2 married professors having an affair. Do I report it?

[Anonymous]

Nobody is defining that cheating is okay but in this situation it’s irrelevant to their jobs and there’s just no place for you in their marriages. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

*arguing ^

[Anonymous]

Do what you think is right.

[Anonymous]

Are they violating university policy? If not, MYOB.

[Anonymous]

You're in the wrong for wanting to take punitive action.

Just let it go. Let them live their lives, and pay whatever price. We each only have one life, and are allowed to choose how to live it.

Don't waste yours judging others, particularly when you don't know their life story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

[Anonymous]

100% This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in academia and recently confirmed that 2 colleagues are having an affair. They’re both strange birds and have acted weird and uncomfortably close to each other for a couple years. I swear I’ve seen covert touching here and there. Others have noticed as well. They share an office and occasionally lock the door and not for a student meeting.

Well it was confirmed when I saw them out together at dinner in another town. (They didn’t see me). And I saw them making out in the parking lot before driving away in their separate cars.

This makes me sick. They are both solidly married with children. I don’t really know the protocol for this.

Myob

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

There is no policy. You don't have a leg to stand on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not affecting your work environment, then of course not. None of your business.

Incorrect. First, there may be a university policy that covers this, and if so, there may also be language in the policy that if you don't say something, you can be disciplined. Even if this isn't the case, high-profile cheating scandals can affect the credibility of the academic department (or even school) with students. Second, would you want to know if someone is interfering in your marriage (and that's what it is)? Both of the cheating spouses are breaking their marital vows (instead of getting divorced) and are hoping not to get caught doing so. If you choose to stay in a marriage for whatever reason (money, kids, societal/family pressure), then you honor your vow at the expense of your selfish desires. It's simply not fair to the non-cheating spouse.

You are a weird bird and creepy AF!

Ridicule is the first and last argument of a fool.

If the university has a policy, then professors should follow it. Expecting them to do so is neither weird nor creepy.

Cheating on your spouse is both weird and creepy.

And you don't get to be the judge of other people's lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A) This sounds made up. B) Universities do not prohibit professors from dating, period.

This.

+2

[Anonymous]

LOL. Troll or you are new to academia. At least it isn't a student--then you would have to report it.

[Anonymous]

Academia is a small world. Your field in academia is a very small world. You tell people, people know you gossip about colleagues, word spreads. No one wants you for those better jobs...
I know one academic who didn't get a major award in his field he certainly repeatedly deserved to ve on short lists for...except his wife insulted someone's wife and her loving husband DID win...

[Anonymous]

FFS. MYOB.

[Anonymous]

It is so weird to me when people come on here talking about “reporting” things. Who is the authority you’ll be reporting this to, and what action do you imagine they’ll take?