Son starting to go over a girl’s house….

[Anonymous]

What would girl moms appreciate from me as the boy’s mom. They will both be entering HS next year. This is new for me so would love all of the thoughts. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.

This and scrupulously obey house rules. Especially as to closed doors.

[Anonymous]

Make sure he knows about birth control and other sex ed stuff like consent, not being selfish, etc.

[Anonymous]

Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?

[Anonymous]

Tell him NEVER to be alone with a girl. They will lie about what happens and talk at school. If she ends up pregnant she’ll blame him even though she sleeps around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him NEVER to be alone with a girl. They will lie about what happens and talk at school. If she ends up pregnant she’ll blame him even though she sleeps around.

I don’t understand how this is a sustainable approach to life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?

No. It's his parents' job to know what he's up to and have a trusting, communicative relationship with him.

[Anonymous]

Oh dear. He’s not even a freshman and you’re allowing this crap?

[Anonymous]

talk to him about safe ***

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?

Yes, and to make sure an adult is there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh dear. He’s not even a freshman and you’re allowing this crap?

Oh dear indeed! How dare teenagers consider having a relationship!

What's your problem exactly PP? This is totally developmentally appropriate and in fact a lot of counselors/psychologists are concerned about the lack of IRL relationships among teens these days and what it means. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend teaches kids many important things things and gives them companionship, happiness, and potentially joy and love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.

This. No sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?

Yes, I prefer contact and to know you are there supervising.

[Anonymous]

My DD 16 had a boy (her crush) over a lot last school year. I would have appreciated it if the mom had reached out to me simply to exchange numbers so that we could communicate if needed.
I gave this kid rides all year and he and DD hung out regularly. DD never went to his house. I wonder if his parents even knew where he was. Sometimes he was over past midnight.