in the lies, betrayal and deciet isn't something I have any desire to be part of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know their spouses?

I think people have a right to know that there is a 3rd person in their marriage, putting their health at risk and that their marriage is a sham / facade. It is very humiliating for others to know your spouse is cavorting about while you look like a fool thinking all is well.

If you know the spouse or spouses, I would tell them what you saw.

The cheaters are the ones who have already messed up the marriages / families. Being complicit in the lies, betrayal and deciet isn't something I have any desire to be part of.

There is something very wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.

[Anonymous]

I would read this book.

[Anonymous]

I think this is another troll. No grown adult posts this. This is a student fantasizing about catching two of his or her professors in an affair.

This is getting tiresome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It actually sounds like you were spying on them. It’s one thing to randomly encounter someone in a restaurant. But you monitored them to their cars?!?!!!

Weird, man. Just stop. You are creepy.

I would be spying too if I saw two people I know who were married to other people on a date / making out. It is scarier that cheating is so acceptable to you that it woudn't even pique your curiosity.

There is also something very wrong with *you.*

It isn’t your business. It is beyond weird that you would involve yourself. You aren’t the morality police. You are, however, beyond creepy with your stalker behavior. Are you also going to hack in their e-mails? Are you going to take photos?