What does your nursing toddler call your boobs?

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Anonymous wrote:A question for women who BF toddlers: What does DH think about it? Does he want your boobs back? Does HE... for lack of a better word... "use" your tits too?

I honestly don't understand the question. DH didn't latch on at any point in our relationship, before, during, or after breastfeeding. Conversely, he was still allowed to touch, etc., before during and after the period when I was breastfeeding. Are the rules different at your house?

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Anonymous wrote:I find the question revolting. In general, I feel the lactivists on this forum are seriously unbalanced and completely wacko, uand this thread seems like the newest proof of it.

w.e.a.n. before your child speaks words.

p.s. I also recommend not quoting WHO guidelines, or living according to them, unless you live in a country with WHO field offices.

Is the US somehow exempt from WHO guidelines? Are WHO guidelines only for the, "less civilized" inhabitants of other countries? Are we too sophisticated to stoop to extended BF because it's "just not the way things are done here"? And weaning before your child speaks? Seriously?

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I agree. I once posted that I think many extended nursers are filling a void.

I much prefer that fact that my 2 yo boy loves his cup and straw - and that my breasts, uglier than ever, are all mine.

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I think some women have a weird hang up about letting go of their babies and need to feel needed. I'm not sure why someone would feel superior having a toddler sucking on their tits.

this this this this this this this. Well, that, and the kid can't let go too.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps you can round up a few of your nursing pal friends, pump, and have a feast YOU and the children can ALL enjoy.

Here are some suggestions:
http://www.stargatelibraries.com/MilkRecipes001.html

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WHO recommends BFing for that long for reasons that don't necessarily apply in more developed country, but I know it is like a badge of honor for the BFers to say they did it for so long, so carry on so you can make sure to feel totally superior.

I'm hardly doing it to feel superior. I've done a lot of research. Children only make the enzymes to breakdown milk for the first 3-4 years of their life. As her mother, she should be drinking my milk, not milk made from a cow, and that's designed to grow a calf to a cow. Course that's another matter entirely!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. I once posted that I think many extended nursers are filling a void.

I much prefer that fact that my 2 yo boy loves his cup and straw - and that my breasts, uglier than ever, are all mine.

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I think some women have a weird hang up about letting go of their babies and need to feel needed. I'm not sure why someone would feel superior having a toddler sucking on their tits.

this this this this this this this. Well, that, and the kid can't let go too.

Yes. ITA with this. Jesus these women need to get a grip and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A question for women who BF toddlers: What does DH think about it? Does he want your boobs back? Does HE... for lack of a better word... "use" your tits too?

I honestly don't understand the question. DH didn't latch on at any point in our relationship, before, during, or after breastfeeding. Conversely, he was still allowed to touch, etc., before during and after the period when I was breastfeeding. Are the rules different at your house?

Yes, yes they are. For men with a breast fetish, the rules are different. Part of the reason I weaned early.

Now I can enjoy him enjoying me again.

[Anonymous]

I much prefer that fact that my 2 yo boy loves his cup and straw - and that my breasts, uglier than ever, are all mine.

This is the root of the revulsion, a self loathing at our maternal bodies. I'm nursing a 19 month old. My body is very much my own. My boobs are sexy and beautiful to me and my husband. In fact I worry that they will be less so when I quit nursing and they deflate. I also feel like nursing is a great weight loss strategy.

I am very much in charge of the nursing relationship. I'm delighted at my toddlers blossoming independence. She's a confident, happy, verbal, funny and nearly potty trained girl. She also drinks from a cup most of the time.

Another piece of the revulsion: I'm too am turned off my parents who can't take charge of their children or enforce clear limits, something I see sometimes with worn out moms nursing 3 year olds in public, but I don't think nursing mom's have a corner on that market!

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Anonymous wrote:I always say *Want nurse?* but thanks to DH the 2 y/o cries for *Tittay*.

NOW THIS if freaking dysfunctional.

I'm the PP you're quoting.... and why is that? Not that it would be any of your business, but I'm not whipping them out on demand to feed him. He only nurses 1x a day, right before bed. When he's hungry or thirsty any other time he says *I eat*. Do I wish my husband hadn't been teasing me and taught him a fun new word? Sure. But its not like I have to worry about him saying it in the middle of the grocery store. And if he did, so what? He's 2.

I don't care where or how you feed him. I think it's demeaning that your DH taught your son to refer to your breasts that way. Plus, you DO have to worry about him asking for your "Tittays" as you push the cart through Target. You really do. Worse, what if he points to some other woman's chest and says "Tittay!" Do you think that person won't care?

It's hard to believe that anyone would think that "titty" is a fun new word for a two-year-old. I wonder how long before her husband teaches his son the c-word to describe women?

It's called sarcasm. Silly me, I thought that came across pretty well considering the rest of the sentence. And it actually happen, I'm sure you *BF IS DISGUSTING!!11!!!!* chicks will be happy to know, as DH was teasing about how I was going to nurse until DS was old enough to say *Hey Ma! I want some titty! Gimme the titty now!*

And I really don't have to worry about it happening in Target. Or anywhere else for that matter. I guess it comes from not being an uptight old housefrau who's grossed out by a natural human process. My older son is perfectly capable of pointing to some random woman's chest and saying Boobs, but he doesn't. Obviously all the teaching we've given him about appropriate behavior is a waste of time and any day now he'll walk up to some woman and demand to see her boobs.

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Anonymous wrote:I always say *Want nurse?* but thanks to DH the 2 y/o cries for *Tittay*.

NOW THIS if freaking dysfunctional.

I'm the PP you're quoting.... and why is that? Not that it would be any of your business, but I'm not whipping them out on demand to feed him. He only nurses 1x a day, right before bed. When he's hungry or thirsty any other time he says *I eat*. Do I wish my husband hadn't been teasing me and taught him a fun new word? Sure. But its not like I have to worry about him saying it in the middle of the grocery store. And if he did, so what? He's 2.

I don't care where or how you feed him. I think it's demeaning that your DH taught your son to refer to your breasts that way. Plus, you DO have to worry about him asking for your "Tittays" as you push the cart through Target. You really do. Worse, what if he points to some other woman's chest and says "Tittay!" Do you think that person won't care?

It's hard to believe that anyone would think that "titty" is a fun new word for a two-year-old. I wonder how long before her husband teaches his son the c-word to describe women?

It's called sarcasm. Silly me, I thought that came across pretty well considering the rest of the sentence. And it actually happen, I'm sure you *BF IS DISGUSTING!!11!!!!* chicks will be happy to know, as DH was teasing about how I was going to nurse until DS was old enough to say *Hey Ma! I want some titty! Gimme the titty now!*

And I really don't have to worry about it happening in Target. Or anywhere else for that matter. I guess it comes from not being an uptight old housefrau who's grossed out by a natural human process. My older son is perfectly capable of pointing to some random woman's chest and saying Boobs, but he doesn't. Obviously all the teaching we've given him about appropriate behavior is a waste of time and any day now he'll walk up to some woman and demand to see her boobs.

Rock on with your tittay loving self!

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Anonymous wrote:I always say *Want nurse?* but thanks to DH the 2 y/o cries for *Tittay*.

NOW THIS if freaking dysfunctional.

I'm the PP you're quoting.... and why is that? Not that it would be any of your business, but I'm not whipping them out on demand to feed him. He only nurses 1x a day, right before bed. When he's hungry or thirsty any other time he says *I eat*. Do I wish my husband hadn't been teasing me and taught him a fun new word? Sure. But its not like I have to worry about him saying it in the middle of the grocery store. And if he did, so what? He's 2.

I don't care where or how you feed him. I think it's demeaning that your DH taught your son to refer to your breasts that way. Plus, you DO have to worry about him asking for your "Tittays" as you push the cart through Target. You really do. Worse, what if he points to some other woman's chest and says "Tittay!" Do you think that person won't care?

It's hard to believe that anyone would think that "titty" is a fun new word for a two-year-old. I wonder how long before her husband teaches his son the c-word to describe women?

It's called sarcasm. Silly me, I thought that came across pretty well considering the rest of the sentence. And it actually happen, I'm sure you *BF IS DISGUSTING!!11!!!!* chicks will be happy to know, as DH was teasing about how I was going to nurse until DS was old enough to say *Hey Ma! I want some titty! Gimme the titty now!*

And I really don't have to worry about it happening in Target. Or anywhere else for that matter. I guess it comes from not being an uptight old housefrau who's grossed out by a natural human process. My older son is perfectly capable of pointing to some random woman's chest and saying Boobs, but he doesn't. Obviously all the teaching we've given him about appropriate behavior is a waste of time and any day now he'll walk up to some woman and demand to see her boobs.

Oh, well, I guess we all missed the sarcasm since you're mixing up replies from several different posters.

[Anonymous]

I always say *Want nurse?* but thanks to DH the 2 y/o cries for *Tittay*.

Eh, sometimes we say things in front jokingly of DS that we don't really want him to repeat and he becomes obsessed with them. It doesn't seem fair to portray this woman's husband as a terrible person because of it - he was probably just kidding around.

[Anonymous]

Really? Then perhaps this is not the board for you.

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Lot of anger in this post. It amazes me how angry women get over other women's choices. I'm still nursing my 14 month old because it is good for her (the antibodies in the milk are good for her and it is a healthy way to soothe her). I'm doing what is the right thing for my kid, but I don't care what anyone else does. By the way, nursing doesn't help me lose weight and my breasts don't look any different now than after I weaned my first daughter (at 13 1/2 months).

To those who have an issue with this...it isn't about you. Why care? You know that nursing doesn't create sociopaths or problems for society, let's be reasonable. Nursing is a completely healthy, normal thing. There is nothing wrong with nursing a baby or a toddler. I think every woman disgusted with nursing a toddler in this thread knows that on some level their disgust and discomfort with something that does not impact them and about which they should not waste their time being disgusted by is really about issues they have with themselves/women in general. Otherwise why care?

No really, ask yourself, why do I care that women I don't even know choose to continue to nurse their children? Why does it make me so angry? If I feel that they are self-righteous why do I let that bother me? If I feel comfortable with my decisions why do I let the decisions of others make me so uncomfortable? How come I'm so mortified by another woman using her body in a normal way that should not be shameful? Nursing is good for children and it is normal.

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I always say *Want nurse?* but thanks to DH the 2 y/o cries for *Tittay*.

Eh, sometimes we say things in front jokingly of DS that we don't really want him to repeat and he becomes obsessed with them. It doesn't seem fair to portray this woman's husband as a terrible person because of it - he was probably just kidding around.

See? She gets it.

Maybe little miss *I can't follow more than one quote* just doesn't have the sort of marriage where you can joke with your partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lot of anger in this post. It amazes me how angry women get over other women's choices. I'm still nursing my 14 month old because it is good for her (the antibodies in the milk are good for her and it is a healthy way to soothe her). I'm doing what is the right thing for my kid, but I don't care what anyone else does. By the way, nursing doesn't help me lose weight and my breasts don't look any different now than after I weaned my first daughter (at 13 1/2 months).

To those who have an issue with this...it isn't about you. Why care? You know that nursing doesn't create sociopaths or problems for society, let's be reasonable. Nursing is a completely healthy, normal thing. There is nothing wrong with nursing a baby or a toddler. I think every woman disgusted with nursing a toddler in this thread knows that on some level their disgust and discomfort with something that does not impact them and about which they should not waste their time being disgusted by is really about issues they have with themselves/women in general. Otherwise why care?

No really, ask yourself, why do I care that women I don't even know choose to continue to nurse their children? Why does it make me so angry? If I feel that they are self-righteous why do I let that bother me? If I feel comfortable with my decisions why do I let the decisions of others make me so uncomfortable? How come I'm so mortified by another woman using her body in a normal way that should not be shameful? Nursing is good for children and it is normal.

Yknow, I think that most of these women, really don't feel that strongely about it. It's just nice to get on an anonymous forum and go at it with someone who can't enforce any repercussions on you for being an utter bitch.