Son starting to go over a girl’s house….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms and consent. Having navigated this recently with a 15 yr old couple, they are communicating constantly via chat and since we still have access to the apps can see there is regular check in about consent. When they started spending time together we bought the first box of condoms and went over the need to use. They buy their own now. There is nothing wrong with sexual activity in a healthy committed relationship. Frankly there is nothing wrong with teens exploring in non-committed relationships either, but what is happening is fine with both sets of parents. And we speak regularly as parents because there are things teenagers need outside of their teenage relationships.

A 15 year old couple? And you are promoting this? Wow.

And all of the parents are discussing this and monitoring their chats. It's unsettling.

Basically encouraging their 15 year olds to engage in intimate relations!

OH, they'll do it, support or not!

Of course they will if their parents are providing condoms, giving them a room, letting them shut the door, and encouraging them to do so! This is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Condoms and consent. Having navigated this recently with a 15 yr old couple, they are communicating constantly via chat and since we still have access to the apps can see there is regular check in about consent. When they started spending time together we bought the first box of condoms and went over the need to use. They buy their own now. There is nothing wrong with sexual activity in a healthy committed relationship. Frankly there is nothing wrong with teens exploring in non-committed relationships either, but what is happening is fine with both sets of parents. And we speak regularly as parents because there are things teenagers need outside of their teenage relationships.

A 15 year old couple? And you are promoting this? Wow.

And all of the parents are discussing this and monitoring their chats. It's unsettling.

I think it’s worse that they are reading their texts - not that they are having sex. That’s going to happen whether you want it to or not.

Did your parents creep into your teen phone calls and listen to everything?

It’s so overbearing and creepy.

And teens and tech are always 2-3 steps ahead of parents. Always. If they know you are looking, they will text what you want to see and make fake accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. When my now 17 started hanging out with her boyfriend (she was 14.5) and he invited her to his house, his mom texted me, introduced herself and told me she was going to be there, working. They were together for 2.5 years and we had a goos relationship with his parents, not close by any means, just communicative.

Same here. My daughter, 14, has a boyfriend who is also 14. His mom and I communicate via text before the 2 of them hang out. We discuss where they're meeting up and what time, and if it's at one of our homes, who else is going to be there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Condoms and consent. Having navigated this recently with a 15 yr old couple, they are communicating constantly via chat and since we still have access to the apps can see there is regular check in about consent. When they started spending time together we bought the first box of condoms and went over the need to use. They buy their own now. There is nothing wrong with sexual activity in a healthy committed relationship. Frankly there is nothing wrong with teens exploring in non-committed relationships either, but what is happening is fine with both sets of parents. And we speak regularly as parents because there are things teenagers need outside of their teenage relationships.

A 15 year old couple? And you are promoting this? Wow.

And all of the parents are discussing this and monitoring their chats. It's unsettling.

Basically encouraging their 15 year olds to engage in intimate relations!

OH, they'll do it, support or not!

Of course they will if their parents are providing condoms, giving them a room, letting them shut the door, and encouraging them to do so! This is disgusting.

It is not “encouraging” if you simply let the boy know condoms are available in the home.

That’s just basic safer-sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Condoms and consent. Having navigated this recently with a 15 yr old couple, they are communicating constantly via chat and since we still have access to the apps can see there is regular check in about consent. When they started spending time together we bought the first box of condoms and went over the need to use. They buy their own now. There is nothing wrong with sexual activity in a healthy committed relationship. Frankly there is nothing wrong with teens exploring in non-committed relationships either, but what is happening is fine with both sets of parents. And we speak regularly as parents because there are things teenagers need outside of their teenage relationships.

A 15 year old couple? And you are promoting this? Wow.

And all of the parents are discussing this and monitoring their chats. It's unsettling.

Basically encouraging their 15 year olds to engage in intimate relations!

OH, they'll do it, support or not!

Of course they will if their parents are providing condoms, giving them a room, letting them shut the door, and encouraging them to do so! This is disgusting.

It is not “encouraging” if you simply let the boy know condoms are available in the home.

That’s just basic safer-sex.

Which you are encouraging a 15 year old couple to engage in. Gross

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Condoms and consent. Having navigated this recently with a 15 yr old couple, they are communicating constantly via chat and since we still have access to the apps can see there is regular check in about consent. When they started spending time together we bought the first box of condoms and went over the need to use. They buy their own now. There is nothing wrong with sexual activity in a healthy committed relationship. Frankly there is nothing wrong with teens exploring in non-committed relationships either, but what is happening is fine with both sets of parents. And we speak regularly as parents because there are things teenagers need outside of their teenage relationships.

A 15 year old couple? And you are promoting this? Wow.

And all of the parents are discussing this and monitoring their chats. It's unsettling.

Basically encouraging their 15 year olds to engage in intimate relations!

. This issue is that you are putting an age on it, when it is more a maturity issue. At that age maturity levels and life experience vary widely. There are plenty of 15 year olds with the maturity of a lot of 18 year old and there are plenty of 18 year olds with the maturity of a 14 year old. I don't think we do a good job of explaining/teaching the difference between intimacy and sex.

There are teens who are mature enough to have an intimate meaningful relationship that builds to PIV and there are teens that aren't. Allowing two consenting people to explore this isn't disgusting it is a step in the maturing process that is not dictated by age, you can guide and discuss as a parent. There are also teens who can handle casual sex and those that can't, its figuring ones self out with the least amount of damage.

[Anonymous]

OP - just go with him to the girls house.

Problem solved!